Why do some couples postpone child birth?
By subathra
@subathra (3519)
India
February 1, 2008 10:13am CST
Immediately after marriage some are willing to have baby. But most boys like to postpone 1-2 years for baby. But the parent of the girl is adamant to make sure that their daughter gets a baby in time.
But its true that even some girls don’t prefer to have child immediately after marriage and keep postponing the pregnancy for a year or so..But They should take proper medication so that they don’t face any complication when they need to have a child after postponement.
Otherwise it is an headache for the parents as well as for the girl if suppose conceiving gets delayed and the people who lives in the surrounding also say this and that when the pregnancy gets postponed.
But nowadays boys are not very much happy to have a child as soon as after their marriage. It is always better I feel like those days to have a child and make postponement for the next child. This will help the girl to bring up the child in a proper manner.
Whatever said and done, it is in order to make a decision of both the boy and girl when they should have baby after their marriage. Let the rest gossip themselves whatever they think.
6 responses
@rb200406 (1824)
• India
8 Feb 08
I have been married for the last 1 & half year with no issue.Many of my friends to have not yet have child.You know this is more to do with the financial aspect.Nowadays is it a fortune to bring up a child .Do you know how much fees the schools take ?It is really not affordable. Also it takes time to settle in a marriage mentally.Also there is no job security or anything in market.So people find it stressful to start family immediately.I personally haven't had eagerness to hav ebaby as yet.I donno why but i don't have that inclination mentally.
@SViswan (12051)
• India
6 Feb 08
First, I think the decision on when to have a child should be left to the people are going to have the baby....no one ...not even the parents of the couple has a right to decide on that. And what is the right time to have a baby?
Biologically, doctors say that around 24-25 is the right time for the girl to concieve the first child...but that doesn't mean that everyone needs to have a baby then...the financial condition might not be right...the couple might not be ready for the responsibility of a child...there are so many things to be considered before having a baby.
I really don't understand what you need to be discussed because you said the reasons and you also said that the girl and boy should decide for themselves.
@GloomCookieLex (6073)
• United States
1 Feb 08
What are you supposed to have a child "in time" for? "In time" for what? That makes no sense.
Why shouldn't married couples wait to have children? Why shouldn't they be allowed to have a few years to themselves, to enjoy each other?
Why do they have to have kids at all? Childbearing is a choice, not a requirement. No one has to have kids ever if they don't want to.
@Madona1 (2096)
• Gibraltar
2 Feb 08
I think it is a very wise decision that some couples postpone their child birth. Firstly, they can have some fun and carry on enjoying their own romantic world that they will never have again once they have children. Secondly, they can build up better and stronger finance if they married young. When they have children, it will be much easier to deal with everything financially. I believe these two factors affect some couples postpone their child birth.
@mensab (4200)
• Philippines
1 Feb 08
there are reasons why couples postpone child birth. as far as i know, there is an economic consideration for that. raising a child nowadays is costly. so the couple may opt to save more to prepare for their child's future. there is also a romantic side of it. the couple would like to spend more time with each other before they get busy with their child.
