Giving Up

We have a loving and caring God. Whatever you do, he will help guide you and protect you. If you cannot stay with your husband, because he makes you feel miserable or you feel as if you go through hell with him, then it is not worth it. You are worth more than that. You cannot subject yourself to guilt and stay with someone who makes you cry. Follow your heart, God will understand.

I have been through that misery before. Though he only hit me once, but he has been irresponsible and dependent. I thought I don't wanna give a damn live a miserable life with him anymore. Until I left him, and I saw how his life plunged after 6 months. Even if he had a job, he looked like he never eats his meal and he never slept at all. He said he was sorry, and he wanted to keep us. I told him what changes I would want from him. And he willingly changed his attitude and outlook in life. I decided to give him another chance. I still love him though, I also love our children, who missed him so much, and I love God who answered my prayer by giving me a sign on how to decide on our relationship. Just continue praying. Keep your faith in God, just tell Him what you really wanted to happen. Good people don't need change, it's the bad people who need to change, and God can make that happen. It's good to hear that you value God's commandment. Just think about what will make you happy and lift that up to Him.

I don't think that you should go back to your husband if he really has put you through alot of hard times during the marriage! I really don't think that God would look down on you for leaving and getting a divorce if the man was mean to you or something...(like you said he put you throughalot of hard times so Im guessing that he was mean to you or something like that...sorry if i was wrong about that)I think that God really does want you to be happy no matter what and if that means getting a divorce I think that is what he would want!

to be honest with you i live by the saying follow your heart and you will never get lost you have to do what you feel is right god will understand this could be a test how can you live with yourself in miseary for the rest of your life you need to do what you feel is right and live happy no matter what

well you've been separated for almost four years now from your husband..and from takin relationship classes and things of that nature i'm pretty sure he's done some ungodly things like for example he's had to have slept with another woman and thats adultery and god does not believe in that so therfore if that has happened thats grounds for a divorce and that will not make u look bad in gods eyes at all. my mother divorced my father on those terms.

I can't imagine a God who would want others to be unhappy. I know of and heard of many cases where people stayed in marriages even abusive ones because of their faith. I am not sure what your religion teaches, but what i was taught is that if you divorce you shouldn't remarry unless the other half has past away. personally i wouldn't encourage anyone to stay in a relation where they arent happy. i have always learned that my instincts are right, trust yours!! sorry i can't be of more help

I hope by now you know a little more of what you need to do, and have been Praying about it. What you might need to do, is seek a Counselor, or discuss this with your Pastor and friend in the Lord who would understand what you are going thru. Sometimes there are things going on that might be best off when discussed with a good friend in the Lord. Just remember no matter what you do or decide, God is in control, and everything always works out for the best.

Live your life the way will make you and others happy, not like you're in jail. God didnt gives live to suffer. How many years you have more to live? dont waist your days in some one who doesnt deserve it. Just do somehting for yourself and others, God is good and love not sorrow and pain. God wont hurt you for choosing to live your life in happiness. Good luck

hi there, Im so sorry about your situation. First off I'd like to say that I really respect you for wanting to follow God commandments. So many people don't care, and so I have a lot of respect for you! And I didn't want to post and give a personal oppinoin of what you should do, but I did want to point out to you that there is a scripture in the Bible that tells a person what their grounds for divorce are... Its at Matthew 19:9 and it shows that if your husband has slept with someone else then you scripturally have the right to divorce him and remarry and you wouldnt be breaking Gods laws. But otherwise then you could seperate from him or divorce him but the scriptures say you wouldnt have the right to remarry unless he has cheated on you.

I got divorced also and it was very difficult because I did take my vows very seriously. God is very forgiving and would not want any of us to be so unhappy. Have you sought councelling from your church on how you are feeling about this?

First I'm sorry your going thu this, But you need to is follow your heart,If the marriage isnt good then why stay,you wouldnt be happy, there would be tension all the time,the fighting,and just being unhappy,sad and crying alot. oh and girl the stress which also isnt healthy everyone deserves to be happy, In my opinion God will forgive you, I think he would want you to be happy,Don't you?

if you don't love your husband than you shouldn't try again. Maybe if you feel you could love him again then try but a woman always knows if that's possible or not. If you stay with a wrong man you will probably be sorry for it after some years. I have almost done the same mistake several years ago with a boyfriend who loved me and didn't wanna let me go so i wanted to stay with him although I didn't love him but I gave up fighting. Today, I can't imagine my life with him and how miserable I'd be. I know that marriage is a different type of commitment and that here God is involved, if you believe he is, but there's that old saying that if you help yourself God will help you too. I don't think you should be unhappy because you think God thinks you should be, I am sure that God doesn't want people to be unhappy and to suffer. It's you decision but just try to imagine your life 5 or 10 years from now. do you see yourself with him?

Please don't give up. I am a christian and divorced. My wife filed for divorce due to my inconsistencies. See my wife did all she could with our marriage and I failed. I felt confused about everything, but it was what I had caused. Have you saught counseling from your chaplain our pastor? We don't have a punishing god he forgives our sins and remember we are made of the flesh, we are sinners by nature. Love is a powerful thing as I look back I was not truly a christian. I had become a member of a big church so that they would accept us for their marriage class. It was all for show and the marraige failed. You seem like a devoted wife, please be strong and follow your heart,talk to your friends and family.God will support you ,when we are weak He is strong. Bye for now

Please don't give up. I am a christian and divorced. My wife filed for divorce due to my inconsistencies. See my wife did all she could with our marriage and I failed. I felt confused about everything, but it was what I had caused. Have you saught counseling from your chaplain our pastor? We don't have a punishing god he forgives our sins and remember we are made of the flesh, we are sinners by nature. Love is a powerful thing as I look back I was not truly a christian. I had become a member of a big church so that they would accept us for their marriage class. It was all for show and the marraige failed. You seem like a devoted wife, please be strong and follow your heart,talk to your friends and family.God will support you ,when we are weak He is strong. Bye for now

maybe thats the main reason why i never got married even if i got proposals..i'm afraid it will not work out and i could never get out..but i completely felt like its so much unfair that we can never get out of the marriage even if we know some are not happy with it anymore..but then again we don't have the right to question God after all...we're living in an unfair world..but somehow i am thinking maybe God will understand..He is an understanding God and He doesn't want us living in misery and pain...if we just ask for His permission and pray hard of asking forgiveness for breaking his commandments then maybe He will understand...he alwasy does...

i don't really get what you want to say, but i have a hint of what you are trying to say. although it sounds like you know your choices, "what is right and what feel right." and you are confused and in turmoil because you know what should be done. you will feel at peace if you do what you believe is right, and not what youu fell is right. best wishes and keep on praying.

You have to be happy in life, if you both do not love each other anymore then there is no point trying to rekindle your marriage. However if there is the slighest bit of love left, I think seek counselling and go for it. Don't feel too guilty about not sticking to your vows, this is very common these days. Unfortunately alot of marriages today are not succeeding. I am sure you can ask for god's forgiveness. Look after yourself, do what is right for you, follow your heart.

to be honest with you i live by the saying follow your heart and you will never get lost you have to do what you feel is right god will understand this could be a test how can you live with yourself in miseary for the rest of your life you need to do what you feel is right and live happy no matter what

follow you heart. why stay with your husband if you are miserable? God will understand you if you break your sacred vows because i'm sure He does'nt want you to live a miserable life.