How Can A Person Fall Out Of Love? Do You Think That This Is Possible?

United States
February 2, 2008 11:19am CST
When I was younger I couldn't not believe that it was possible to fall out of love if you were truly in love. As I got older I came to realize that it is not so much a falling out of love as the changing in people in a relationship. It doesn't matter if this is in marriage or in just relationships. Sometimes it is hard for people to accept this and if they don't grow and accept along with their pardner--there lies the problem. I can see now that people can fall out of love without the proper nurshing of each other. I read this article and it is a good one that ties in with my discussion. Read it and tell me what your thoughts are on it?
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@polachicago (18716)
• United States
2 Feb 08
You mentioned an article, but no link. I don't think we fall out of love. Maybe we can discovered that it was only lure, not love.
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@ESKARENA1 (18261)
2 Feb 08
i agree, sometimes we can spend a lot of time thinking we are in love, only to realise eventually that it was really only lust blessed be
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• United States
2 Feb 08
I had gone to another discussion and realized that I had not put the link on here. The link is: http://www.beliefnet.com/story/196/story_19657_1.html
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
3 Feb 08
I used to wander this also because pople would get married and some would cheat on each other or something and get divorced. I can see with the ever changing world that people are meeting each other and using one another. They easily say I love you for a one night stand and move on.Some of them stay together for a wile and think they love one another until they meet someone new or better. I think the word love is taken too lightly these days. I think we can all love a person but it takes alot of committment to make the love last on both ends.
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
4 Feb 08
Same here. I have been told I love you so many times and been treated so badly by that same person. They do not know what love is or what it means when they say it. That is not love to me. You cannot love someone and hurt them intentionally at the same time.
• United States
3 Feb 08
I agree the word Love is taken too lightly. I don't think I know what t is anymore I've been hurt a few times and they think if they say I LOVe YOU that it makes everything alright again.
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
3 Feb 08
good question, yes if a person can fall in love then they can fall out of it as well, I don't love you anymore is a valid statement sometimes two people are still very much in love but cannot work out their problems as well
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@ESKARENA1 (18261)
2 Feb 08
no, I dont think it is possible to fall out of love. However, i do think after a while, infactuation stops immitating love and we realise we were never in love in the first place blessed be
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@ESKARENA1 (18261)
20 Mar 08
well thankyou for your best response, always greatly appreciated
@qiao522 (449)
• China
3 Feb 08
The article said when the author was younger,he didn't believe falling out of love is possible.But when he got older he changed his mind. So as I can learn of this question is the only factor that suppose to determines the answer is the age.
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@KevCSE (13)
• Mauritius
3 Feb 08
Yes of course this is possible. how do I know that? well because because i have experienced that. Sometimes you just get a crush on somebody and then forgets about him/her. one day, i have come across a girl. So whats so special you will tell me? What was special was that she was not just a simple and ordinary girl when I first saw her. The second my eyes got on her, they were stuck and could not move them away. Still following? Well, not only my eyes could not get off of her, but my breathing stopped, was shaking, i could not talk,I was petrified! Not with fear but with something that I now know as being LOVE! Still, time and circumstances together with the lack of opportunity to see her, we ended up apart. Sad, but thats life. When u think u've found soulmate, it is then that she disappears.
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@jason1287 (151)
• United States
3 Feb 08
i think that some women fall out of love the same way that little boys realize that their dad isnt superman. when the excitment and amazemant leaves a relationship some women will move on. for men, however, it is different. when men really falls in love it is a really deep thing. even if it is based on, not so deep, a reason. and he will overlook cheating or anything as long as that one thing still exists. but no matter how stupid that thing may seem to you, the moment it is gone, he will try to find it no matter what. even if it means finding someone else.
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• United States
2 Feb 08
I see love as a flame. Sometimes it rains and the flame dwindles but doesn't go out. But every once in a while, a massive Tsunami strikes and there's really nothing you can do about it.
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@jhl930 (3601)
• United States
2 Feb 08
I actually have mixed feelings about this....I do think that it is possible to fall out of love because if you have someone and they are always mean to you and always cheat on you or something like that you are eventually going to start to fall out of love with them after a little while because they dont really care about them! And on the other hand I think that if you really do love and care about someone that it would be really hard to actually fall out of love with them because if you love them you must care alot about them and you cant just turn it off like that!