Dedication To A Spouse---My Mom Is Amazing! Is There This Kind Of Love Today?
By sunshinelady
@sunshinelady (7609)
United States
February 2, 2008 11:52am CST
My Dad passed away many years ago and my Mom is still in love deeply with him. She talks about the things they did when he was alive and how she always did things to please him. Although she also told me she got her own way a lot of times simply by letting him think that the idea was his. She said to her it didn't matter who got the credit. The idea was done her way and so what she didn't get the credit for it. She didn't care. She has never even desired to be with a man after Dad died. She has always said that she was a one man women and there could never be any man that could fill Dad's shoe. What a amazing women--my Mom!
Dad and Mom had been together for over 50 years before Dad died and when you watched them they just fit together.
4 responses
@copswife62 (156)
• United States
2 Feb 08
Let your mom have her memories, and talk about them. She was with this man over 50 years!!! For most folks, that more than 1/2 of their lives!! She was obviously very much in love with him, and still is. Love doesn't die just because one person does. Each of us grieves differently over a loss - let your mom grieve. She may grieve for the rest of her life, understandably so. Remember....over 50 years of being with this man day and and day out, sharing everything, getting through rough times, having babies together, making memories together.
This man was your mom's soulmate, her man, her lover, her sweetheart, her companion, her friend...she's lost all those. That must be devastating, beyond our comprehension.
Let your mom talk. Let her remember what was probably the greatest love of her life. Let her express her feelings, and dream at night that her love is still there with her. This was her life, her love, her husband...she deserves to still be in love with him, remember him and talk about him.
Especially since she is one of the lucky rare people who managed to have a marriage last that long.
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@sunshinelady (7609)
• United States
3 Feb 08
You misunderstand this discussion. I think it is wonderful that she had that kind of love and still loves my Dad. When I visit her she talks about him and the things they did in their life together. This was discussion was not meant to say she shouldn't do it. I am fascinated by the stories she tells of her and Dad's life together. I spend hours listening to her and never get tired of them. I love my Mom very much and she is a very happy person. She is the happiest person I have ever seen. She greets everyone with a smile and a hi.
@copswife62 (156)
• United States
3 Feb 08
Aha! Indeed, I did misunderstand. Thank you for clarifying that.
I'm glad you enjoy hearing your mom's tales. It's stories and "lessons in love" you can pass down to the next generation of your family.
Your folks were lucky...blessed. Rarely do we hear of couples being married this long. What great stories you'll have to tell your children and grandchildren!!
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@sunshinelady (7609)
• United States
3 Feb 08
She is a very special and extraordinary person. She takes things in stride and never lets anything get her down. My grandkids absolutely love her.
@valerie37 (1002)
• Christiansburg, Virginia
3 Feb 08
If only all loves could be like that. It sounds like they really had something special.
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@sunshinelady (7609)
• United States
3 Feb 08
They did have something special. And she absolutely glows when she is talking about Dad and the things that they did while he was alive.
@sunshinelady (7609)
• United States
3 Feb 08
I feel that way. We almost lost her a few months back. It was touch and go. She lost her colon. She has bounced back and is as fiesty as ever. I went to visit her today and she looks great. She is 86 but looks more like she is in her late 60's. She always has a smile on her face and greets everyone with a hi and how are you.
