Dealing with a man with a HUGE EGO
By dlkuku
@dlkuku (1935)
United States
February 2, 2008 7:47pm CST
I am usually pretty outgoing and friendly with people, and try to be nice to people I am not very fond of, but there is this man at work that I just can't, can't, can't be friendly too.
What's the problem?
For one thing, I heard him talk untrue trash about one of my friends, and I guess I resent that, since this person acts like Mr. Righteous.
The second thing, which really sticks in my craw is his ego.
And I just can't see myself stroking his ego when he is doing such a fine job of it himself.
One day, not long ago, he was talkingt to another co-worker and telling them how he teaches karate, while looking straight at me.
Like I was supposed to be impressed.
Gag.
There have been many instances like this, and yes, he has a following of giggling women, and I don't plan on being one of them.
So I pretty much ignore him.
The funny thing is, that I was told I am driving him nuts because I don't pay any attention to him.
Even when he tries to start a conversation with him, I can't help myself, I end up rolling my eyes and walking away.
Rude, yes, I admit it, and I am sure he is thinking that I am a real B****.
I'm not really, I don't normally treat people this way, I just can't seem to help myself when it comes to this man.
But he seems to be getting more persistent in gaining my attention than he was previously.
I am so not interested, so maybe it's just the whole, 'he wants what he can't have' thing.
So what do I do now, keep ignoring him? Keep walking away?
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7 responses
@sid556 (30953)
• United States
3 Feb 08
People that come across like that usually are deep down very insecure. It is probably bugging him that you are obviously NOT interested in him. I would continue to ignore him but if he does ask you what about him that you don't like, I think that you should be strait up with him. People really don't see themselves as others do. You don't have to be mean about it but just tell him what you've told us.
@xXxMikesWifeyxXx (3072)
• United States
3 Feb 08
ROFL!!! i like this story:P..im the same way. everyone thinks i am unable to be mean to somoene. but there is just that onhe eprson that everytime i look at them i just feel like cringing, i cant stand the site of them... just tell him straight forward, look i dont like you. i cant even stand the site of you. so please just leave me alone and go talk to your giggling girly's thanks! oh an have a nice day:D....LMAO.
goodluck~
xoxoxbritt
@jhl930 (3601)
• United States
3 Feb 08
He may be acting that way because you implied that he may want more than friendship with you and all you want from him is friendship...and whenever some guys get "shotdown" they start acting a little different...sometimes like they dont want you because they know that they cant have you. And some guys just get all rude with you becuase they think that you should just fall all over them or something like that and when you don't they get their egos bruised and they just start treating you like the outcast...I hate that its happening to you!
@happybroomstick (2)
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3 Feb 08
Yes and yes. Ignore him and walk away. From you story i see that he really wants to impress you/get your attention.. and you're actually giving him your attention (what he wants) by being irritated with what he's doing. i think if you completely ignore him, implying that you're not really interested, eventually he will stop. you see, you don't have to try to be nice to people you dont like, but you shouldn't be rude either. ignoring him doesn't mean you're being rude, you're just being civil. you wouldnt want to hurt his feelings by saying straight to his face that you don't like him right? so there.. the best thing to do, in my opinion, is to ignore him.
@WhiteDoveLost (139)
• United States
3 Feb 08
Ugh, I know the type. The more you ignore the more they want it. Face it, there isn't much to do. It's a Catch 22. If it becomes too much, be sure to tell someone higher than the two of you, so that maybe they can put him into place and tell him to back off. Yeah. It's a crappy situation.
@marilynlynn (994)
• United States
3 Feb 08
Well, I'm not sure if you believe in GOD or not, but if it were me, I'd pray about it. God does answer prayer's, if you'd really pray about it.I'm not saying that you haven't prayed about it, but if you already have, then let God deal w/it. :o) Hopefully everything will work out......... take-care.
