Anxiety and Anger

I've had issues most of my life. I've seen therapists, counselors, psychologists, been on various meds. Mine went undiagnosed for years because I kept blaming myself as just "emotional", not having been brought up to "socialize", and thus not knowing HOW to socialize... Anyway, after all these years, and much much soul searching, I see it as both. I am a product of my upbringing, what I taught myself, and the experiences of my adult life, which often didn't turn out well because of the stresses...who knows.... excuses, excuses... I find I explode when I haven't recognized how much "pressure" I feel under. Two things have helped me... The med I am now on... "Cymbalta", and years of self help and spiritual books. It took a divorce, and 2 years of being alone to realize I could take care of myself... and in that learning to take care of myself, and love myself, because I thought the possibility existed that no one else ever might again... I found a measure of peace... To say... to heck with it... feeling this bad isn't worth it... I'm not going to beat myself up anymore... I'm not going to beat anyone else up anymore... They say depression is anger turned against yourself... I'm rambling... sorry, guess I'm too tired to be coherant tonight... I would suggest this book: Faith in the Valley by Iyanla Vanzant It's not preachy... It's about recognizing that life is ups and downs.. that it always changes... it never stays good all the time... but the good news is... it doesn't stay bad all the time either... you just need to have faith while you're in that valley that you'll make it through and come out again... When you stop being angry with yourself, and give yourself a break and some space... it is easier to not be angry with others

I had quite a bit of trouble with anxiety at one point and medication was a godsend to me as well. I put off going to the doctor for quite awhile because I so wanted to be medication free. But sometimes the medication is the answer for this point in time. The anxiety, depression, and anger go hand in hand and I wouldn't even begin to diagnose why it does. If the problem gets so bad you're not sleeping, that only will make it worse. I hear you about retreating and avoiding the person and the problem. That was me for years and years. Much better now. I hope you find a way to deal with the issues at your younger age - this revelation you've had may be the start. Good luck. Whit

One of the most common manifestations of anxiety is anger, especially for men. Anger is a secondary emotion, meaning that it is reflective of some other emotion - fear or hurt/pain. It is quite treatable. So if it is a problem for you, see a therapist or talk to your physician. I have a friend who uses Valerian Root for anxiety and it seems to help a lot.

hun i sympathise with you as i know exactly what you are going through, i also suffer anxiety, depression and other mental helath problems, i never used to be an angry person, never used to let things get to me, but since ive had these illnesses i have found myself becoming extremely angry at the smallest things to the point where i feel like it will end up in physical violence if i dont remove myself from the situation. The littlest things can set me off like a simple trip to my supermarket, if someone leaves a trolley in the middle of the aisle etc.. i just cant explain what caused the change in me!!

My husband is the one who gets the brunt of it around here, poor guy! I never really thought about it being connected to my anxiety and depression but I think that you may have stumbled on to something. I can get extremely angry about the stupidest things. Even while I'm in the middle of one of these episodes I am thinking to myself "What are you so angry about you nutcase?" I have not been able to find a way to deal with these anger issues. Any ideas would be much appreciated!

Most time, its my work..with ontime deliveries and work loads. I try to divert mind on music and i feel better.