Why?
By goldeneagle
@goldeneagle (6745)
United States
February 3, 2008 9:31am CST
I don't know why this always seems to be the case, but am I the only one who feels this way???
People come to me for advice whenever they have problems or situations in their lives. I can usually look at things from a different angle or two for them, and give them a new way of thinking about stuff to give them a new direction or new ideas. SO, why cant I do this for myself???
I always seem to be able to solve problems for other people, even giving them advice financially, yet I can't seem to work out things in my own life, even if I try to "practice what I preach." Am I the only one who feels this way???
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8 responses
@sallysue (326)
• Canada
4 Feb 08
No, your not the only one. People I don't even know tell me their troubles. After confiding in me than they say "why did I tell you that, I don't even know you". I think the problem that your facing is that your sitting on the outside of your friends situations. It's easy to see things in different ways if your the onlooker. When it involves us personally it's hard to be objective I think it's because subconsciously we want things to go the way we want. I find the best things to do under this situation is to make a pro and con list. That way we can get a better chance to look at it.
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@Megodz (14)
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3 Feb 08
Dude join the club I don't ever get things i aim for but when i give someone advise about dating, school, finace they always seem to come out on top. Like i do practise all the time trying to get everything down so i'm as perfect for what i want as possible but i come up short some how
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@sissy67 (224)
• United States
6 Feb 08
Ur not alone on this one....Im the same way. I am a good listener but I also dont practice what I preach.
Its kinda like what they say about nurses.....Nurses are the worst patients...
LOL...I know that was goofy but thats what came to mind when I was typing this
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@my52cents (569)
• United States
3 Feb 08
I understand, goldeneagle. I'm a good listener and an encourager, or at least I try to be, but when I have a problem I really don't have anyone that I feel comfortable sharing with. (My mom comes closest, but there are some things you can't even tell your mom!) Be happy that you are an encourager - that's a gift! - and try to find someone who can do the same for you, someone who will listen and let you talk yourself through your own problems. Hey, you're doing that now!
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@Aingealicia (1905)
• United States
5 Feb 08
I never understand why that is. I do the same thing. It is irritating as all get out to be honest. It is amazing how life works and what it hands us don't you think?
Ainge
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@soham1357 (187)
• France
21 Feb 08
I know how you feel.I am usually great at giving people ideas and solutions,but when I have a problem I feel very helpless.I cannot ask anyone for help-something holds me back.Sometimes I ask myself,Am I being a hypocrite?Am I wrong to give people advices that I do not follow myself?
Anyway,know that you are not alone.
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@ellie333 (21016)
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21 Feb 08
I usually find this also but perhaps when we look at other peoples situations we are detached and can look at things more logically, however when it is ourselves of course we are emotionally involved in the situation so in a sense we are blinkered to the true answer. Ellie :D
@shoegirl55 (1)
• United States
1 Mar 08
i find myself in the same situation, so here's my advice to you, take a breath and before you look at you, remember there is ALWAYS a silver lining and there is always someone to hear what you feel or has experienced the same. I do get angry sometimes because I'm always there for others but most of the time it's not returned. So, add me to your list, sometimes the rocks do wear away and that's just the cycle of life. We all do better looking from the outside in, the two-way mirror never applies, we're human.
