cheating

I am so sorry that this has happened to you. I am 4 months pregnant and the father of my baby cheated on me 2 months ago. After a long talk he convinced me to give him one more chance. Right now he is doing so good but I think that you are right about that saying. It is always in the back of my mind that he is cheating and now I have just come to expect it. I know that I should take my own advice but you should just have her know that you cannot be played like that. Get a paternity test after the baby is born but I think that you should move on. It will probably always weigh heavily on your mind whether someone else could be the father and may cause unwanted problems in your relationship with the mother. I wish you the best of luck no matter what you choose.

Everybody deserves a second chance in my opinion....If she has been cheating on you and wasn't pregnant, maybe it is ok to give her a second chance ... But now that she's pregnant and there's no way to tell who's the father was, I think it may be best to find out who the baby belong to first...Its the least you could do as a man...

Yes you could say that but not all people are like that. You need to search deep and see if you can forgive her as well as love her and the baby unconditionaly even if it turns out that the baby is not yours. It takes more than sperm to be a father.If you cannot do this than it is better that you get out now rather than down the road.

Well then, I think you have just answered your own question. You love her and you are willing to try to make the relationship work, and you will love and raise that child as your own regardless. Not many would be willing to do that.

Wow, that would be a tough one. I guess you will have to discuss with her if you can make it work and rebuild the trust. Also are you willing to raise another man's child if it isn't yours. Honnestly, I think you have to look at your relationship with her first. Then regardless of what you decide, when the child is born, you will want to have DNA tests done. However, if you think you can get over the fact that she cheated, and you can love that child regardless of if you are it's biological father, you can marry her and according to most state laws, you will be that child's legal father as far as the law is concerned. You've got some tough choices to make. About all I can offer is to go with your heart. Do what feels right. If you think the relationship with her is not repairable, you can still get a DNA test done when she has the baby to determine if you are the father. If you are then you can still possibly have a good relationship with that child. If you are not, nothing ventured, nothing gained.