Do I ask him if I was invited to the wedding...
By juliemarie84
@juliemarie84 (642)
United States
February 4, 2008 1:25pm CST
I'll try to explain this as best I can without getting "too" lengthy.
I have been friends with this guy for 7 years. Him, my boyfriend, and I always did everything together in high school, and when he got out of the army my sophmore year of college we also spent a lot of time together.
He is getting married to a girl I knew in High School as well so basically I know both parties very well. He is essentially my boyfriends best friend, so you can only imagine the amount of time we've seen each other.
Well, he is getting married in 3 weeks and I have not received ANY formal invite. It really made me wonder, what the heck. I am still dating his friend. But my boyfriend DID NOT receive a formal invite either of his own. Some have said that since he didnt receive a "Mr. Smith and Guest" invite there is no way I could be invited as his guest as his significant other. However, my boyfriend IS indeed invited to the wedding AND the bachelor party. I was standing right next to my boyfriend when our friend said, "There wedding is on this day in our home town." It wasn't like he was keeping it a secret or was uncomfortable me hearing about it in any way. So now I don't know if I'm invited. My boyfriends parents got an invite and it basically said, To Mr. and Mrs X And Family.
I am almost afraid I wasn't invited because my boyfriends parents hate me and don't know we're together again then and the groom is avoiding an awkward situation, but my boyfriends family all ready stated this week they were NOT coming.
I guess it hurts to be close to someone for 7 years and then not get an invite while my boyfriend does. I've been to a lot of wedding and always had the option to bring that significant other as my guest.
Is there a way I can find out if I was informally invited because I know he doesn't know my current address as I just moved a month ago. Should my boyfriend just ask if he can bring his SO as his guest?
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@kykidd (6812)
• United States
4 Feb 08
Sounds to me like when the bf family received and invite that said and family that meant him too. And I bet he just assumes you'll be there since the bf will be there. I don't see him leaving you out. Sometimes things get hectic and people don't think that far into things. If you're still unsure and you're bf is too, I would go ahead and have him asked. But I would say that in your friend's mind, it's a given.
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@juliemarie84 (642)
• United States
4 Feb 08
yes, that's kind of what I was thinking. My boyfriend said the same exact thing. "He probably just assumes you're coming with me." Because we've been together forever. My friend had to cancel going to a concert with us next week because of the crazy wedding planning. I sort of figured he just assumed I'd be there too as I always have been there for things and my boyfriend and I are two peas in a pod, and people know that. But I just want to be 100% positive I guess. It's their day, not mine ya know so I don't want to ruin anything.
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@mjgarcia (725)
• United States
6 Feb 08
If you aren't comfortable asking him if you're allowed to come, have your boyfriend ask. (this may be the best course of action) I'm guessing that he assumes that you'll be there. I never got a formal invite from one of my best friends, but it was assumed that I'd come.
