Child Support....

Yes I do. They should have to help support a child financially whether they see the child or not. My son's father does not do either. He chooses not to see him and the child support is court ordered. I would care less about the child support if he bothered to take an active roll in my sons life.

I do think they should both be financially responsible but I don't see how taking away a driver's license or putting a parent in jail helps the situation. So far as seeing the child, if it's a matter of the custodial parent refusing visits for no reason other than spite then no, the other parent shouldn't have to pay. If it's b/c the non-custodial parent doesn't want to visit, then yes. Hubby had joint custody with his ex of their 14 year old son and she refused to let him see the son...threatening to call the police if he came by, she burned any letters or cards he sent and would call screaming at him constantly. The relationship between father and son is history. I don't think he should have to pay a dime but the state disagrees so they are taking out payments for the next 2 years. !!HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY!! **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~

Yes, the parent that doesn't have custody of the child should still pay child support, even if they don't see their child. It is the least any parent (that doesn't have custody) can do for their child.

If you are going to create a child then you are equally responsibile for supporting it. Regardless of if you see the child or not. In most cases, the court orders scheduled visitation. If the parent without residential custody doesn't want to make time for their child, that doesn't give them the right to abandon them financially as well as mentally and physically. In the case where they are denied visitation, there is usually a legitimate reason why the court will not grant visitation. That said, that still doesn't relieve the parent from supporting that child. Now, in the case where the parent with residential custody prevents the other parent from visitation, then the parent that doesn't have residential custody should make an attempt to get his/her visitation established. That is considered alienation of affection. It's illegal when there is an established court ordered visitation. But no, if you choose not to make efforts to see your child that still doesn't relieve you from helping to support it.

My opinion is...you make it...you pay for it. It doesn't matter who has acutal custody of the child. You still brought a child in the world, so it is still that person's responsibility to see it is well cared for. It doesn't matter if they see the child or not, they still should pay for it. If the person who has custody is making it difficult to see the child, then take it to the courts so that you can work out a decent visitation arrangement.

hi, I am new to this site and was checking out the discussions. This one hit home! I believe that if you have a child/ren, then yes you have a financial responsibility to them whether or not you see them. Especially if not seeing them is your own choice. I am a divorced mother of 3, and have been trying to get child support for my boys for almost 8 years, which is how long I have been apart from my ex. He has chosen to walk away from his children and basically forget that they exist, which is completely wrong. There have been many many times when I have not had enough money to buy decent groceries for my kids, or send them to school because they required bus fare. I work full time, but don't make a lot, and he could have helped tremendously, but chose not to, even though he inherited money and could easily have afforded it. But I do believe that regardless of the circumstances, parents have a financial obligation to their children.

I think that the parent who does not have custody should ALWAYS have financial responsibility no matter what. If they have visitation, so what? That child still needs a roof over their head and food in their stomach when they aren't with the non-custodial parent. And if they choose not to see the child, well I am SORRY, but that is NOT a decision you can just chose to make. You can choose to not be in that childs life, or have visitation.... if you do I think you are lower than pond scum, but that does NOT give you the right to no longer provide for that child financially. It takes two to make a baby, and I think that absentee parents need to get that through their head. Just because you are a piece of literal poo, in the meanest respect.... doesn't mean you should be able to keep your money for you. In fact I think that if the parent so chooses to not have a part in the child's life, they should have to pay MORE for the emotional damage done to the child. Or just for the child not having another parent in their life.

As the wife of some one who pays child support I can tell you first hand how hard it is. My husband sees his kids every weekend. We provide clothing at our house they have there own rooms with things that we purchased, toys that thye have received for presents and things we have purchased. When school time comes around we buy them each clothing and school supplies. When there birthdays come around we pay for half of the parties. We provide cupcakes for school and goodie bags. Next school year we will be paying to half of one of the childs private schooling. We pay a lot in child support and pay for a lot of other things too that are NOT in the custody papers. It is hard to see his paycheck cut in half and then we buy them things because there mother does not. I do feel that if you are the non custodial parent then you need to help. Do I think it should be half of your paycheck no. Instead of going by what the non custodial parent makes it should go by what the child needs. They don't look at the fact that she lives in a rent / mortgage free place with limited bills. Her car is her largest bill. Child support by defination is "half of the childs expences" We personally pay way more then that. and if we don't I would like proof. We keep every receipt and can't wait till the next hearing hoping that the courts will see what we do. Our next step is trying for us to be the custodial parent and her to the the weekend parent. I had a friend that was ordered to pay support and see his daughter on the weekends. Every time he went to pick her up they weren't home or some thing came up. So he started putting his child support in an escro account. When they went back to court he had all his money there and said when she lets me see my daughter i will more then happly give her the money. From that point they had a court supervisor meet them at a meeting place to be sure he got to see his daughter ... such a good ending doesn't always happen but some times the courts are on the dads side.

Even if as parent does not see their child than they should defiently still paying child support. It's a law in the united states. You make the baby, your helping pay for the baby. There are many laws and things that they will take from the absent parent if they do not pay after an order is issued. I know in my state that the absent parent has 21 days to pay all back child support, if they fail to do so they than go to jail that is unless the absent parent signs over all rights to the child. Other states revoke the drivers license when not paid.

Your question was a little bit vague but I will give you my viewpoint. My parents had to take custody from me because I was physically unable to take care of myself or others, stemming from a car accident. I was forced to pay support. So yes I think the non custodial should pay support. Right now, I am dealing with "daddy" not seeing his kid for over 3 yars, that is his fault and even if the custodial parent isn't allowing the non custodial to see the children, the non custodial parent should be taking this to court. If the non doesnt want to see them and is still paying support then thats what they should be doing. I have been dealing with this for 9 years.

I think everything should be equal when it comes to children and child support,but what do you do when you don't even know where the child is because the mother took off to another state when the baby was born and then 5 years later you get a letter saying you owe 5 years back support with no paternity test or anything is that fair?NO The custodial parent(s)aren't innocent of anything here they always try and screw over the other parent,how can you be a good parent when you have no clue where the child is?It really pisses me off how its always deadbeat dads,woman leave there children behind as well as men these days and they pay no support for them either,either way jail is not the answer or is taking the license away.

Yes they shopuld be for it took 2 to make the baby not just one and if the other parent doesnt want to see the child than that is their fault missing out on their childrens lives not yours. I know I have a 18 yr old son that his own father doesnt want anything to do with him. But he also has a younger brother by his father and another woman that his father dont want anything to do with. Whenever we get the chance to get my son younger brother for a few days he doesnt want to go back home to his parents because of his and his brother(my son )father. He has told me that I treat him more like a real son than his own mom and dad.He has even told my huisband now he treats hinm more like a son than his own father does and that he wishes that he could live with us. My ex-husband owes me child support for the past 17 1/2 yrs for our son.I have took him to court over and over again but nothing has helped. So yes the other parent should be made to pay support for the baby after all it took to to tango not one.

if u dont see the child......2 da jail!!!