I am so mad at my sister-in-law......
By snoopy04
@snoopy04 (718)
United States
February 4, 2008 4:03pm CST
Ok this is 99% discussion, 1% venting. I am so mad at my sister-in-law and I called my husband today and told him I am fixing to start world war 3. I had posted that my sister-in-law was thinking about taking her daughter to a different babysitter because I had put her in a timeout. Well her boyfriend called me today to inform me that they wouldnt be bringing her back and they werent going to pay me for the two days I kept her last week. He had a day off from Mcdonalds so they had to take her to the doctor because of a eye infection. So he called to inform me that it was my kids that made her sick and they werent bringing her back. They were going to find a babysitter that had no kids and who could give their undidvided attention to their daughter. He then told me that because he had to take off two days last week that I wasnt intitled to being paid. They chose to keep her because my kids were sick and they didnt want her to get any sicker. So she must have been sick to begin with right. He also said they had to buy some medicine from Walmart so my kids cost them money.
Yes my kids were sick and her daughter was around them for one day so now they say that I didnt try my hardest to keep my kids from making her sick.
Well I am really ticked off because one day she wasnt here was because he had a day off from Mcdonalds and the other two were due to my kids.
I want my money and I intend to get my money because she and her boyfriend are absolutly crazy.
I did my best to keep her away from my kids but I am not perfect. Those two are so irresponsible it makes me sick. When I had my kids I knew there would be sacrifices and I am willing to accept the fact that there are times when you have to stay at home and take care of your kids. Parenting is not a easy task but if you cant be a responsible parent you shouldnt have kids. You love them. take care of them, nuture them, provide food, clothing and shelter and most of all you sacrifice to make sure your kids have the best life possible.
When I take Zac to school I dont really like when kids cough on him or hug him with runny noses but I would never once blame the parent. That is just a fact of life. so you deal with a sick child and move on down the road.
What is she going to do when she is in school and is exposed to sick kids put her in a bubble or sue all the parents because they made her precious daughter sick.
What do you think, isnt that the most dumbest excuse you ever heard. I mean when you put your kids around other kids sooner or later they will get sick.
My husband is so upset because in his opinion his sister used me and took advantage of my generosity. He says he will not let anyone even his sister treat me this way.
So now I will start looking for ways to make money from home, and I will never help her again because no one will treat me like trash and then expects to just throw me away like that.
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12 responses
@onesiobhan (1327)
• Canada
5 Feb 08
Sounds to me like you are well rid of her. If it wasn't this, it would have been a fuss over something else.
@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
5 Feb 08
Oh well, you did need to vent. Reading it made me feel quite upset coz I could actually understand how you have been taken for a ride. Children will be children and you cant really quarantine them like that. When your sis-in-law left her child with you, she was fully aware that your own two children were unwell. What I mean to say is that she left her child with you knowing very well that there is a chance of the infection catching on to her own baby. So she really should not blame you for the sickness of her child. Or maybe HER child was sick to begin with and SHE passed on the infection to your children. So in that case, you should be the one suing her.
Whatever be the case, she and her bf has indeed treated you very shoddily. Apart from the sickness part, they were also aware that as a mother with two young children, you are not in an ideal position to babysit exclusively for their own child. You will have to look after your own children too, specially when you are babysitting from home itself. All in all, my view is that they never intended to pay you and are now making illogical excuses to justify their actions.
@vanities (11395)
• Davao, Philippines
5 Feb 08
i understand what you feel towards her ..its unfair actually not paying you for the services rendered....i just cant imagine why she treat you like that knowing that your the wife of her brother...
@lavenderbloom (1057)
• United Arab Emirates
5 Feb 08
Hi,
You should be paid for your job. It is wrong in their part to blame you for what had happened. It's good that your hubby is with you and supports you and the main thing is he understands you. Avoid such people and have a happy and tension free life. Regards.
@livintx49 (245)
• United States
5 Feb 08
I wouldn't help her out no more either, it sure sounds like they were using you. When they take her to daycare and have to pay that price and the kid still gets sick-oh well.
@4monsters4me (2569)
• United States
4 Feb 08
Some people just have no clue. They're going to have a hard time finding a babysitter that will take her if she acts they way she does. Especially one that won't discipline her when she does misbehave.
As for being sick...kids get sick. It's a fact of life. Getting sick is good for little kids. It builds up their immune systems. And it is unavoidable. Even in a home with no other kids she will still get sick.
Every time my kids stay with my sister in law they seem to come home sick. I think her boys are just always sick, lol. When my 3rd child was born the older kids stayed with her for a week and when they come home they had pink eye. I was a little miffed, mostly because she never informed us that her boys had pink eye in the first place. Not that it would have made a difference but I would have like to have known. My kids gave it to the baby and she gave it to me and we were all so HAPPY (not).
That's exactly why I could never watch other people's kids. I parent a certain way and I refuse to change my ways for someone else's kid.
@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
4 Feb 08
She did use you and it is just an excuse. I think it is very wrong. You worked, you deserve to be paid. I would do absolutely nothing to help them in the future, and I am glad your husband is behind you 100%. Maybe he should be the one to confront them and tell her just how he feels about the situation.
@Gemmygirl1 (2867)
• Australia
5 Feb 08
Well, just tell her that she has to get used to her child being sick - if they never got sick, then their immune system would never get stronger :)
I think you should just tell that it's fine if they don't want to bring her back but that you still looked after her for those days & you still deserve to be paid for doing it.
If they still act all high & mighty, then just tell them that they can act like that all they like but no matter where they take their daughter, she can still catch things (even if there are no other kids around since germs are usually airborn anyay) - so a simple trip to the grocery store could cause her to catch something.
It's a pain when people get all stupid like this. I really do hope you get your money from them but i am guessing it's not likely. Personally, i'd probably just cut myself off from them for a while & see what happens when they're in a tight place & need your help - you can say 'NO'!
Good luck & sorry you had to go through all this - oh & for future reference, if you do end up looking after that little girl again, i'd be asking for payment when they drop her off, then they cant get out of paying you like they're trying to do now.
@shanelli (20)
• Philippines
5 Feb 08
i am glad that your husband's on your side...i believe he should be the one to talk to his sister first about the matter...those two must give you what is due to you...you worked hard and done your part taking care of their kid and no matter what had happened, they should have respected you and thanked you for your generosity...after all, they, above all else should be 100% responsible on the kid...they can't protect the kid from getting hurt or sick coz these are, just as we all say, facts of life...why don't they just admit that they have their faults and shortcomings to the kid and not blame you for everything?...i am a mother too...and my son gets sick most of the time because of my brother who is a student nurse...colds, cough, and one time, upper respiratory infection and tonsilitis...i dont blame my bro for that...no one could resist a cute little boy, right? so my husband and i just deal with my son being sick and fussy and all...its just normal...and it makes me feel so, so important when my son always seek for my attention and hugs...that's heaven on earth...
@jhl930 (3601)
• United States
5 Feb 08
I completely agree with your husband you shouldn't be treated like that by anyone even if it is his sister! I have actually found a few ways that you could make some money at home....you could try and play moola.com you can actually make money with that and you paid through paypal after the first cashout and you cash the check..and another way to make money is by using netwinner.com you play games and get points and then after the points you get 25 dollars when you cash the points in..these are just a few ways!
