I got deleted...

Hello aseretdd, I decided not to delete anyone on my list. But, yesterday when I responded to a discussion on how to delete a friend, I made a decision to try and delete one friend whom I know being banned from My Lot quite some times ago. In fact, I feel guilty to delete them from my list as I wouldn't know the exact reason why they are inactive or maybe, they will be active again in a near future. I am sorry to hear that you are being deleted from someone's list. But, can you let me know how actually you will know that you are being deleted by someone? I still can't figure out the way. Does it mean when you saw your friend's discussion and you didn't get the notification for that particular discussion, shows that you are being deleted from the list?

I cannot imagine anyone deleting you on purpose. If a friend got banned from myLot, would it look like they deleted you? I have deleted a few people. One put spam referral links on my profile page without asking! And then came back and asked to be approved as a friend again, and I refused and he came back AGAIN and I refused him again, and that person has been banned for repeatedly breaking myLot rules. I don't delete very many people, but there are a few things I won't tolerate. Referring links are one and continuously proselytizing is another, especially when the person is blatantly intolerant of the views of other members. I don't mind people disagreeing with me, but I'd prefer they not threaten me with eternal damnation if I politely disagree with them. Oh, and I did delete two people for being repetitive nagging whiners. I hated to do it, but it was getting old. It came down to a choice of turning notify off or just deleting them and I have no room in my life for chronic passive aggression. I agree that clearing out some of the fair-weather friends makes room for new and better buddies.

It could be because you haven't responded to their discussions (because they didn't interest you or for other reasons?). Or maybe they weren't interested in the one's you started. Btw, how can you find out if they have deleted you from their list? There are a few friends on my list who are active...but I don't respond to their dsicussions because I don't like the discussions on news items. I don't think I have responded to a single one of theirs because of this. I wouldn't be surprised if they deleted me off their list....because that's all that they ever start.

Hmm.. till now I have not deleted any freind from list. many may have deleted me by this time. actually i think there is no problem if my friend list is big. May be many are inactive there in the list.

I never deleted anyone in my friend's list. I don't know why people would delete someone active from their friends' lists, that puzzles me! Lucky that I don't have a very good memory and I don't remember who are my friends. Otherwise if I found out there I was deleted, I would be upset *laughs*. I think if I have to delete someone from my list, that would be those who are inactive!

some people are mean and very petty..i have to deal with family members who enjoy telling me nonsense things that really don't concern me..but that is just life..you can pick your friends but you can't pick your relatives..lol

I'll remove somebody if we don't seem to have anything in common. There doesn't seem to be a lot of point in having somebody on my f-list if they never post anything I feel like responding to.

I used to go through my friends list, & delete people who had not been active for at least one month. I haven't done that for a long time now. Other My Lotters may delete people who they strongly disagree with. I dont bother either way if people delete me, in fact I wouldn't even know if I have been deleted from someones list.

Sometimes people get deleted from friend's lists for various reasons. In my case, it was not having enough people in my favorite interest, so I deleted some of my friends so that I would get a more balance interest group instead of being top heavy in one direction. So that might have what happened to you. Your friend was fixing up her interest because maybe everyone agreed with her when she wanted opposition or most were against her. That means as soon as the list is fixed, she will invite you back. Another reason is maybe she wants more of her country, or more of another country, so once that is fixed up, she will invite you back. So it could be temporary. In my opinion, those who have less than 100 posts is not a good reason for deletion, having nothing in common in any place, but if they are hardly on myLot, that would be a good reason. But the world will not come to an end because you are deleted. It could have been a mistake. I would suggest you check the interests to see if there is a conflict or her answers to your posts or your answers to her post. You might get a clue there.

u must be feeling bad ,but don't worry abt it much,they are not courteous people ,they should hv explaine the reason for deletion ,if they hvn't they don't deserve to be ur friend ,i just hope u hv more friends to move on.lol

Hmmm..can't help you as to why you might have gotten deleted, maybe it was an accident and they didn't realize you were still active.. or maybe they felt you werent visiting them and commenting their posts as often as they thought you should .. people do things for strange reasons sometimes. Personally, I never delete anyone for any reason, the more the merrier.. i'm hardly ever active here anymore because I'm more active on sites like Gather and my own blogs now..so I wouldn't be surprised if lots of people start delating me LOL

Wouldn't it be mutual, if you delete someone they are bound to delete you, so don't feel bad about it. I don't delete anyone because there is no upper limit to the number of friends you have here or in real life.

Hmmm...I do not have an answer that will help because I have never deleted anyone so far. However, I have been giving it some consideration because I have a growing number of requests and I am finding it challenging to sort through the increasing pages to find who I am looking for. It would be great if Mylot would find a way for us to alphabetize them. So sorry I am not much help here. I guess the reason I would delete someone would be similar to yours...inactivity. Maybe the best thing would be to contact the people who deleted you and just ask them. To me upfront discussion is easier than guessing. I do not do well with that and would rather KNOW..but that is just my way...do what works for you! Raia

The only reason I've deleted a friend so far has been because all the topics that person brought up were about making extra money online. I suppose I could've said turn notify off.