nursing home nightmares

I honestly cannot believe what I am reading.I have never heard of such a thing.legal seperation and divorce? May you be Granted the strength and the courage required to see you through. Tough call. All the best,do hope this is resolved in an amicable way.

Hi, Cyndy. I'm sorry to hear about your situation. I'm actually quite surprised and almost shocked that the state would suggest getting separated legally or divorced just because your husband is in the nursing home now. If you're the only one to take care of your husband and it's too much for you or he can't get the right care for his health at home, obviously you made the right decision to put him in a nursing home. The important question to ask yourself before considering separation or divorce as an option is, do you still love him and want to take care of him no matter what? I understand that in order for him to get what he needs physically, you must put him in the other home. I know it's a hard decision to make. I suppose sometimes it isn't about love because you have to also do what is best for you. If you think it would be best, I would say you should legally separate. It completely depends on how you feel about it and you feel towards your husband. You should also ask him how he feels about it. He needs physical care, but maybe after doing something like that he would feel cut off from you completely. (Hopefully I'm making sense.) I don't know exactly how legal separation goes, but if you would still be able to keep your support check after those 31 days, you should separate to be able to take care of yourself also. It's so strange the state is pushing for legal separation or divorce in these types of cases. I think that is very harsh. I wish you the best and hope everything works out for you!