wat kind of future do u wish your children?
By megaplaza
@megaplaza (1441)
Nigeria
February 5, 2008 1:34pm CST
i am still a young guy, about to finish university. but i am always taking notes of mistakes that i have made in life and i will make sure that when i have children. i will help them to avoid making such mistakes. I will want them to do and achieve those things that i couldn,t achieve. for instance, i will want my 1st son to be very good in maths, by gettimg him a good maths teacher, i was always average in maths. wat about you?
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5 responses
@Gemmygirl1 (2867)
• Australia
6 Feb 08
I think you're taking the whole things too far - you cant stop your child from making the same mistakes you did, you need to let him make his mistakes coz he'll only be able to overcome them by learning for himself.
Everyone can only learn from his or her own mistakes so not letting him make mistakes wont allow him to learn from them.
Also, there's no guarantee you'll have a perfect maths teacher, you'll end up with whatever the school has - tutors are a good idea but don't push too hard or you'll push your kids away - they wont enjoy things if their parents keep forcing them to do them.
I think the future i want for my daughter, is the 1 SHE chooses, i want her to be able to try something & if she fails, try again & learn from what she did wrong the first time. I want her to make all her decisions for herself & if she is GREAT in something like Music, then i'm going to let her persue it with my full support, instead of telling her that something like Maths is more important - you need to let them lead their own lives, not the ones you wanted but never had!
@megaplaza (1441)
• Nigeria
9 Feb 08
hey dont get me wrong, it just that i will liek one of my kids especially my first son to be in my profession which is computer science. though i dont intend to choose their profession for them, cos my dad and mum didnt choose for me to study computers cience. i am only wishing that i will have a child that have great interest in math and computer programming. thats all, thanks for your comment
@momlaine (5)
• Philippines
8 Feb 08
History had been kept not just for us to read but also a good example to teach us all. Many uses the past as a guide, depend on how they view the past. Unfortunately many never learned from the past. Our parents have never stop giving us warning since our childhood but we never listen but do the opposite instead. We, even family, have different personality with the desire to express our individuality. Our children are not the continuation of our life. They have their own dreams and talents which will turn to real success if we allow them or even support them to find and develop their hidden good talent. You maybe average in math but you must be very good in other field. It is not healthy for your child to be pressured into certain subject to please his parent. He will be very frustrated if he fail you. That will be the end of your good relationship and he will start spending more time away from home. You don't want that to happen. Please just guide him his basic needs to be a strong, happy, responsible and stable person. Success will come next.
He will not earn friends because he is good in math but because he is a good person. His success will mean nothing if he has no one.
@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
6 Feb 08
I want my children to be happy, healthy, strong, independant and to find true love....As for what type of career they choose or where they live etc etc...thats totally up to them..My job is SOLELY to guide them and teach them right from wrong, how to be strong, confident and make right choices in life etc...Everything else is up to them..
@cherriemae (3370)
• Philippines
6 Feb 08
we cannot say that our children will not commit mistakes because this mistakes will part of their growing, that they can get lessons from that mistakes they will take..of course, as a parent we really want what's best for our child, but what we need to do is that we have to be with them while they taking the path of life, then makes them comfort if they wanted us, also support what they likes and wants for their future..
@miller1978 (1101)
• United States
5 Feb 08
If it could be anything, I wish they would learn from my mistakes. I have made many, but I to have grown and realized that they were mistakes. I do realize that they have to make some mistakes on their own to learn from and gain experience as well. They will go through their first love, first broken heart, first job, first car and all that. I do hope that each and every one of them attend some kind of college as well. We all want our children to do well in school whether it be math, reading, science, etc. You can help them achieve that but it's not considered a mistake.