What Do You Think Is The Hardest Thing About a Relationship?

I was out of a relationship for a long time and then i prayed for someone decent and the man i am with has been with me for nearly 5 years in June. Keeping a relationship from getting too bored can be a struggle. You want to keep your partner interested in you. I am an independent person myself and so is he and at times you just need some alone time and we give each other that and that is important too; you know to have your own life. This question can be answered in various ways depending on the couple i believe. Do you live together? my sweetie is going to be moving in with me soon and i worry about (well not worry) but i do wonder how it's going to be with him living there. One thing i do know is that he is clean and cleans up after himself. That right there in itself is a blessing for a woman : )

according to me the hardest thing is understanding. if we understand each other properly then there is nothing to worry about it.

i think relation itself is a complex thing. we may think its going well, but there are nitty gritty that may not work all well all times. i have seen it myself. trust is one main thing that should be there.respect for each other and so many things.

I agree with you that adjusting is a most difficult thing but more difficult would be to subsume your feelings in order to keep the relationship afloat. That is difficult more difficult than when you have to adjust but to accept that which is impossible to accept for the sake of the relationship. And that is not necessarily a good thing. Maybe it would be better to be yourself and just let the other person adjust or for the both of you to separate.

The hardest part is keeping the love and romance alive.

well for me the toughest would be all about my bf's mom because his mom was really into some old chinese tradition

I think it's the compromises both sides need to make. I think that would be the hardest because each compromise contains sacrifices. And who could guarantee that no one will regret or blame the other on the compromises they have made. It's a beautiful thing but it really takes both sides to work!

Hi there. In my previous relationship it seemed to be the fact of finding the right thing for all of the things like time apart from one another, who was comfortable with what at which time and things like that. Catch ya later.

Hi Malyck, For me the biggest issue has to be trust. I have been hurt numerous times in past relationships, and it gets harder and harder to trust someone new. I can fall in love, but there is still a hint of distrust within me and it drives me crazy. I too am very independent, and when I get asked "Who are you talking to?" OR "Why are you doing that?" - I shut my significant other out. I tend to feel that it's my business and not his, so why should he even bother to ask. Don't get me wrong...I love being in a relationship, but it just takes lots of time for me to fully trust someone these days.

With my current relationship it is still hard for me to not be the one "wearing the pants" so to speak. Every guy I have been with in the past 10 years I was the one in charge because I made more money and was more organized. My current sweetie makes almost 3xs what I do and even though he has never come out and said so he is in charge. I think if he were to ever put his foot down and demand that bills get paid how and when he wants them paid instead of just adapting to the way I do it, or make it a point to tell me that things are going to be done his way that him and I would have problems.

I think the hardest part of a relationship is letting go of the past. We've all been hurt before & so we are guarded against feeling that pain again. We need to remember that the scars we carry from before were not inflicted by who we are with now.

In my opinion, it would be trust and faith. Even though at times I think I'm too trusting, you just never know what the other person is REALLY like. Only time will tell. Do you listen to your gut instinct or your heart?

If I were to write my opinion on relationships, I would use the very words you did. I'm very independent and require plenty of space and time to myself. Relationships are about comprimise. You have to watch out for your partner's special needs and be respectful. It means you don't always get what you want. It's hard to sit down and talk out all the conflicting emotions, and acknowledge that both of you are valid in your feelings. I prefer to be alone, but the price of being alone is sometimes being lonely. Then I remember about all the comprimises and blending of two personalities and I know I am not a relationship person. (until the next time! lol)

Sometimes the hardest thing about being in a relationship is to keep the understanding flowing in both ends especially when it concerns the families.

I think the hardest thing in a relationship is to have the ability to overcome any hardships and troubles.once you are in a relationship you have to be committed.no half hearted measures should be there.if you are in a relationship always see that you give your heart completely to it.

In my work as a life coach I think the hardest thing within many relationships is being REALLY honest...with oneself and the partner. Sometimes thoughts, feelings and emotions need to be discussed within a non-accusatory way...but are not. Consequently things are not resolved...and when things build up conflicts arise. Sometimes things are said and done that are hurtful. When that pattern starts people can have very long memories. Then they drag 'stuff' up from the past and hit their partner's over the head with it like a club with often devastating consequences. Risking honesty can be really daunting tin all relationships because society teaches kids early that their voices are not always something that adults want to hear. In my personal and professional experience I think that in openness there is trust...and in trust there is love. Without that relationships can be hard alright. In regard to adjusting to others...that can be challenging..but well worth it if people are willing to get over themselves and work together in loving co-operation. I know that for sure. I have been with my hubby for 18 years...and any adjusting I had to do was worth the effort...he is a keeper and I love him to pieces. Raia

Honesty - I have always been honest in any relationship and my new partner having past baggage from women who had in fact cheated and not been honest found that very hard to cope with. If I felt something I said it, he said he found it refreshing too but took him ages to get his head round it. Having been alone and independent for a while I also found him being round too often felt like an invasion of my privacy, we still do not live together but feel we have now got the balance right.

TRUST, because once one person messes up, people start acting stubborn thats why i think it's trust

Hey i think that the point of a relationship is for each partner to complement each other...It's nice to let someone share your happiness how boring would it be if you did everything on your own, u need someone to share fun times as well as the hard times. I think that when you are interested in someone you wont feel its "taking up your time" but rather you would be elated to spend time with someone. In light of that, i think that the hardest thing is adjusting to the differences, personality, ways...coping mechanisms compromise and space as well.

Put simply; Complete and total honest to the committment, and a willingness to talk about anything and everything.