What would you do?

I'm thinking about it because things keep resurfacing and there is a underlining trust issue on his part. Why would you want to be with someone that doesn't trust you 100%? I don't even know cause that is what I'm doing. Right now, this past week things have been good. He had a blow up a couple weekends ago which brought me back to this "break up or not to break up" thought. I do love him but I don't know.... I am a sorry excuse for female empowerment. I've always been the go to person when people had relationship issues. Now I'm in my own abyss.

Thank you so much for responding. I actually told him on monday that I was thinking of ending the relationship. We ended up talking and decided to work things out. But since then we have fought twice and I've been wondering if I should have just ended it.

I have been there and understand. I dated a guy very similar to yours when I was in college. It's not an easy thing to do. I finally realized that although he said that he loved me, he wanted to change me. Change the things that made me who I am. I decided that if he truly loved me I would not have to change what I wanted to do in life or change my friends. He was jealous and I could not even do things with my friends without him thinking the worst. I loved him too, but decided that in the long run, neither of us would be happy together because we would always fight. I had such a weight lifted off of me after breaking up. I know you will have the strenght to do what you need to do. It might surprise you, but it will come when you need it.

Thanks for your comment. I'm not sure if I've ever felt security from him.

What is the reason I'm not happy?....my b/f doesn't trust me the way I trust him which is 100%. He's a jealous guy. Those are the major ones. Other things are that he is not really in a good spot financially, not as understanding, rearly apologizes. I know I need to make up my mind and just do it already. I've been thinking this for almost a year. Pityful I know. I would be the first to tell my friends to break up already. But when the shoe is on the other foot it's a different story. I've been with him for 3 years.

I think the major reason I haven't broken up with him is because I'm afraid.....for him....i think? I don't want to hurt his feelings. We go through our ups and downs but I feel that most of the time he causes the downs. He has a jealous streek in him and says things like he can never really trust a female. So if I do something that is out of the ordinary (or so he thinks) he gets all crazy and I wonder what I'm really doing in this relationship.

Well I expressed myself on Monday and decided to work it out. I don't know where this will take me. I don't even know if I would want to get married.