Do Southern Women Flirt the Best?
@Angelwhispers (8978)
United States
February 6, 2008 12:41pm CST
I was in a conversation last night, before I had to shut down the computer and wait to see if the tornadoes were going to rip Tennessee of the face of the map, whew what a night, about hearing voices of your friends online. That turned to accents among other things. Laying in bed I was thinking about the way southern women flirted, compared to other parts of the country.
I thought about Scarlett O'Hare in gone with the wind, and how she has all of the boys vieing for her attention, while the other belles were left in her dust. The reason she did is that she had the art of flirting down pat.
I am an indiscriminate flirt. I flirt with men, women, children, young, old and everything in between. It is my nature. I feel that it of the most sincere form of flattery. It makes the recipient feel good, it puts a smile on their face, and you can noticeably see a lift their step.
Oh sure I have flirted to see other things besides the smile and jauntier step, but that would be my other nature:)) So Men who do you think has the best flirting tactics, have any admirable stories to share? How do you use your charm and flirtatious manners Women do you practice or hone your flirting abilities? What techniques work for you?
Come on fess up.
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@novataylor (6570)
• United States
6 Feb 08
Weyell, mornin, dahlin! Oh Angel, I've been flirting since I could see! Born right into my blood, that need to flirt. And I flirt with everyone too, indiscriminately. Well, kind of. But I do flirt with both sexes, as you've seen documented here many times and been a part of too. :) :)
There ain't too much more fun than flirting. And yes, Scarlett was one of my mentors. So were so many others from my childhood movie memories and books I read and people I watched, from my mother and sisters, to everyone I pretty much ever saw.
Hey, I'll bet Cheesehater is going to weigh in here. He just loves those southern women. Cayan't say as I blame him. I do happen to be southern myself through my daddy's blood. (no one but southerners call their daddy daddy when they're well past 50) He was from Tennessee too and it's a place I dearly love. I still have quite a bit of family there too. and my daddy's ashes are spread there at the old farm. That's probably where my best flirtation roots come from, you know, that Southern blood. And my warmheartedness and hospitable nature too.
Honey, I just love this discussion and can't wait to read the responses you're gonna get. And, oh Angel, I'm writing in a southern accent, if you couldn't tell. Mah mahnd is thainkin thayat way.
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@Angelwhispers (8978)
• United States
6 Feb 08
rotflmao :)) Cheesy was my thought behind this discussion. You are so right that the charm and flirt is inbreed. I may have been born in the north, but my family on both sides have there roots deep in the south. I believe in my heart that when God came down from heaven it was Tennessee he stepped on first. Your also right about how we pick up so much of our nature by watching the woman around us even as toddlers. Chit my husband says I could flirt a rabid dog of a meat wagon and have him belly up at my feet in just a sentence.
If I am in a bad mood give me someone to flirt with and in just a few minutes all is pure as rain again.
I think its lovely that your Dad is resting where he wanted to be.
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@Angelwhispers (8978)
• United States
6 Feb 08
I have problems with punctuation, all the way around Nova, I get my their and there squirrelly, leave out entire words, well the word was in my mind but my fingers don't type as fast as I think therefore it just gets left out. LMAO I have to use MS word if I am writing anything of real importance so that I can proof read my efforts with lots more help.
And you know that's part of the problem with typing how you talk, you tend to get as lazy in typing as the southern dialect is lazy in pronunciation.
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@novataylor (6570)
• United States
6 Feb 08
Geez, Angel, I have to get past the tears here after your sweet comment about my daddy's resting place. thank you, angel. I still miss him so much and grieve to this day.
But on a lighter note, yeah, I wondered if Cheese had anything to do with your thoughts here. He's a character. gotta love him - he really loves women and apparently, he really, really loves southern women. bless his heart. It seems I'm having trouble with my capital letters here these days, hmmm. anyway, (see?) I think this is going to be fun. And yes, I agree, about God and Tennessee. You know, living in Missouri, I see so much likeness between the two states. they're both so beautiful. So much green. Hills. Lovely people.
And I have no doubt that you could charm your way into, out of, around, over and through anything your little heart decided to.
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@ratyz5 (7808)
• Philippines
6 Feb 08
I think I'm more good at flirting by messages rather than on meeting up. I could say the nicest things to people on messages but not to them when they are infront of me. If I know the person, I could really point out some good things about them, be it physical or in their actions. If I don't really know them, I usually go along with what they can relate in more recent conversations that, perhaps, I have made with that person.
They seem to feel quite nice when their good points are told to them and they kind'a thank me for it. However, even if it makes me smile to know that are thanking me for it, the compliments I give them, I always end up with nothing coming back for me. Just thanks and they seem to find nothing good on my part. I try not to think about it much but, that's simply how it is...
@Angelwhispers (8978)
• United States
7 Feb 08
I agree, sometimes things will just slide from our fingertips at a keyboard and when faced with a person we clam up tighter then a river muscle.
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@novataylor (6570)
• United States
7 Feb 08
Clam up tighter than a river muscle! Oh, Angel, you are indeed from the South!!!! A woman after my heart.
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@GardenGerty (161080)
• United States
6 Feb 08
I find it sad, I do not really have the time to flirt anymore, or I have forgotten to. I found that what I called attentive listening other people called flirting. I even had my first husbands step-grandpa so involved at a family dinner that he did not see people snapping pictures or leaving. I always wanted to BE Scarlett O'Hara, but that 17 inch waist was unattainable.LOL. Paying attention shamelessly to someone is a great way to give them a lift.
@Angelwhispers (8978)
• United States
6 Feb 08
"Paying attention shamelessly to someone is a great way to give them a lift."
Excellent point Gerty, in fact one of the first things southern woman are taught how to do is listen, with the attentiveness of making a person feel like you are hanging on their every word.
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@Angelwhispers (8978)
• United States
6 Feb 08
*giggles* she says....LMAO and she says she does not flirt...OH right!
No and I do not have to flirt or sweet talk my bob :)) He takes me even with my hair a muss
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@asawako48162 (3321)
• United States
8 Feb 08
southern women have a way of flirting that i have not seen in other parts of the country..but they can be very subtle about doing this...but i like the "gone with the wind" variety of Scarlett O"hara..and I named my first female dog Scarlet...and she was a big flirt too
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@Angelwhispers (8978)
• United States
8 Feb 08
Scarlett O"Hara is of course our roll model :)) Not to mention she is the bomb. Its not just the flirting, but the strength that comes from someone who is so genteel and soft. You don't see it coming from her, but its smoldering underneath and when finally is unleashed has the fury of a tornado. (sorry about the Pun) She can do anything meet head on any adversary. Then the flirting is just the icing on the cake :)))
@Angelwhispers (8978)
• United States
8 Feb 08
Scarlett O"Hara is of course our roll model :)) Not to mention she is the bomb. Its not just the flirting, but the strength that comes from someone who is so genteel and soft. You don't see it coming from her, but its smoldering underneath and when finally is unleashed has the fury of a tornado. (sorry about the Pun) She can do anything meet head on any adversary. Then the flirting is just the icing on the cake :)))
@Angela717 (74)
• United States
7 Feb 08
I am the definition of a flirting fool - meaning I am flirtacious by nature, I do it most of the time without even thinking about it. The bad part is that I'm very slow to recognize when someone else is flirting with me unless they are blatently obvious about it. I usually just dismiss it as the person's way of communicating, not really flirting with me.
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@Angelwhispers (8978)
• United States
7 Feb 08
You know you have kinda reminded me of the darker side to playing even innocent games, one that I should have mentioned in my original post. How do we know when we are taking it to far? Have you ever had someone get to serious about your flirting with them. I have on occasion and had to back petal and eat my share of crow.
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@Angelwhispers (8978)
• United States
11 Feb 08
LMAO Mo :))) I stand bow in awe of you :)))
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@madasp (563)
• United States
7 Feb 08
I do flirt, but usually only with people I know and am comfortable with. Not so much with strangers.
My sister on the other hand is a notorious flirt with no limitations or boundries. I remember one time in particular when she drove her car down a flooded road that had been closed off because at the end of it was a group of guys. her engine got wet, car stalled, and she gets out and starts her "poor little ol'female me" act complete with a FAKE southern accent and ended up with a few phone numbers LOL.I don't believe I've ever laughed so hard as I did watching those guys fall all over themselves to help a damsel in distress!
By the way,my sister was stationed in georgia when she went into the army and hasn't moved back up north since she got out so I suppose she figured she fit in better there!
@Angelwhispers (8978)
• United States
8 Feb 08
Your Sister sounds like a woman with taste :)) I have lived several places in my life time. I always come back home. I think once the south is in you.. Your the souths. Hey and Madasp Welcome to mylot :))
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@janqlm (10)
• United States
7 Feb 08
Well, I don't know about southern women, but I'll tell you I just cannot resist a good ole' southern boy! Ooooh la la. I'm a northerner (and I mean WAY north...Maine!) Something about a thick southern accent and that southern boy charm...OMG. If ever in my life, one of those good looking boys gets down on one knee and says "Jaynus, cayn I hayve yer hand in mayahrige?" I'll die a happy girl!!! LOL
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@Angelwhispers (8978)
• United States
7 Feb 08
I think its more then just charm, that southern men have, its manners, and how they are raised to treat and speak to a lady. Sadly I think even here in the south we are losing much of what makes the manners and hospitality so unique to us. We just are not raising our children, (anywhere) with the same values and pride I think we once did. I tried to with my oldest boys, but so much changes after they are living their own lives and out and about with peers and buddies. Although many many of my older sons buddies still call me MAME...which bites my butt..LMAO but we can not have it both ways now can we?
One thing that I dislike very much when we go visit Chicago or Philly, is that yes, Northerns love the accent, but I have run across the attitudes that because I have a southern lilt and drawl, I am therefore stupid and ignorant. At which point they really get a hit with just how stupid I am. Thats another thing You don't want to cross a southern woman, about her heritage. You just might find you have more cat on your hand then belle.
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@palonghorn (5479)
• United States
7 Feb 08
There is sumthin about Northerners that they can't resist a Southern accent, lol. Before I mooved to Yankeeland, my s/o would send me an email or text message...'I need to hear some drawl' lol And I do have to agree, southern boys do have charm, but I have to admit I think I found one of the few yankees that could pass for southern at least his charm could, maybe not his accent lol. I was also told when I moved up here, I'd better not ever loose that southern accent, lol yeah like that would ever happen.
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@renisha (28)
• United States
6 Apr 08
Im Southern.Im from Alabama. And where Im from flirting seems like a profession to these women,I even flirt without realizing and when men come from out of town they would always say they "love our Southern accents". I think Southern women flirt the best...look at me.
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@Angelwhispers (8978)
• United States
6 Apr 08
Renisha I agree, I think we have it down to a science. Welcome to mylot :)))
