i so need help!!!!
By dania_elm
@dania_elm (421)
United States
February 6, 2008 9:42pm CST
jason (my friend) and i have know eachother for a long time. we were best of friends and have helped eachother through some horrible times. along the way he fell crazy in love with me. we never got together like that. we have lots of love. a friend love now. well his g/f is horribly jealous of our relationship. we didnt talk for a couple years because i didnt want to complicate his life. they have 2 kids now. her feelings about me have not changed. jason and i have started talking again. we just couldnt not any longer. but we dont want her or my hubby to know. they are both jealous of our relationship. its weird. but i dont think i can walk away from him again. since we have been talking again we are just so relaxed and happy. i quit going to therapy. there are no romantic feelings on his part anymore. would it be wrong to hide this? even if u knew that your partner had a problem with it? he is not a jealous guy. where jason is concerned...... its not good. i desperatly need advice. thanks in advance.
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@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
7 Feb 08
I don't think there are too many people who would be really happy about their spouse being such good friends with someone they used to be in love with...I think you have to put yourself in their shoes, how would you feel if your husband was going off and meeting someone they were once in love with. It doesn't matter how secure you feel about yourself or your relationship tno-one knows what is really going on in someone elses head and heart for that matter....and the fact that you are going to keep it secret i don't think that is good for your relationship if at some time your husband finds out, I would say he would think you were guilty of something...if i was your husband i would start up a friendship with one of my ex's or maybe just a new friend that is a girl and see how you like it...you should try and understand how he feels....
@dania_elm (421)
• United States
7 Feb 08
i understand what u r saying. but, i was never in love with jason. i think he only thought he was in love with me. he is friends with his exs. i dont have a problem with that. they are exs for a reason. i do understan how he feels. he is not understanding how i feel. i owe jason my life. i owe my hubby my loyalty. i love them both just as much just in completely different ways. does that make sense?
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@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
7 Feb 08
I understand what you are saying, but I can also understand how he feels, I have been there and it is not a nice place to be, I had a boyfriends years ago saying the same thing to me as you are to your boyfriend and in those days i trusted people well that is a mistake for anyone to do...things can start, i think if you loved your husband his feeling shoulf come first... just my opinion.
@dania_elm (421)
• United States
7 Feb 08
again i completely understand what u r saying. i just dont get why he only has a problem with this one friend. he has no problem with me catching a movie or getting a drink with my other ones and they really dont matter to awful much to me. jason means the world to me. he has seen me through some really bad times.
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