Taking a break from family...

I do...and I understand totally how you feel. It does take a toll on me sometimes...managing the home, baby and a school going kid ...not to mention the husband and some days I'm ready to scream and I need to get out of the house.I do but not often..and only when hubby is in a mood to babysit. Last Saturday, my older son had a dance performance and since hubby wasn't interested, he offered to stay home and babysit. I went for the performance and enjoyed myself (which I wouldn't be able to do running behind a toddler) and came back refreshed and ready to take on the workload at home:) So, I don't think it's bad at all.

Not really, but I should. I fully understand your need to take a break from a young baby. They are so demanding. Like you, I feel the need to take a break from my husband sometimes. What are your husbands constant reminders about?

OH no.. I think every mother needs a break.. no matter how old their kids are... I like to take a book and just sit in the car and read under a tree at a park... of course that really only works in summer... but watching the little kids is even relaxing to me... my babies are 14... there is no arguing... no fighting, just pure joy... and maybe a little one crying ... for no reason.. but it isn't mine and I don't have to take care of it! LOL lately... mine has been running one of my twins (14) to wrestling practice at 6:30 am... and the other one does not have to be there til after 7 so we will run to McD's and grab a sandwich and go back to the school and take a nap is that what it is called from 6:30am to 7 am???? lol anyway... that is our quite time...cause we are all so tired... not only does she have morning practice ... but she also has practice after school... so basically she is at the school from 6:30am til 5:30 pm... talk about a long day! LOL back to the subject... lol yes you deserve a break... and every other sunday isn't that often! LOL even every sunday and not be gone or spend as much money while gone I think would be okay also!

hi aseretdd! ^__^ I think there's nothing wrong with what you did. that's just only fair, to take a break from everything once in a while. and I think its healthy too because you refresh your mind and re-energize your body and spirit. if you continue facing all those pressures without any breaks, your health might not take it and who knows what might happen right? everybody deserves a rest every once in a while. I don't take a break from my family because I'm not with them 24/7, I only get to see them during weekends when I don't have any work. but even during those 2 days, I get stressed because I am faced with the laziness of my nieces and nephew and their mother (my sister) and their quarreling. so I always take refuge in front of the computer or play with my little nephew. ^__^ I think you should take a break every week aseretdd. that would be good for you. ^__^

i don't think its bad.. every person should unwind sometimes.. and yes you are right. what you did relaxed you so you can be stressed free. i think every mother should be like that. having a break once in a while.

Hello aseretdd, You are lucky to be able to take a break! I feel a little bit jealous now *sighs* I understand very well what happened to you as it happens to me sometimes. As a daughter, wife and mother, it is not easy to take a break-even for just a few hours *sighs* I love to do what you did last Sunday especially watching movie, enjoy my meals and strolling around the shopping mall. I just don't have time to do it anymore *sighs* I love my life but sometimes, I do feel stress with everything around me. It isn't good as whenever I feel stress, I will start to lose my temper or get irritated easily nowadays. I hope I can be normal human being like before but it is just too hard sometimes... Good luck to you and I hope I will manage to do the same in a near future *smiles*

well yeah we all need to have a break even in those people who are working..it rejuvenates us which makes us start another task in our life..

I don't think it's bad. I need to take breaks from my family too. If i didn't, I'd go insane. There are days where I find a way to spend the entire day by myself, just to enjoy some peace and quiet. I think EVERYONE needs a break sometimes.

I believe that a mother also need time for her self, to relax and have a peace of mind,Its not easy to handle a family or a problem specially when the kids are involve.Being a Good mother is always there for her family but also we need extra time to have fun alone.

Everyone needs a break from life no matter what it is. I think you did a good thing it helps you relax and unwind and makes thoes at home appreciate you when you come home. When my kids where little I did not have that and I was miserable most of the time. I can see why so many marriages end up in divorce when raising children the parents are so busy taking care of the children and working they do not have time for their relationship or themselves. You go girl keep it up.

Yes, I would like to take a break. I can understand your feeling very well. As I had a baby before and I know it's quite stressful that you didn't have a time to have a rest. I hope your family will help you sometimes and therefore you will have some rest. A mom needs the break, so that she will take good care of her baby and a whole family.

Good for you! The fastest way to get appreciated by hubbies is to absent oneself once in a while. Otherwise, they get so used to having everything done for them, that it becomes to easy to take you for granted. They really have no idea all the things we do for them unless we don't do them once in a while. The only way I know of to accomplish that is to go somewhere for a while. Here they call it "girls' night out" and several women in the same situation all go somewhere together to have a little fun and relaxation. In the evening tt is safer to go in groups, and also the other women help us not feel guilty about deserting the family, lol. But in the daytime it is wonderful to do it your way. As long as hubby is capable of bonding with your baby and caring for her, it is good for both of you for you to have some time away, I think.

It's not bad to take time out from family to be alone and have some soul searching. I do that once in a while. It refreshes one's soul to become more effective in other areas of family life!

Do not feel bad in needing some 'ME' time!! i feel every mother should be able to have a little me time. theres nothing wrong in doing it. Like you said you felt stress free after having a little break. even if you just have a relaxing bath by your self with the door locked and candles lights, it would make you feel really refreshed and on top of things. i know myself im lucky that my parents have my daughter over night every two weeks on a saturday night so that i can relax or go out and let my hair down for the night. most of the time i just stay in on my own and do what ever i please and you end up feeling so much better!! just talk to your husband and explain to him about how your feeling, if not if you have a parent or friend that would look after you little one while you just relax for a few hours..xx

Yes definitely! No matter how much we love them. Sometimes, we need some time alone just to wind down. Sometimes I feel stressed out listening to mom at home, I would find an excuse to go downstairs and walk around, then when I come back, I would feel so much better. Everyone needs a little space and quietness from time to time and I am definitely one of them *laughs*.

I haven't taken a break in quite a while. Maybe that's why things are starting to get to me around here. Sometimes I just go to the library and read magazines and relax. When I did childcare/foster care years back, one of the other mothers watched my kids for a few hours each week. I went to a movie and I can't begin to tell you how wonderful it felt to get away and enjoy a good movie all by myself. That was my first experience in treating myself to some time. It took me years of family and kids to get around to it. Why do we feel we need to do it all for everyone but ourselves? I hope you keep doing this. Like I said, I wish I had started doing it years before I did..Whit

It is not bad. It is excellent. You ought to be CONGRATULATED. You definitely deserve a life of your own. Make the best of it. Best wishes.