Have you noticed what kind of discussions your mylot friends respond to?
By ctrymuziklvr
@ctrymuziklvr (11057)
United States
February 7, 2008 10:21am CST
I just went thorough my list of 210 friends and deleted a lot of them mostly because they haven't been active in over 3 months! I always check to see if the ones who are active respond to any of my discussions. In looking through those I've noticed that the ones who don't seem to only respond to discussions about how to earn money online and those with links in them! Personally, I don't put links to any of the sites where I earn money or even points for that matter so I don't think I have anything in common with those people so I delete them also. It seems like if I chose my friends by our interests I should be getting over 200 responses to my discussions instead of 20 and under right? So what's the reason for having so many friends? None that I can see!
Do you ever notice the discussions your friends respond to? Are you finding that even though you have hundreds of friends you get a lot less responses? Why do you think that is?
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@lisaviews (184)
• United States
7 Feb 08
It's funny that you bring this up! I only actually "allow" friends that I really know. I guess it's kind of weird, or not with the "money" prospect of this site, but I feel more familiar and comfortable that way.
I have several requests from "friends" that I had never heard of... one within 2 minutes after becoming a member. How do they do that?
I'm not sure how the money thing works here, but I have realized that if a discussion seems to have a high response, then the chances of the "friend's" response of getting either read, rated, or chosen as best response are slimmer. There are a lot of people who do the "simple" writing... don't use proper English, and only one or two sentences... they don't think it out, and sometimes they don't even make sense. They just seem to be raising their numbers.
I don't think it's about what you write, I think it's more about the "me, me, me" persona and trying to get ahead of the game.
Personally, I chose you to respond to because it "moved up" to the top of my interests with it just being posted, and it intrigued me. Thank you! I come and go with my activity. There are some days that nothing interests me to respond to. Thanks for making these one of those days where I want to respond. I'm glad you put out that thought. It was a good one...
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@ctrymuziklvr (11057)
• United States
7 Feb 08
First, you are welcome. I'm happy I could make a discussion that you could respond to. I've had days when it was hard to find anything to respond to also. I don't like to respond unless I have something to say. I think people request new people to help them out...I know I usually do for several reason.
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@bonbon664 (3466)
• Canada
7 Feb 08
I think there are a lot of my "friends", who are here strictly for the cash. They will only reply to discussions where there are referrals involved. I have to get busy one of these days, and delete my inactive friends. I've learned a long time ago that MYLOT will not make you rich.
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@ctrymuziklvr (11057)
• United States
7 Feb 08
You're right about that! I don't think any site will make us rich but it sometimes keeps me in food and things I need around the house at the end of the month.
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@ladyluna (7004)
• United States
8 Feb 08
Hello Cher,
I see that you are new here. So, I hope you don't mind if I share this F.Y.I. with you -- before any negative repercussions ripple for you.
First, it is a huge risk to openly display your
e-mail address on a public forum.
And second, on this particular forum, it is grounds for serious retribution from the MyLot administration. In other words, this is a big No No!
The references to money may be twofold:
1. There is an earnings algorithm which tabulates all of the member activities, and pays the members for certain, qualifying participation. Though, you needn't worry about getting rich from your participation here. Those who stay, do so for the community and comraderie, and not the pennies.
2. These types of forums are notorious hang-outs for 'get rich quick scammers'. They are reputed to 'spam' unsuspecting members with all manner of garbage offers to get rich quick. These spam attacks are considered very uncouth, and they also violate the MyLot Guidelines and Terms of Agreement. This is considered abusive, and many of us tend to agree!
In fact, you may find it very helpful to read both the Guidelines and Terms of Agreement.
http://www.mylot.com/o/terms.aspx
http://www.mylot.com/o/guidelines.aspx
I hope that helps. And, please do remember to always protect your identity when on the world wide web. It's a pretty ugly cyber world out there, though it's usually pretty comfy & safe here.
Welcome aboard! Enjoy your time here!
Hi there.
Cheryl here. I know I will probably come across as a big idiot, but I have no idea what you guys are talking about money on here.
I have commented on a few issues which I found very interesting not knowing that there is any money involved here.
Would you please be so kind as to e-mail me and let me know what I so stupidly do not know.
Thank you very much.
cheryl_little1@hotmail.com
Thanks again friend
@cher8558 (425)
• Canada
8 Feb 08
Hi there.
Cheryl here. I know I will probably come across as a big idiot, but I have no idea what you guys are talking about money on here.
I have commented on a few issues which I found very interesting not knowing that there is any money involved here.
Would you please be so kind as to e-mail me and let me know what I so stupidly do not know.
Thank you very much.
cheryl_little1@hotmail.com
Thanks again friend
@SViswan (12051)
• India
8 Feb 08
I was just going through my friend list and cleaning up two days ago. I noticed that even though some of them were active and had logged on recently, they weren't into any real discussions...just the usual 'What's your favourite colour' stuff and they couldn't even take the time to type out the whole thing...it was more like 'Ur favourite colour' and that's it.
I've deleted all of those...and am still in the process of cleaning some more.
But I also realized that if my discussions kept coming up on the discussions page, even people who aren't on my friend's list would respond.
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@GardenGerty (160996)
• United States
8 Feb 08
I do not start very many discussions and so it does not seem to matter as much to me, as long as I get at least one response. I like it when I get into a discussion that goes back and forth a lot. Especially if it is in a lighthearted manner. I will probably go through my friends in the summer and do some weeding out.
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@polachicago (18716)
• United States
7 Feb 08
I was cleaning my list months ago, but later on I figure it out that some people are back after few months.
I was having bad trolls here on Mylot, so I was not much active for 3 months to calm down my mind.
You never know....
@tinabme2 (90)
• United States
8 Feb 08
I think it might be because a lot of people have a lot of different interest and not all of the things we post is the issue they want to respond to. It can also be that a lot of them are trying to make a living of some kind online and maybe feel that this is one of the many places to try to get a few interested people to sign-up for some of their sites. Its a choice that you may may not want, but there is a reason why we are all here, sometimes its just not always the reason we all want. I kinda like to know about what everyones earning sites are because I am disabled and make my extra income on-line to help pay the bills and whatever extra we need. I will not send any information to anyone unless they ask, so no one will feel like I am bothering them to do something that they may not have an interest in. When I do read one of your interest that I feel in tune with I do respond some I cant answer, some were to sad to answer and some I didnt know what to say, So we all answer what we feel good about that way I think it keeps it good. So keep the dicussions going no matter what thats what we do here right, its about life, people and stuff in our day to day ways whatever that may be which is all different then the next person right. I hope I have not said anything wrong or out of context, I dont want anyone to think im being rude or anything, im just giving my feelings on your discussion. Have a good day/night, Tina
PS WOW you have a lot of point (3090)Im lucky if I can think of anything to write about at all. So keep up the good work.
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@sweetgirl_k1 (3972)
• United States
13 Feb 08
I haven't really noticed what kinds of discussions my friends respond to. I guess I need to go through my friends list again. I understand what you mean about friends not responding to our discussions. I have a bunch of friends on my list so I should be getting a lot of responses but that's not the case.
@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
8 Feb 08
I find that overall, people, not necesssarily my friends, prefer to respond to the more simple topics. Such as "do you prefer a dishwasher or handwashing"?
I was amazed at the amount of responses I received to such a mundane question.
If I start a pet type discussion, or a personal issue, or political, news., etc, I always get a few responses, but not that many.
I have never really analyzed what my friends prefer. It seems to vary so much.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
10 Feb 08
I haven't really noticed. I am too busy responding to friend's posts. I should look through my friends lists and see.
@skydancer (2101)
• United States
8 Feb 08
To tell you the truth, I don't really interact with my "friends" on these networking sites, so I really don't go through them to make sure they're active and what not. I may look at their profiles, and will delete them if they spam me excessively, however, other than that, I accept all requests.
As for you discussions, I am much more of a topic responder than a topic starter, so responses have not been a huge issue to me at this time... (I can never think of topics that have not already been exhausted, and am not too eager to share my personal life, which does not make me a very prime candidate for starting topics and gaining excessive amounts of responses... lame excuse, I know). Occasionally I'll take note of the discussions my friends start/respond to and will take part in them myself if I feel I have anything worthwhile to say.
But I do see your point, however. It it can probably serve to your advantage in a lot of ways to only have friends who are active and take note of your topics.
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@mouse27 (1155)
• Canada
12 Feb 08
i don't really add firends to my list for them to respond to my messages cause that wold be an expectations and i as always taught that expectations leads to dissapointments. i add friends to my list so that i will have more discussions to repsond to and i don't always get to them right away its hard answering at least 30 posts when i check my emails and i check it about 3 times a day. but i do other stuff with the puter too so i don't have all day to stay on mylot
@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
7 Feb 08
It does kind of make you wonder, ctry, that since you have all these friends, why is it you are only receiving 3 or 4 responses to some of your discussions? I have often said that I can't get around to all of my friends discussions every day, but I make an effort to seek them out from time to time and respond to a variety of topics.
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@chrislotz (8137)
• Canada
12 Feb 08
I agree with you, what are friends for. I don't know the number of friends I have but I can tell you I have almost 8 full pages. I need to clean house, like you, one day soon, because most of them don't respond to my discussions either. I try to respond to most of my friends discussions but some of them I can't because I just don't have anything to say about the subject. I think I respond to most of yours, and you respond to most of mine. Your right that we need to have a friends list that responds to our discussions. I would think that is what this friend thing is about. Good luck to you, and me, to finding those friends so we have those 200 responses to our discussion, as you stated.
@gamingmaster (427)
• United States
7 Feb 08
I dont really go through my friends that often but I do realise that I dont get many responses from them, but thats probably during the week, I have made new friends and hopefully this weekend it will improve.
I always respond to my friends discussions (well the ones that interest me) but since I dont have that many friends I dont really have much to reply to.
Hope we can be friends and chat later!
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@ladyluna (7004)
• United States
8 Feb 08
Hello Ctry,
I have always made every effort to keep my list on the smaller side.
I share your disdain for those people who post money-making links. And, who make no effort to interact with other members of this community. Though, they're usually not here long before they learn that no one is going to get rich from MyLot. Then, they usually move on.
I believe that most people indiscriminately accept every 'friends' request that is offered to them, and soon learned that quantity is of no advantage, in this regard.
I'm fortunate that most of my friends are sincere, and loyal. We each seem to make a point to return to the other's discussions.
Of course, every discussion will not hold allure for every one of our friends. Though, it sure is nice when we find folks who share our value of comraderie and the free exchange of ideas.
@byfaithonly (10698)
• United States
8 Feb 08
Ok I have over the year 'weeded out' a few 'friends' but for the most part I just hate to 'delete' them - I have however found that some friends won't be around for long periods of time and then out of no where their active again. I think I mainly keep them because when I approve friends I also look at their discussions, are they ones that I might respond to. This way I don't have to go looking for discussions, their just delivered to my mail box.
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
8 Feb 08
I really don't take notice of what discussions my friends answer. I need to weed out my list too as I know there are more than 3/4 of that list that are either not active, don't have any interest in my discussions and only added me because I have answered their discussions a few times.
There are a few on my list, including you, that I often search for first when I log in, because I enjoy answering their discussions. And then there are a lot that don't make sense to me at all or I can't relate. I'm not sure why I added them in the first place. I end up turning off the email notification on a few of them and have left them on my friends list. They have not once answered any of my discussions.
@whittby (3072)
• United States
8 Feb 08
I'm new enough to myLot, that I haven't analyzed too many trends that well yet. I have noticed, like the post above, that the simple questions seem to generate a lot of response. Personally, I'll answer a serious question, but some days I can't come up with a thoughtful answer. I get to discussions like yours when you answered a discussion I was in and I liked your answer.
I like adding folks as friends so I can go to their discussions. I find way more to respond to than if I surfed my interests exclusively. I also might go to discussions you've responded to as well, and find some folks I haven't come across. And as far as reponses to my discussions, I do okay, not great. I enjoy responding more than starting lately..Whit
@Kashmeresmycat (6369)
• United States
8 Feb 08
Funny you should mention this, haha. I just saw that someone wanted to be my friend this morning and I don't even know who she is,...I don't recall the name for some reason.
Now I'll see if I get a PM about joining some make money site. If that's all their interested in, forget it, I'm just going to delete her. We'll see and I'll let you know what happens.
I think it's time I go through my so-called friends too, which I don't have that many, and see what's up.
