Are you a realist? Or are you a dreamer?

United States
February 8, 2008 1:11am CST
I know that my husband is mr. reality. He is very grounded, thinks before he acts, etc. I on the other hand am spur of the moment, have a dream world of my own at times, love movies and books, anything that lets me escape reality. So which are you? And do you have a person that is your counterpart? I figure my husband and I would be perfect if we were in one person! LOL
7 responses
@kbourgerie (8780)
• United States
8 Feb 08
I am a dreamer. My boyfriend is a realist and sometimes it drives me nuts. Sometimes he is a realist to the point of negativity and I have a hard time with that. My glass is always half full and I live minute to minute. His glass is half empty and he lives paycheck to paycheck. The difference is I have a whole lot more stories to tell. LOL.
• United States
8 Feb 08
Oh my dear I totally feel your frusteration! We are the same exact way. Half full versus half empty. It is enough to drive a girl nuts, right? LOL I swear! To make matters worse, my husband just took a philosphy class, which apparently showed him more of the "evils" of the government, yada yada. Guess what? now he wants to cut meat and dairy from our diets. Yep, mr. meat and potatoes wants to be mr. potatoes and pasta now. LOLOL I swear some days I think I might strangle him. Then I'll give him a kiss. LOLOL
• United States
8 Feb 08
Are you sure we aren't sharing the same guy? LOL.
• United States
8 Feb 08
lolol you are too funny! Well lets see, is your guy 30, red hair, 5'8, Army Veteran who lives in Los Angeles? If so, "Houston, we've got a problem..." LOLOL
@jbishop (12)
• United States
8 Feb 08
I am "mr. reality" but with a twist? See, with my girlfriend and I, she is a realist, but doesnt always get all sides of a situation. I'm always a realist, to the point of where it makes me mistrusting. 40% of women have cheated on their spoose. My odds for the woman i love arent very good i guess? Which brings up my next topic, everyone is cheating these days, and everyone knows it. Everyone also "has never cheated". Right. Everyone also becomes weary, and at the least bit, aware, of the dishonesty. Is it best for a person to just be weary and not fully trust love interests, or is that a good way to die alone? Does a person instead just throw inhibition to the wind and lend there heart t others when statistics show (and they never lie) that your heart will get broken 4 out oof 10 times.
• United States
8 Feb 08
Well if it makes you feel any better, not all of us women cheat. I married my husband when he was 17 and I was 18. We've been married for 12 years now. We have 5 children. And yes, we are still totally happy. In fact, not only have I never cheated on my husband, I've never even met someone that I would consider it for. Granted my husband and I both came from broken homes, where one or both of the parents cheated, and we swore we would never do that to our children. (and no, we are not religious, just don't want to screw up our kids like we got screwed up). I think if you don't put a little trust in a person, you are doomed to fail in that relationship. Though, don't just hand out trust like its candy, they have to earn it first.
@rmuxagirl (7548)
• United States
20 May 08
I tend to be a daydreamer: romantic type. My boyfriend is the same as I am. He's a romantic, but he's also mr. reality as well.
@betta88 (37)
• Italy
8 Feb 08
i'm a dreamer travel. during the day i'm a realistic person but the night my dream carry me in a other dimension of space and time. i relived situation that i lived during the day but thera are transformed in a dreams optical. so a baby became a paint of a little man...
• China
8 Feb 08
actually , i'm a dreamer.you know dreaming is always beautiful and wonderful.i like dreaming of a promising future,which motivates me to overcome the setbacks in life .o..but reality often goes against dream. wow,reality ,however is a mixture with bitter and sweet things.it's true.. maybe i should wake up from my dream and be realistic.
@didi13 (2926)
• Romania
29 Nov 11
"Are you realistic?" More common phrase "Be realistic". Personally, I recently passed the stage where I thought it was wise advice. Before you throw accept this advice and ask yourself if "realistic" is not only a more simplistic to give up a goal higher, idealistic vision of something extraordinarily great that those around us are not ready to understand yet. When you get near the warning to "be realistic", your energy can not be used creatively. This attitude reflects the fact that the individual has become too transparent and open, without at the same time incorporate energy through creative expression. Our physical reality is a level of expression, but the physical reality is another. People build their ideals of happiness from freedom. The human individual lives their freedom by choice. Why not choose now the reality in which you want to live? Why to let others know you deprive the great things that you access with your mind infinite? After all, we all have the ability to create realities and effects of reality. It all depends on our degree of awareness. I propose the following exercise: Think of the people around you who always say "be realistic", write them on a sheet, and analyze them a little life. I am happy with what they do? I am happy with the life you have? Are free? Answer these questions and if you notice from their restrictive thinking, you already know what to do. In fact, here is one secret: individual freedom is to force to remove the restrictive influence of others. If you removed those people in your life, or at best, have acquired immunity need not to hit, and still see in them things good for your transformation, you're becoming closer to the target. But remember, thoughts fueled by awareness, make you act. Just think what is good for you, you will not solve anything. Unconscious, you can return to the old thinking many times and thus will not produce anything uplifting to you. Time to be honest with yourself and recognize when your commitment to change is really practical if you bring added value and energy you need to go to the next level. Do not let others to become your reality reality! You are your own creator! Fired up!
@nengs10 (3180)
• Philippines
8 Feb 08
I manage to balance my dreamer and realist sides. I tend to be either sometimes. It's nice to dream most of the time but you need to assess some things. You must be acquainted of the real issues and real stuffs.