i want a child

I don't understand why his job matters when you're talking about wanting to get married? Just elope & it's cheap, easy & at least you'll be married. I agree with something someone else said though, why would you consider bringing a child in to the world if you couldn't afford to have one? I think you should make sure you &/or your boyfriend both have the finances to afford a baby before you jump in to it - they're not all that expensive but if you cant afford to get married, then you cant afford a baby. Maybe you could give it a little longer, make wedding plans with your boyfriend, help him to get a stable & constant job & once you've done that & gotten married, you can then consider having a baby more seriously! Good Luck!

If you really want a baby - you need to consider if you are going to love it. If the answer is - " of course I will" then you need to consider all the things a loving parent will want to provide their baby with - a home - transportation - clothes - food - toys - an education - vacations - trips to the zoo - etc...and all that stuff will not be done if there isn't a job. Of course there is always welfare and I am not knocking it completely because my mother needed it when my dad left - but it would be wrong to have a baby thinking that welfare will just pay for everything. You are right about not getting married until he can prove he can hold down work. Remember, if you have to work several jobs to support the baby - why have it in the first place because the two of you will never see each other and that is not good for the baby. No offense to anyone because I know "things happen" but to purposely have a child with no money is insane and that is one of the biggest problems with our world.

are you saying you can't marry your boyfriend because he doesn't have a stable job? If he isn't working regularly how do you expect to be able to afford having a baby? I started wanting a baby when I was 14 years old. when I finally got what I wanted 4 years later I had to work 3 jobs to support just the two of us because he dad didn't have a steady job either. Before you go making plans to get yourself pregnant make sure you can provide for the things that baby will need.