How do you raise a "good kid" in today's society?

I certainly agree that there is no certainty of success in growing up kids these days where temptations are everywhere. But believe me, if you raised them well, that is, love them unconditionally, etc., by always being there for them, the chances of them going astray is very slim. Of course, I agree that there is really no certainty, that's why we always have to pray for our children's safety and well-being as we are not always arond to give parental advice when they go out to the world and "test their wings". But that's part of the risk that we take as we allow them to be independent as part of their training. I am a mother of two grown up children, aged 25 and 22, and believe me, it was not easy raising them up according to what we have hoped they would be. But with lots of prayers and parental guidance, I have seen how they (my children) grew in wisdom and sound judgement...I am glad I raised them well. The secret formula? There is none...we parents just have to trust our instincts, and our kids. Let God take care of the rest. God bless...

you might think that what you are doing doesn't seem to seep in your child's behavior. just keep trying to tell them the right thing. you are doing the right thing. i think the best way to teach your children is to be a leader or a inspiration for them. they will look up to you and copy whatever you do good or bad in life.

We are on the same boat. I fear so much also for my kids. I want them to grow as good people. But with so many temptations, I dunno if they can make it. But I always pray to God to take care of them. Well, that's the best thing I can do.

Two things: 1. Model the kind of behavior you want to see in your kids. 2. Don't hesitate to give a judicious spanking when the need presents itself.

One of the best things you can do is make your house the preferred hang-out. You'll be able to keep an eye on things without looking nosy or controlling and you'll give other kids whose parents aren't so conscientious a look at family life. Those same friends will also be less likely to lead your child astray if they hold you in such regard as they care what you would think if they did something bad. This worked with me and also with my two boys who are now 19 and 20. I think the whole key to this method is that the family stays close and truly cares about what the other members think about them.

I have raised 2 kids and they both turned out good i think the best thing you can do is be consistant and listen,listen,listen because they will talk to you if you listen,, Make your home a place where they will not be ashamed to bring their friends home to. Always make their friends confortable and have special snack for them then you know whats going on all the time because its going on in your home

The fact that you are asking yourself this question tells that you are mindful of your children's welfare at all times. Better to be a parent who reflects on their parenting and seeks to improve the little things along the way, than not to care at all. Honest, open communication with your children, respecting their decisions and being there to guide them when they ask for help will help them choose the right path. Setting boundaries and limits and letting them know when they have reached them, setting a good example for them and just plain loving them for who they are will help them build self confidence, and teaching them to be assertive (not aggressive), will help them to stand up to negative peer pressure. Guide them with your heart.