Anniversary of My mOther's Death
By worldwise1
@worldwise1 (14885)
United States
February 9, 2008 10:31am CST
Today is the first anniversary of my mother's death. She passed away on February 9, 2007 -three days following her 85th birthday. I think the fact that I have been dreading this day so much has actually helped me to face it so well. Maybe that's because I've thought about her so much during the past week, I can now remember the beautiful funeral service without a lot of sadness. It was just the way she would have wanted. Added to that, I know that she is free from the pain and misery she had been enduring for some time. I just know in my heart that she is truly resting in peace.
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
9 Feb 08
So it is a good thing this day has come, and you are excepting and excepting that your mom is in a better place free from pain. She must have had a good life with a good son like you
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@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
9 Feb 08
Yes, winterose, she is in a better place, and I only wish I could have been a better DAUGHTER than I had been.
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
9 Feb 08
oh I am so sorry I don't know why I thought you were a man, please forgive me I did not mean to offend you,
I am the stupid one
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@loudhummer14 (535)
• Philippines
9 Feb 08
im sure you're mom is happy wherever she is now. and she is constantly watching over you. i'm not really close to my mother, we argue most of the time -- but i cannot even begin to imagine losing her. i don't know how i'd be able to accept that.
@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
9 Feb 08
My mother and I had the same kind of relationship for a long time, loudhummer, but as I got older I mellowed out and we no longer were at odds so much as before.
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@carolbee (16230)
• United States
9 Feb 08
I know it's a difficult time and you are right, she is resting in peace. My heart is with you.
Both my parents are gone and it was difficult. Our kids were younger so they didn't get a great deal of time to know my parents. That's what was hard for me to handle as well as losing two parents I loved dearly. I know they are resting in peace and out of their misery. Both suffered from Alzheimer's.
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@shrub62 (42)
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11 Feb 08
I lost my mother 14 years ago and I still think of her often throughout my days. There are times I catch myself thinking about showing her things and then realize she is no longer there. It certainly gets easier but you never quit thinking about them.
@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
9 Feb 08
Yes, the first anniversary is the toughest. Actually the first year I have always found to be the toughest year because it's the first of everything where your loved one has not been.. Like the first holiday...
My Mom has been gone now for 28 years this May and though I think of her once in a while, the pain I felt in the early years is not there..:)
@Ohara_1983 (4117)
• Kuwait
10 Feb 08
your right it not easy to be lost loveones, atleast know she is resting with out any pain. everybody will goes in same place where your mother is, but we have our on time, still we dont know when & what will happen atleast to those people who rest already specially resting in peace like your mom.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
10 Feb 08
I am coming to this post a day late so I hope the day wasn't too painful.It is good that you can remember her and not be too sad. Take care.
@mummymo (23706)
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10 Feb 08
I am so pleased that you are taking the anniversary do well worldwise sweety and I know that no matter what there was a pain in a part of your heart! I lost my mum when I was a toddler but I seemed to accept it as I grew up - when I lost my Grandad however 9 years ago I have never known such pain and alhough it gets easier it is always still there. It is so healthy that you realise she is at peace and pain free but I will still be keeping you in my prayers today! xxxx
@ctrymuziklvr (11057)
• United States
9 Feb 08
This is something I'm not looking forward to believe me! I"m already worrying about holidays that are going to come and the void that will be there without my Mom. Like you I keep telling myself how much better off she is and having no pain or having to deal with the "always there" family problems that we all threw at her and she worried about. I'm happy to hear that you're making it through this day so well and can only hope I will be able to do the same come next Jan. 2.
@izathewzia (5134)
• Philippines
9 Feb 08
I'm glad you can now take it lightly. God always have a plan for everything. And your mom's demise is part of it. Hope you realizes things as they should be.
@freyaorfrigga (2)
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9 Feb 08
I know what that pain is like. My mom passed away 6 years ago this last December (which makes the holidays tough every year). Her 52nd birthday would have been on the 5th this month. I won't say that it gets easier as time goes on or that the gaping hole left inside will be filled with something else but the pain decreases after a while.
Its great that you can remember the beauty of that day and not just the bad. I had a hard time with that for a couple years.
@emmasmomma (340)
• Canada
10 Feb 08
It's nice to hear that you have come to some sort of peace with the passing of your mother. My mother has cancer and has been suffering for a couple of years now and the thought of losing her absolutely terrifies me. It's comforting to know that you were able to cope over this trying time. My thoughts are with you.
@GardenGerty (160978)
• United States
9 Feb 08
There are several on here who have lost their mother's in recent times. I think examining your grief and preparing yourself for this anniversary was therapeutic, and talking about it is too. I think that is part of why myLot is so beneficial to people.
@Liasonfan (1702)
• Canada
9 Feb 08
AAAwww my sympathies are with you. I knoow how hard today must seem for you, Cherish the memories and God Bless you. Please know that good thoughts and prayers are with you.
