Can Everyone be a Winner all the time???

I will kick my 5 year olds butt in Go Fish and make him cry. I will get a better score on DDR when I play with my 11 year old and piss her off. I will win a race faster than my 6 year old on a PS2 game. I am not one of those people who let there children win. When I beat them and they get upset I tell them that not everyone wins all the time and when you lose at something you should just try harder the next time and the more times you do something the better you are going to be at it. With children who don't win first place to get prizes makes me mad. I entered my avatar in a Sunburst Baby Pageant. She came in 1st place but all 11 other babies in her age group all got trophies too. Even though she got a bigger trophy and paid admission to the state pageant I thought it was unfair. If we don't challenge our children to better themselves then we are just asking for them to accept the mentality of "even if I just skate by it will be just good enough." Not my kids, no way! Great discussion +

Yes, but not necessarily. I have played sports my whole life. And one team wins and one loses. Hovever, I believe that in whatever you are doing and you gave everything that you got, knowing that would give them some sort of accomplishment and good feeling, then yes you are a winner. But I am sure there are a lot of people out there that do the very least to get by. And those are the losers.

Good discussion. Well, my son has competitions where only a few kids win...but the thing that worries me is that HE wins everytime. I think he needs to lose sometimes too. He expects to win all the time...though he does say that participation is the main thing and not the prize. But I could see that he was a little upset (which is natural) when he didn't win at some non-school event. Fortunately, with two experiences he realized that he can't win all the time and he seems to have taken it in his stride. Earlier he would get upset even if he was unsuccessful at things he was doing (nothing to do with competition)...instead of trying again he would stomp off and I had to teach him that sometimes people fail in the first attempt and maybe he needs to work a little harder. I feel there should be a balance of both. If it is the effort that counts, then all kids can be the winner....but overall I feel that the competition is good and children will strive to better themselves. But the point here is that the competition should be healthy and about doing the best one can and not about beating another.

well..i don't think that every kid can be a winner every time..Every kid has got his own pace and speed of grasping and doing things,but it is often seen that parents push them and put them in pressure just to come first in the heavily competitive world..It can't be blamed on the parents alone because every parent would like to see his/her child to be a winner,not a loser.It will do only good to the child also.So i don't exactly know how we can solve the entire problem and I think every parent should thin for them self and find out the solution..anyway I have seen a hindi film called "Taare zameen par" ..it shows this problem and is really heart touching in which a father imposes pressure on his second son who is too poor in studying to be like his elder son who is very brilliant..in the process the child becomes too pressurized and slips out of the reach of parents..and one of the child's teacher finds the real talent in the child and bring it out by encouraging him and being with him..it is a suprb film..every parents should see it...

Hello Skinnychick, For every winner there is a loser. Losing makes us try to be better, if we win all of the time, whats the point in even playing. When kids start out in sports, they are out to show that they are better then everyone else. If they all win a prize, that kind of takes something away from the ones that won. Just my two cents anyways. Take care, Terry

yes i think there should be winners and loosers but i dont think that we should let children run it in the loosers face or anything or make them feel like they suck!

Totally agree, not everyone wins in life. Yeah, a kid who never loses will always think that he is superior and couldn’t be bitten. He will be contented with what he has achieved and never try hard for any improvement. As he has grown up when he encounters any failure definitely he will never be able to take it. He will become deeply depressed and loses confidence in life. So I regard failure at early stage as an immunization for any difficulties encounter in life in the future.

should b definite winners....