You can only really fall in love once?
By winterose
@winterose (39887)
Canada
February 9, 2008 9:42pm CST
do you believe that you can only really fall in love once in a lifetime, or that you can fall in love many times.
some people say when the heart has been heart so badly it resists falling that deeply again,
others say that is totally crazy you can love and fall in love many times in a lifetime if you are put in a situation where you are single again and you have to.
what say you?
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11 responses
@princessa200145 (616)
• United States
10 Feb 08
what is the basis is it love or lust u have to decide what it is i have been in love alot of times and pretty much been hurt most of them times but i just buck it up and keep looking i dont even thing twice i am already to try again but lately its been slim pickings what are your requirements for it really being love or just lust how do u define the 2 maybe i am just 2 aggressive
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
10 Feb 08
Well all that I will say is there is different types of Love
I have found a Person now that I will say well truly I love
I guess you can fall in love more then once but never the same way
But then again I thought I loved my Ex Husband
And I guess I did but not as much as I thought I did
As now I know what Love is and I certainly never felt that way with my Ex Husband but then again he was not the Person I thought I had married
@CanadaGal (4304)
• Canada
24 Feb 08
I believe we are capable of falling in love with many people in our lives. In my experience so far in relationships, each new relationship has brought to me a stronger and more intense feeling of love for my mate. At the stage I am in right at this moment, I cannot fathom being more in love with someone as I have been with my last boyfriend, but I am open to the possibility, eventually. I hope.
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@cynicalandoutspoken (4725)
• United States
10 Feb 08
I say that everybody's heart is different. Some people totally emotionally shut down after their heart gets broken and never want to love again. So the don't allow themselves to ever do so.
Others fall in love easily after their heart gets broken because the ability to love someone else eases their hurt and pain. Each of us is different and it is a good thing too.
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
10 Feb 08
yes that goes without saying that I mentioned already but what do you feel, do you believe in love at first sight?
@cynicalandoutspoken (4725)
• United States
10 Feb 08
Lust at first sight Yes. Love, not so much. You cannot possibly ever "fall in love" with someone you have just met. At least that would be my opinion.
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@HACOCO (23)
• Nigeria
10 Feb 08
One thing you dont know is this,your 1st love remain your 1st lov ebut you can do away with that person if you wish it be.
But finding love every now and then,it is real you just look up that person and love them its a feeling like you never had.
love you get it as you go around that if you want "a choice".
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@GardenGerty (160491)
• United States
10 Feb 08
I believe that you can love after loss. I know it hurts, and I know it happens. Each love you have will be different, and you will get there from a different path. I also believe that love is a choice. There may come times in a relationship when you do not like your partner as well, but you can still choose to love, and stay and work on that relationship, do the loving things. I actually think that in a relationship you may fall in love over and over again, and if by some misfortune that relationship ends, I believe if you choose to, you may love again.
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@rarrimalion (674)
• United States
10 Feb 08
no you cannot. Unless the ONLY thing you love about someone is their looks. You can't look at someone and know who they are, on the inside. THere is LUST at first sight, but that's not love. Love comes when you start to know someone.
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@whyaskq (7523)
• Singapore
10 Feb 08
I used to believe one can only fall in love once. Reality has proven to me that one can fall in love more than once. The irony is that one also can fall in love with two different people at the same time regardless whether one is single, attached or married. I guess that when one can fall out of love, it is only logical that one can fall in love again. That's the miracle of love.
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@kwcfbcby (9)
• China
10 Feb 08
i think people fall in love coz they feel lonely. they keep the relationship coz they feel sweet. it's just like enjoying warm gentle breeze,which may make you feel a little bit dizzy, so people say people in love are foolish. when they feel boring, they'll break up naturally. it's possible to fall in love many times. the reason why they get into marriage is that they've found out they are soulmates. However, in this world, more marriages are not about soul and emotion. gradually, love turns into a habit.
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