do i have to get a nanny ???

Involve him with his brother. Let him help with the changing process, get the nappy (diaper) ready and let him put talc or cream on the baby during changing. In other words, make him feel an important part of the family unit. Sit him on a chair and let him hold the baby, and form a bond with his brother. If you are bottle feeding, let him help out by feeding for a while, even just holding the bottle whilst you hold the baby, and supervise. Let him help with the making up of the bottles, putting on and taking off the baby's socks and mitts. All the little things that will make him feel loved, involved and important. I'm sure this will help. There were only twenty months between mine, but I did this from the beginning. Brightest Blessings.

have you ever thought about haveing your 3 yr old help you when it comes to feeding ,bathing, changing and diapering the baby .This way he will feel like he is helping and being a big brother in helping mommy and daddy take care of his litle brother.

I think the most important thing to do is keep the older child involved with the care of the baby. Have him take care of getting the diapers and clothes need after a bath. Let him help with the bath by letting him wash the babies tummy. Keep talking to him while caring for the baby. when you set down to feed the baby ask the 3 year old to come sit beside you. Tell him how important he is to you and to his new brother too.

the best thing to do is get him into helping with the baby like he could bottle feed the baby while you set close by. This usually make s them feel big and inportant! Good luck . No nanny not good its up to you to raise the kids not put them on some one else

It's very hard for a child that age to comprehend that just because there is a new baby in the house that he is still loved just as much. They will act out or do anything to get your attention because they don't know how to distungish having a new baby around. Give him time, i don't think you need to run out and get a nanny just yet. Try and set a certain amount of time just for him and explain to him that you love him just as much as before the new baby arrived. Eventually he will learn to accept and love that baby and know that the baby hasn't taken his place in your home. My sons went through the same thing when i had my daughter, although they were a bit older. They would act out tremendously just to get my attention and i had to set a certain amount of time just for them so that they didn't feel they were being replaced. it could take a little bit of time, but he will come around and become that child you had before you had a new baby. Good luck and keep us posted. God bless

Usually children are insecure when there's new baby sister or brother specially when their parent's attention is in new baby. try to let him play with him and tell him that you love both of them and give him the same attention you're giving to his brother. Nanny won't work he'll feel that he's rejected by you that's why you get another person to care take of him. he'll feel more insecure and do more thing to attract your attention.