How long is enough?

@winterose (39887)
Canada
February 10, 2008 2:48pm CST
You the reader are waiting on your friend at a meeting place, she or he is late, how long do you wait? 5 minutes, 10 minutes, 30 minutes and 1hr, what is a respectable amount of time to wait? now what if you were going to an important meeting and if you waited you would be late, would you wait anyway and both of you would be late for the meeting, or would you go on ahead and hope he or she catches up?
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@layanby (78)
• Argentina
10 Feb 08
it depend were is the place, if i take 20 min to reach there i will wait 10 min.. i guess a respectable time will be betwenn 15- 30 min. 2- i will never be late to a meeting becouse the other person is not make it on time...
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@kykidd (6812)
• United States
10 Feb 08
If I was just meeting someone for a drink or dinner, I think I would wait 45 minutes in the bar area. Long enough to have a drink. If we were supposed to be somewhere, I would maybe wait 20 minutes. With cell phones today there is no reason to be late and not call unless something has happened and you aren't going to make it anyway.
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• United States
11 Feb 08
i wait about 20 minutes if she comes after that i am gone we keep in touch by cell phone if she calls and tells me she is on her way i will stay other wise 20 mins tops is as long as i will wait thanks for the info on my man situation i guess i will stop dating i am not the needy type and have always asserted my independance. so thats not the problem if we were scheduled to be somewhere i would wait 20 minutes guaranteeing the distance needed to travel and hopefully they will catch up i am prompt i hate being late so they would understand im sure
@bear_cute (124)
• Malaysia
12 Feb 08
Hi friend,as your information I'm very hate if I force wait my friend.Actually I don't want waste my time for wait my friend which late.I get permission go first and I hope she catches up.Always my friend can't catches up me.
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@madlees (1377)
• India
12 Feb 08
these are the days of mobiles and no one need be late without informing. Don't you think so? If one gets late and cannot be there at the appointed time, then it is his / her responsibility to call up and tell the other person. If I was the person waiting then if I don't get a call I'll try to call the other person to find out where they are stuck. If i cannot find out I might wait for a little longer and then make a move particularly if I have a preappointment elsewhere. I shouldn't make the same mistake.. right?
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
13 Feb 08
not everyone has a cellphone, I do not have one, many of my friends do not have one either, there is really no way to get in touch with a person once they are both on the road.
• Canada
12 Feb 08
Probably the longest I'd wait is 10 minutes. Whenever the bus takes longer than 10 minutes to come, I get impatient. And for the second thing, I'd wait, I hate going alone to public stuff.
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
13 Feb 08
me too I don't like to go to places alone, of course I do if I have to but I always like company
@GardenGerty (160696)
• United States
10 Feb 08
If my friends were more than ten to fifteen minutes late, I would begin to be worried about them. I would see what I could do about alerting the meeting, and finding my friend. I am thinking here of close friends. Not so close friends, I would not wait so long as to be late for the meeting. I would put those people as acquaintances.
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
11 Feb 08
I would go ahead by myself. I hate being late for things. I would hope they catch up but I just could not stand around and wait for them even though I would feel bad but I have to be on time.
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@whyaskq (7523)
• Singapore
11 Feb 08
I do wait up to 30 minutes before I give the person a call. If I do not get a response, at most I wait for an hour not before sending a message to his phone. However, if I know that by waiting for him, it is better one late than both late. I will wait until the last minute when I knew I had to move off or I would be late. The rest can wait.
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@ratyz5 (7808)
• Philippines
11 Feb 08
I could wait for more than five hours. I mean, I was able to do that one time. It just so happens that I don't want people to wait for me in some way but, I'm okay if I could wait for them. At least they'd send word if they're going to be late or something, right? If I was to decide if its either us or my friend alone to be late for an important meeting, I wouldn't be late for the event since, it is important after all..
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• Indonesia
11 Feb 08
Hmm... Well, i'd like to wait about 30 minutes
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• United States
11 Feb 08
If friend and I were going to an important meeting and friend was not there, I'd go ahead and go to the meeting without friend and hope he/she catches up. Hopefully, friend has a good reason for lateness. Generally speaking, I would wait 30 minutes for a friend. Then i'd leave. Before leaving, i'd attempt to contact said friend via cellphone to determine what's going on.
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• Canada
11 Feb 08
I woudl defintly consider myseslf a patient person but i dont really like waiting on someone like in a restaurant or at pub or something. I think if the person is more than 20 min late i wouls have to find out whats going on. Of course this is depending on the person i am waiting on. If i know them to be punctual i wouldnt wait so long.
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@beinola (45)
• United States
11 Feb 08
I am so glad we have cell phones. If someone is late, I usually give them around 15 minutes, then I call. If there is no answer, I leave a message stating that if they are not there in another 15 minutes or I don't get a phone call, I move to plan B and no longer wait. The real question is what is a respectable time to show up if you are the person who is late? How long do you expect someone to wait? The person who is waiting, as a courteous gesture, MAY wait if they want, but as far as etiquette goes, they can leave when they want. If there is a meeting pertaining to your job, you should be on time--bar none. It is the other person's problem if they are late, but they shouldn't expect YOU to be late because they can't get their act together. That's just crazy talk and really too much for anyone to ask. I would never put my job in jeopardy over somebody being late--except if there was a life-threatening situation.
@madasp (563)
• United States
10 Feb 08
After about 15 minutes I would call if I could and if I can't get ahold of them I would leave. It also depends on the person and the situation. I have one friend who is never on time so I know to plan for the wait. If I had to be somewhere at a certain time I would leave in time so that I wouldn't be late. I hate being late, i'm almost always early.
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