Would you really want to know what everybody actually thinks or says about you?

What u said is correct even i have experienced the same thing in my life. ours is a joint family and my cosister always used to talk back abt me once i heard that and now iam not talking to her for the past three years being in the same house. it is very difficult to be in the same house like a rat and a cat . if it is among friends i think its not that much uncomfortable since they dont live together.bye

Ide love to know what everybody in my local neighbourhood thought about me. At least ide know where I stood.

This is a natural thing that ecry one thinks of u while u are taking to him or her. anbd it is a natural thinking so it is nice . but all the time we are unabl;e to know what the other is thinking while we are taking to him.

I always would have said that I would want to know. Then my friend got a new girlfriend who lived in another part of the country. Before this there were six of us who used to hang out together and we had known each other a long time. Then my friend said the new girlfriend wa moving here to live with him. We were happy for him, we had met her twice and she seemed OK. But when she came here he never came out any more. We only saw him if we met in the street. Then one day (I was away on vacation) the gang invited them both to come for lunch and she confided that she found me intimidating. I didn't find out about this until about three years later - two weeks ago. I was really hurt and to be honest i wish I'd never wondered aloud why this girl didn't want to hang out with us. Now i guess I won't ask stuff like that; you sometimes hear things you don't want to!

well i dont have to worry about that b/c i dont have any friends I do wonder what my family or my fiances family think though. I got rid of all my fiends for this reason and for the reason that I just grow out of them. Now I'm just waiting for that one true friend that I have always been waiting for. will I ever have a true friend it gets lonley having no friends. I do talk to my neighbor across the street but its just not really there for me it is for her but she just isnt what I want in a friend. OH well one day i will find someone i can trust and be awsome with LOL you know what i mean

Quite honestly, I don't care what people think or say about me. I quit caring a long time ago because I am a good person and that is all that matters. I try not to talk about other people because it can be hurtful. I don't have any friends other than aquiantances, except for my husband who is my best friend. It's to much trouble and drama and really don't have the time or patience for that kind of bull. My family, my mother's side anyways, is very supportive and they don't talk bad about people either. I don't associate with my father or his side of the family cause it's always drama. I focus on myself and how I treat people and don't focus on how they treat me. Sometimes it's a good thing, but other times people feel they can take advantage of it. Anyways, i think i'm rambling now so i'll end this. LOL! I'm sorry you had to overhear a conversation about you from a friend and a relative. That had to have been hard. Good luck and God bless

No I wouldn't want to know what everyone actually thought or said about me. If I don't know about it then it doesn't bother me. I always say people can say what they want about me as long as I don't hear it! As you indicated in your post the trouble is you can't "unhear" something. Once you've heard it then that's it, and things probably never can be the same again.

I would sometimes like to know what people think about me and, to be perfectly honest, I doubt I would have any less friends for knowing what they really thought. Partly because I don't have many real friends anyway but also because if I found out that a "friend" had talked about me in a negative way to someone else then I would not consider them to have been a friend in the first place.

I think it is best that we do not know everything that is said about us.I prefer to think that everyone has positive intentions towards me.

No, I absolutely wouldn't want to know what everybody says about me! I've been in situations many times in my life where one friend or relative seemed like they were dying to tell me something another person had said about me and I adamantly protest that I do NOT want to hear it! I don't like to talk about people especially if what I have to say could be hurtful or offensive but I think we have all at one time or another said something about someone we care about that could easily be taken out of context or that was just one of those "heat of the moment" comments but as you said, you can't unring a bell and once words have been spoken they can NOT be taken back. I'm a very sensitive person so I know if I knew someone had said something unkind about me, even in a joking manner, it would bother me from that moment on and I'd be like you in that I don't think I'd be able to maintain the relationship as it was so I'd simply rather not know unless of course what had been said were something that could be really damaging or hurtful to me or to someone I care about. Annie

well.... to be true its both yes and no..... as it is human nature... we would love 2 know wat others think and say about us... but the thing is when we overhear them backpinching or telling somethin bad we obviously feel sad and broken up... i think the same has happened with u... u must have had a lot of expectation on ur friend and relative and would have never expected them to behave so.... but after overhearing them u must have been shattered.. this would have happened with anyone of us... so if u feel that u should know everything wat others feel n say about u then u must also have the courage to face it boldly....

I agree with you I know for a fact that some of my friends talk about me behind my back, but as long as I dont hear them thats fine!!! I have never overheard anyone talking about me, but a couple of times I have had a text message by mistake off a couple of friends that were obviously not meant for me as the content of the texts was about me!!! At the time it was really upsetting and although I never confronted them my relationship was never the same again and I didnt keep in contact with them after that. You cant really because the trust has gone, you have to watch what you say and its just pointless.

it's sad to hear that kind of thing from your family and friends. it's true that you can't unring a bell. it really affects your relationship with them after you heard their conversation. you can't tell what's true or not or whether they are sincere or not when you're with them after that incident.

No I don't want to know what people say to me behind my back because that will hurt my feelings but if I do know what other people talk to me then that will even hurt me more but sometimes I do want to know what people talk about me like having a crush on me or something.

I try never to speak badly about a person. When I am friends with someone, I accept and understand that there things about them that I don't like. I focus on the things I do like. When I converse with someone about a friend, and the other person is trying to bring this person down, I will interject and tell them the good points about this person. This usually stops them in their tracks. So sad that your friend and family member thought so little of you to talk about you in a manner that would hurt your feelings.

wish you hadnt heard either but then you have to weigh if you really want to keep being friends if you do let her or he know that you heard this and ask the meaning or was they reall felt that it was true about you and why did they say it. I have dont this to several people and they were imbarassed about it and some stayed friends and others didnt. I say thats thier loss not mine!

I quit worrying about what everyone thinks about me or says about me a long time ago. I'm sure if I knew it all, I'd likely be disappointed to find that some who I thought were friends were not loyal and were talking badly about me. I just try to be the type of friend to others that I would want them to be to me and move on. As Elusive said above, if someone starts speaking bad about a friend of mine I stop them and remind them that the person is my friend and I tell them good things about my friend.

I have very sensitive feelings, little glass feelings as my Dad calls them, and they are forever getting hurt. So being able to hear someone thinking horrible or mean things about me would be terrible. I would like to have the choice of listening in...it would come in handy to hear if someone is lying to you. **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~

I understand what you are saying I am not sure that I would want to know everything someone says about me. Otherwise I am not sure that I would want to be theire friend anymore or that I would ever look at them the same way again. One time I saw an email that my mum wrote to my sister about me, she said some hurtful stuff, I felt betrayed and I confronted her. That was a couple of years ago, I still do not today look at her the same way as I did, hard to trust someone after you know what they really say behind your back.

well yes its good to know about yourself even its good or bad but before it you should make your mind up that none of thing really matters than your belive in yourself..