don't you hate it when....
By maxsee212
@maxsee212 (799)
United States
5 responses
@CanadaGal (4304)
• Canada
11 Feb 08
Society tells us we should be upset if our significant other doesn't recognize certain events such as Valentine's Day. That is such a shame! It matters more what your lovers' actions are the other 364 days of the year, not just what they say or do on February 14th.
I will admit, I would have been hurt last year if my boyfriend at the time hadn't given me at least a card. It was a new relationship, and I succumbed to the marketing pressure by expecting at least a little something. I made sure I got him some things, but I wasn't trying to be "romantic". If anything, I was making fun of the event by giving him tacky stereotypical valentine's day things, plus a few extras because of some inside jokes between us.
I would have to say that for a NEW relationship, I would be hurt if I didn't get something to recognize Valentine's Day. However, seeing that I'm not in that situation now, it doesn't matter to me whether or not it is recognized. (what I do is focus on it for my kids... they're all in elementary school and do the card exchange and parties in their classes... so I have fun with that).
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@maxsee212 (799)
• United States
12 Feb 08
we are so unique, each and everyone of us. we have also our own free will and with this free will we can do whatever we want as long as we abide by the rules and regulations of the nation we are living in. no matter what anybody does on valentines day, nobody has the right to say you are doing someting wrong on this special day because in my opinion we can do the heck we want and celebrate valentines day however we want. if you want to spend your time with your kids on valentines day then so be it as long as your willing to do it and you stand by it and try to have fun.
@ohwellie (140)
•
11 Feb 08
Valentine's day is just another day, and I think it seems pointless to give and recieve gifts for no reason. If you love someone then in what way does chocolate prove that, and why should you only show it one day of the year?
I don't expect anything from my boyfriend, and he doesn't expect anything back.
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@maxsee212 (799)
• United States
11 Feb 08
i like it when you said you don't expect anything from your boyfriend. i think that you are on a right path to have a longer relationship with your boyfriend when you stop having expectations that your boyfriend can't deliver.
@kykidd (6812)
• United States
11 Feb 08
I don't think it would bother me so much. I think maybe in the first years you are together it may, but after you get to know someone you usually discuss these things ahead of time. Or you just have a good idea about what they are going to do.
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@maxsee212 (799)
• United States
11 Feb 08
ok, who cares about material things when you have each other? i think the best thing to do on a valentines day is to tell him/her that you love him/her no matter what.
