How do I tell him he smells really bad?

The problem is, is that I suspect that he doesn't realise that he smells. Perhaps you could have a quiet word with you son and, conspiratorially, suggest to him that his friend smells and has he noticed it? From there you could introduce the subject into a conversation with both boys. Something along the lines of (at the end of a hard day's playing), "poo, you two pong", head your own son in the direction of the bathroom and tell his friend that you look forward to seeing him again when he's had his bath/shower whatever and got some clean clothes. That way, the friend won't feel that he is being singled out. You might well find, especially if you tend to treat him as one of the extended family already, that he is quite receptive to your "nagging".

Best thing u can do is, gift him a deodrant or a perfume. Dont gift him on a special occasion. Just gift him. Then, he may ask you the reason for the gift. Somhow try to pass on the message to him ;) Good luck!

We had a friend in junior high school that was from another country and she had just come to canada to live and did not know about such things as deoderant and things for personal hygiene, so we all pooled some money together and bought her a welcoming present which included one of those "teen packs" with soaps, shaving cream, disposable razor, deoderant, tampons and all that stuff. We also got her something to go along with it like a teddy bear or something i can't remmeber, but that did the trick and her feelings didn't seem to be hurt. You could do something like that for him.. I dun no what kind of occassion you could give it to him for.. but i'm sure you have a better imagination then i do.

if you do this in the wrong way his feelings will be hurt. I lost my sense of smell a long time ago so i am very sesitve about how i smeall..but he should be made aware of his BO as this is not going to go away by itself..does he bathe regulary? does he change his clothes when they get stinky? maybe he reeks because of his diet or his environment. a fox does not smell its own den. a talk with the childs teacher may help as they have counselors. i had a fellow soldier in the Air Force that was like this..so I told my first Sergeant and he called him in and it helped..as the man got counseling and was made aware of his problem.. but a child of this age is not aware of his Bo but I am sure he has hear comments and children and some adults can be very cruel..i know.it hurts..as also i am obese but i am dietig and exercising but i also was told by friend and loved ones (and some enemies) that i looked like a pregnant man..do you think i liked hearing this? no..but it is true so now i lost 25 pounds and orking on losing another 25 but also have to watch my smelling bad as I smell just as bad too..but my wife never really nag me as she always love me uncondionally and this helps out the most

I once had this problem with a friend of mine. I didn't break it to him very easily. I bought him deodorant and colonge for christmas one year. I told him to use it. It worked. lol. For a 7th grader I would say bring up the subject of some deodorant that your son may use and how good he smells with it. I'm not downing the parents of him in any way but maybe his parents have not taught him about hygeine very well. Maybe you can do that in a tactful way to him. If you hurt his feelings he is young and will bounce back. It's better that you do it knowing him well then someone that doesn't know him well does first. Good luck to you on this.

the best that you can maybe do is to organize a sort of activity where it involves bathing. i used this thing for a nephew who just arrived from the province. he smelled saltwater. but he was so young that i had a hard time explaining him. so what i did was i let him and my other nephew (the one who grew up with me) play in the shower for hours. then arranged all their clothes on the bed. put some baby cologne and lotion. i then told my nephew who arrived from the province to do whatever my other nephew would do. i trained my nephew how to groom his self properly. now i don't have a problem with saltwater fragrances. LOL. he knows the right way to groom his self. and it wasn't so offending because he just observed what my other nephew did, and followed it.

All human beings stink like animals. Some snimals have some cleaning system of their own. One of the best cleaning system known to mankind is taking bath everyday. To great extent, one can get rid of the body odour. Some person's constitution of the body is as such they keep perspiring even if they walk. It is always better to take a bath either in the night. In our community (Hindus), we prefer to take bath in the morning everyday so we feel afresh. This will help the porasity of the skin to open up and skin can breathe and a good health can be maintained. Keeping the body clean and free from odour is a part of personal hygiene. You can tell your older son to just give a hint to his friend. This may change.

Is he a little slow maybe? I mean, I just thought it was kinda strange you say he is a 7th grader and your son is a third grader and their good friends. anyways... ya know, maybe you could just buy him a little care package of some deodorant and body wash or something. maybe his family doesn't do that for him. My middle son is a little chunky and I notice he can start to smell too, even with baths lol.. so I went and got him cologne and deodorant and all kinds of stuff. I really didn't think he needed that kinda stuff being this young (9 yrs) but he does, and he really loved getting the colognes and deodorants, it makes him feel more mature. maybe this kid just needs a helping hand. I dont know his family but maybe they just dont do this for him or maybe even they are the same way. u never know.

As a mother of 3 boys 2 grown and a 13 year old still at home, I have experienced every kind of locker room smell there is. Recently on of the boys who hangs out at my house started developing foot oder. BIG TIME. everyone that comes into my living room must take off their shoes. This one particular night, Poor Arther's feet nearly knocked me over, I had no choice but to ask him to go into the bathroom wash his feet well and spray out his sneakers with some febreeze. Both did the trick. But now he knows me rather well, and with all the puberizing boys around my house, it is a common thing for me to buy grooming kits such as AXE at holidays and birthdays. Lots of communication using humor as its basis, humor will help relieve some of those awkward, hurt feelings. I have always been very open with my boys and their friends about the changes that are happening to them and I think this has made a big difference in how they see me when I have to say.... STOP YOU STINK! I laugh at their fart jokes and locker room talk as long as it does not get to vulgar. He might feel a bit put off but if you do it right with jovial coaching, he will follow through and thank you for it in one form or another.

Well, I suggest that before he begin to play with your son, ask your son and his friend to take a bath or shower and change into clean clothes which you may perhaps provide for him. Observe if he still smells bad. Coz probably he's just lazy to take a bath. If he still smells bad after the bath, ask him to take a bath again and let him use a deodorant. Maybe it is on the food that he eats. Sometimes some people smells bad due to the kind of food they eat. You can tell him that as a friend of his son you are also concern about him and his hygiene and you can tell him in a manner that he will not be offended.

If he really smells that bad then you should probably talk to him or his mother. If you don't want to talk then you could always get him a hygiene care package for his birthday or something. Deodorant, cologne, and some other stuff.

i am not good at advising but maybe you should just talk to him or his mother or just present him with a body deodarant with a tag or something like that

Wow thats a really difficult question. I am happy I am not a parent yet. If you are in grade 7 you have the age of 11 I think? Maybe you can just talk to him private or else warn his mother. Ask her if she noticed something and if she tried to do something against it. I think it's her responsibility to take care of her son. If she didn't notice then you can maybe talk to the boy. He's 11 maybe he is so grown-up that he understand?