How to say goodbye to the one you love???

It sounds like you really need just some time alone with you and your child. Get out of the relationship dance for at least six months, maybe even a year. You've been divorced ( so obviously the first marriage was not so good), you've been on and off with the jerk for about 5 years...and then you jumped right into another relationship after just getting out of the second one. It isn't healthy to do to yourself. Yes we need love, and you are probably forever going to be involved with this man since you have a child...so to get to a place of civil accord it would be best to have only contact with him concerning your child. Communicate with the father of your child that you can't get back into a relationship with him, because the relationship you had was unhealthy and unproductive for both of you. At this time you need space from him and that communication will be limited to child related stuff. Take the next year off from men. Make or get back in touch with some female friends. Find yourself again. After being married and divorced, then involved with a man who plays on your emotions, you need time to sort out who you are---what you want for you own life and what kind of person it is you want involved in your life. Change can be scary and being alone can seem scary, but sometimes it is what we need to bring self discovery. Get back to what you like, what you want, and how you want to live life. Spend time with your child and revel in motherhood for a while. Pick up a new hobby...something that is just for you...be it writing, cooking, crafting, reading, whatever it might be that sparks you, find it, try it all out to see what you like...and make something of it for just you. Explore what you like outside of men. Then once you feel like you have gotten yourself back, once you feel self confidence, self assurance, and like you have self esteem--which is basically loving yourself and accepting who you are---then start looking for a new man. This might take a few months, or it might take a few years...however long it takes is how long you need to rediscover yourself. There is a difference between being an idiot and being an optimist. You are not an idiot, you just want someone who you loved to love you back the with respect and caring. This man doesn't respect you and you have to accept that. If he can't treat you with caring, kindness, respect, and love then he isn't worth your time. Those are things that make a great love. We have to realize as women, that we can't fall in love with the right man if we don't have self esteem or know who we are. This is the dangers of jumping from one bad relationship to the next. It isn't the men it is us---but what I mean by that is that we pick jerks as a way of punishing ourselves. Our negative self talk becomes self prophetic and we act out our negativity through loving the wrong men. There are plenty of loving, caring, genuine men out there, but we have to have the self esteem and self confidence to attract them and be attracted to them. So work on yourself first, work on being a loving and good parent to you child...then look for the love of a good man.

First of all stay away from any one. why are you again with that abusive person? I think you will never find happiness with him. he is there to cheat you and hurt you. say him goodbye and never fall for him.