To Be or NOT To Be in a Relationship
By mj_jabez
@mj_jabez (59)
Philippines
February 11, 2008 8:54pm CST
I have admired this girl for a long time now. But I have never told her about my feelings for her. Recently, I just felt an urge to tell her about it. But everytime I come near her, I dont know what to do anymore. Im petrified by the awkwardness I feel. I do not what to say to her, how will I act? Whenver I am away with her I always think of her, and wanting to confess all my feelings to her. But when I look at her, she seems to be of no interest to me.she never said that straight to my face though....
Guys, I dont want to dwell so much on my thoughts and apprehensions. What must I do? Yeah,,,I know this sounds desperate. But i need your opinion...thanks
2 responses
@Gesusdid (1676)
• United States
17 Feb 08
so you put your heart on the line towards this girl , but how did she respond , if she didnt return the same favor than id say leave her alone , you did the right thing first , telling her how you feel , but what i suggest you do , let her be and think on that, let her think about how she feels about you, and then again i think you came on too strong tho depending how long you two knew each other ...and yeah dont think about her that much cause if shes with another guy , than it will hurt you too much and then your imgae of her will change
@mj_jabez (59)
• Philippines
18 Feb 08
I guess you are right. i did feel i came on too strong... we have known each other for quite some time.. we go to the same university.... we are not really that close but we know each other by name because we've been classmates on some subjects...but we are really not that close.... perhaps the relationship i have to her is just acquaintance....
so i did tell her about my feelings but she told me that what she can offer is just plain frienship with no romantic side of it....
what will i do? will i leave her alone? or will i continue?
@mj_jabez (59)
• Philippines
20 Feb 08
I have decide not to pursue with this girl... I know it will be hard.. I will spend more nights thinking about her....but its okay..i can go through it until it will pass away....pushing myself to someone who doesnt like me is not really my style...eventually i can rise up from all these
@Gesusdid (1676)
• United States
18 Feb 08
she said that she only can make a friendship at this time , so let that be for right now and grow on that , accept her wishes, and then go on from there and see what you can do to make it go beyond that ..however dont become so emotionally involed into this because if it doesnt go anywhere in the following months or i hope not even years its a waste ..and she also might be very cautious of who she wants to be in a relationship with ...basically listen to her right now slow it down dont be so forceful but have your feelings close to you
@nanayangel (7879)
• Philippines
12 Feb 08
Hi there mj_jabez! I think that the only thing to do is tell her. I know it wouldn't be easy as you were talking how hard it is for you to just talk to her. But if you let every chance that you have pass by, you'll be living your life on what if's and if only's. You should do it. Even if she doesn't like you back, at least you did what you have to do. You won't be regretting that you ddin't try. Who knows, maybe it just doesn't show but maybe she likes you too. You wouldn't know if you don't try right? And if ever she tell you that she doesn't like you, just ask her if you can still be friends. And don't feel awkward around her. Be true to your words and be her friend.
