Breaking up is so hard to do

i hope you did the right thing. it seems you have taken enough time in taking the decision.. the good part of it is taht you have taklked with your BF for such a long time expressing your feelings and all. lets hope you get peace.

It is great that your boyfriend listened to you talking about your feelings. It is wonderful that you didn't have a row and shout at each other. Hopefully you feel relived that you have got all your problems with your boyfriend discussed. Perhaps he now knows that he is having a second chance and he has brushed his act up. He is serious about you and determined to try to make your relationship work. Three hours is a long duration for a detailed discussion. Well done for not splitting up but instead having the courage to try again. Yes, only time will tell if it does work out. Your friend might have offered an opinion but only you know how you feel about your boyfriend. Good luck.

Talking your problems through is the only way to move forward in your relationship. My boyfriend and I have talked through a lot of issues in the almost 2 years that we've been together. I hope everything works out for you the way you want it to and I wish you all the happiness in your life.

Is there anything that could be worked on or would everything require too much change? I'm not really in a position to provide advice since I'm in the same position, but my ex and I are deciding to take some time apart (I'm moving home for 3 months and then vacationing in Europe) but to stay friends and see if maybe it's just our timing that's off. I guess it all depends on if you really want to work on things with him or not and if what's making you unhappy is something that can be changed or not. He has to be willing just as much as you do though, if you decide you guys want to work on things and he's not putting out any effort then you're still going to be unhappy so make sure you guys are both on the same page if you want to continue on.

I sure do know what you mean. I left my husband last week after many months of thinking about it. We have been married for almost 11 years and so it was a hard thing to do. After not talking to him for almost a week he phoned me at my mom's and begged me to come back. I said not until we talk about all the things that have been bothering me. He really doesn't want to hear them but he knows that is the only way I am coming back. So since we can't seem to talk in person anymore, he just yells at me, he has finally agreed to go for marriage councilling. We had our first session last night and it didn't go well. He has agreed to go once a week for as long as it takes, but I am not putting all my hopes into it because I think after a couple sessions he will just give up on it and say we don't need it. So until we iron out some of our problems I will be staying at my mom's and we will just date for awhile and see what happens. If it doesn't work out I am moving to my daughters in another province and I will start my life all over again. This is a very hard thing for me since I am 50 years old and I can't work because of health issues, but I will have no choice and I will have to do something to make money. I will have to work and just suffer through my health problems.