Telling my father I'M pregnant

Hmmm, just think of it as respect to tell him since he is the grandfather. Even though he has already heard about it from someone else. As long as you yourself told him which also implies that you are confirming what he just heard from another person. Call your father and just tell. Whatever the reaction that he might give, good or bad, you did what you had to.

This only shows that after all that happened between you and your father, you still value him and love him. Otherwise, you will not be thinking about opening up things that are important to you such as the situation that you're in right now. Time heals everything. Maybe its about time to reach out to him who knows, all the while he has been waiting for you to come to him. If not, appreciate your courage of facing your father despite what happened. There is always a day when everything will turn out fine.

hi beyonce! ^__^ that has never happened to me, or anything like that. i always tell my parent every major thing that happens to me especially those that i cannot hide. and so i think that you really should tell him about your pregnancy. actually i think you should have told him earlier. but then, i really don't know your situation so i respect the idea that you have probably the reason why you are taking so long to tell him. your father is your baby's grandfather so he has the right to know about it. and he is your father, i think as her daughter, you owe him to tell him how are you doing. after all, he is a parent that worries about his kids. don't you think 5 or 6 years is already a long gap between you two? enough years that he had suffered and he had probably realized already why you weren't talking to him. and him being cold in the family reunion is probably because he is depressed from not seeing you. and i think that once you have talked with him, he'll be happy and he'll be delighted over your pregnancy news. ^__^ good luck!

I think if this is stressing you out that much then you should just call.I think you will feel better no matter what the outcome of the conversation is. Just remember if he decides not to be a part of you and your babies lives it his loss not yours. Good luck and congrats on your pregnancy.

Yes, yes, yes, why can't our parents just love us and be happy for the decisions we make and not be so critial of us? I was 18, pregnant and unmarried. I was living outside of my parents home. That was very hard to do but I got through it. My mom was worse than my dad. Mom wanted me to get an abortion because she resented me making her a grandmother. Why don't you write him a letter and tell him you would like for him to know his grandchild but there is ground rules. Tell him that he is to treat you and your child with love and respect. That is telling him but not confronting him. Then the ball is in his court. What if he is unhappy because he misses you? Some men do not know how to put the first foot forward and appolgize or make the first move to mend a relationship. I take care of mom who is in a nursing home I do not have time for my dad's crap. Mom and dad are divorced. I do not talk to dad becuse he say's thinks like "my children do not love me" and crap like that. We all have our parent issues so you are not alone. What I suggest is for you to learn by their mistakes and love your child/children for how they become as adults and do not critize them like your dad did you mom and you. Good luck.

my oldest daughter and her father were not close at all. he had almost nothing to do with her upbringing. When she became pregnant with my grandson, she faced the same dilema. She opted to call him and let him know. He has come around for and is a very positive part of his grandson's life. I doubt he would have been the one to call her because I think as he got older and she turned into an adult, he realized that he really did not know her. He maybe did not feel he deserved to be a part of the childs life since he wasn't a part of hers. I really don't know. but it has all worked out. You can't turn back time. I agree that your dad SHOULD call you but he hasn't so I think you should call him. What is the worst that can happen? He won't respond? your're used to that. Who knows? Maybe you will be pleasantly surprised.

TALK to him beyonce as I am in a similar situation with my husband and his daughter (from previous marriage) They stopped talking not long after we met, and they were pretty close or so I thought. Hence me blaming myself, but have tried to get them to communicate by staying away when there is something on that they would both be there, but both of them seem to be stubborn and still no resolve. In life we make mistakes but it can mean the difference between not resolving this before it is too late. Go ahead and call him.......

Oh well not exactly but I think you should wait till the baby actually comes. You can always call him up from the hospital and break the news to him. That way I am sure the very thought that he has become a grandfather will overwhelm him into accepting the situation gracefully and you will not have to face a tirade of uncomfortable questions. But all in all, relations are really important, so I don’t think you should leave it to the extended family to inform him first.

U better don't speak to your father now.After your baby born try to convey the msg that" u become a grand father" .why i am saying like this means.if do like this means it will create some exceptation in your father, and he may be eager to see the baby and baby's face may change your fathers mentality. This is the human nature,it will suites to any person.And i congrats for baby .i pray for u.i hope it will workout..

your poor father must be awful sad and lonely that he is "cold" at reunions and such. He must miss you, but maybe he lacks the courage to contact you. . . maybe he feels abandoned. put the ball back in his court - make the call. be patient and kind and forgiving. It may be the most pivotal time in your life this chance for renewal and he may be the most wonderful grandfather you could imagine. give him that chance, it will be less stressful for you - even if he rejects the opportunity - at least you will have tried.

First of all, my warm wishes to you for entering motherhood. You are really a good daughter. You respect your father even though he is not in good terms with you. You are absolutely right in your decision to call and inform your father about the pregnancy thing and give him the happiness of becoming a grand parent. I feel that you should give him a call without worrying about the outcome. May be he is waiting for your call. Forgive and forget. Give him one chance and inform him. Only after calling you will know what is really in his mind. All the best to you and hope your child gets love from grandparents too. Take care.

come on beyonce, it's atime to celebrate in your life and for your father as well. Alwaya time will change anybody and anything and do inform your father about his grand child's expected arival and am sure ho'll definitely welcome it.

You're right, for respect you have to call him up and let him know that he'll be a grandfather soon, hopefully he'll be glad . whatever the outcome , at least you did your part as a daughter.

I don't know how old you are but honey let me tell you STRESS will bring sickness to your body and it will KILL you and you are really doing alot of harm to your baby. Life is too short take a deep breath and get over whatever your dad has done to you or your mother. Tell him that your pregnant. It doesn't matter if he likes it or not because the baby is about to be born. Give him the opportunity to be apart of his grandchilds life and if he chooses not to be apart of your babies life he will be the one missing out. Stop worrying about your father your gonna need your mind clear and all the energy you have to be a good mother to your baby.

Oh well not exactly but I think you should wait till the baby actually comes. You can always call him up from the hospital and break the news to him. That way I am sure the very thought that he has become a grandfather will overwhelm him into accepting the situation gracefully and you will not have to face a tirade of uncomfortable questions. But all in all, relations are really important, so I don’t think you should leave it to the extended family to inform him first.

yes I sure do know where your coming from. I did not talk to my parents for over a year then got pregnant. We finally told them and things were much better after they knew they would become grandparents. It might take awhile to warm things but do not deprive your child of the grandparents and visa versa. You be the bigger person. If your dad is still behaving as he does just accept it. Be kind and loving toward him even if he is snarly. Your mom apparently is not bothered about it. She probably able to handle it herself I know sometimes my husband talks against me and I get him aside and we have a few heated words but work it out. It is hard but take the Christian approach Christ would have done and you put aside your greivence and forgive and let it go.

I personally think it would be a good idea for you to call him and tell him. I think he has the right to hear it from you, not someone else. After all it is his grandchild you are talking about. I would then leave it up to him if he wants to be involved with his grandchild. I don't think it would be right for you to deny your child a relationship with it's grandfather, but that is just my opinion. Even if you can't stand to be around him, think of your child here. Every child has the right to know their blood relatives and if your child grows up and finds out that you kept it from it's grandfather you may pay the price in the end. Your child may not be able to forgive you for this.