Have you ever fell for a friend?
By hotchi
@hotchi (21)
Hong Kong
February 12, 2008 11:48pm CST
Have you ever fell for a friend? Did you ever tell them? How did they reacted? Any plans of spilling it off? Do you believe that friendship is the best foundation of a relationship? I wanna know your story!
For me I think that it really depends on the situation. I am gay and I have this friend I had a BIG crush on but I never had the guts to tell him about it. Until one day I've decided to write a letter and tell him exactly what I feel. Then, to my surprise he wrote back saying that he feels the same but was just not ready to go into "such type" of relationship. But it's okay for me. Atleast I know that there's still a chance even just a little one.
Have a gret day y'all!
6 responses
@chrysz (1602)
• Philippines
13 Feb 08
Yup, I had a terrible cruch on my tutor who happened to be my friend too. I was able to tell him how I felt after a few months but after that, I tried to avoid him. I don't want him to patronize me just because I like him. I was able to get over him, after a few months...
Its true that friendship is a good foundation of a relationship but what if you have told your friend your darkest secret and you know his, too? It would be uncomfortable being together intimately after knowing all about each other. If you have loved the person despite all that had happened to him and all that he had done, then I could consider having a relationship with him.
@hotchi (21)
• Hong Kong
15 Feb 08
Thanks for sharing your story chrysz. I believe that what you had with your tutor[who happens to be your friend] is an infatuation. And you actually made a very good point when you said that you avoided him to avoid him from patronising you just because he knows that you like him. In contrary I don't agree with your perception of "friendship being a good foundation of a relationship". Loving someone means accepting that person's perfection and as well the imperfections. And I think you guys could be more intimate when you don't hide anything on each other's closet. But then again, it is your own perception of it. Thanks!
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@subha12 (18441)
• India
14 Feb 08
no it was not from my part. but it was from the part of the other friend. i did not had the slightest idea. we were good friends. he proposed me after he broke up from his GF. i declined as i knew it was rebound relationship.
but he was reluctant to admit saying he felt the same feelings when he met me first time. he could not tell it as he already had a GF.
but later i found out he was chaeting on me to take advantages,money etc from me.
@mauier113 (688)
• Philippines
13 Feb 08
yes, that was a long time ago... I had this a guy friend of mine who's always there at my side whenever I needed him. IF I got problems at home or at school. At night we always had this time to call each other on the phone sharing each others' story of the day. And we always find time to talk whatever little things or big happenings to both of us. We never forget to greet and to remind each other of our daily activities. until it came to a point when I misses him and always want to see and talk to him. And I could feel he feels the same way,too. But there's a big problem, he have to go away, to go to another country where his parents are. I choose not to spill out my feeling for him till he went away. I just cant stand the pain of losing him when we both know our feelings for each other. I rather keep it than to be hurt and hurt him...
@hotchi (21)
• Hong Kong
15 Feb 08
I was moved by your story. It's sad that you didn't get to tell him how you feel. But that's okay because I believe that the right time will come if it is really meant to be. And I am sure that by then both of you will be able to stand up for your feelings. Have a great day!
@onesiobhan (1327)
• Canada
13 Feb 08
I have two best friends. I love them both dearly. One was single, one was married. I told the single one I was interested in him. He was not interested in me. We are still best friends and we still love each other, but a relationship is never going to happen.
Then the married friend got divorced. It was a good clean divorce (he and his ex are still good friends) but he still took some time to get over the whole loss of the relationship. We spent a lot of time together as he worked out his feelings. And then one day he told me that he wanted us to be a couple.
We've been together for six years now. I can't imagine a partner I get along better with or have more in common with.
@bcote212 (1112)
• United States
13 Feb 08
Yup, I know exactly where you are coming from. Dont worry i figure what is meant to be will be. My partner actually started out as a friend. And I guess when you are friends with someone for a while you really get to know them better than if you just jumped into a relationship. We have been together for almost 6 years. Just give your crush some time. You never know what could happen. Just dont be too anxious, or let this change your friendship with him.
@kate0250 (314)
• Philippines
13 Feb 08
Yeah I did. It was a long time ago but I thought I could share it with you. Well, I have this friend for 8 years. Honestly I liked him a long time ago but I wouldn't want our friendship to be jeopardized. But later on I said, what the h*ck I just wanna be honest about how I felt and so I told him that without expectations. Unfortunately, he's seeing somebody and I said that "yeah I just wanted to be honest". We're still friends up to this day, thank God!
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