Whats your advice on this situation? Please help
By boyfriend2k4
@boyfriend2k4 (398)
Australia
February 13, 2008 9:51am CST
I live in Australia living with parents, i am not a national here. My girlfriend wants to come & live with me from UK (Its not an internet love thing, she use to live in Aus before). I also want it to happen. I am not on very good terms with my parents so there is 1% chance that they will allow her to live with me in our house. But all i need from my parents is there support for about 4months and after that we can be on my own & move out. Now the hard part is to convince my parents to let us stay coz the dont like the girl that much anyway. How would you convince your parents in this situation?
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5 responses
@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
13 Feb 08
Why don’t you just save up and in four month have her move? That would be the best thing. There would be no convincing needed. Four months is not that long of a time frame. I know it seems like a long time, but it really is not.
If your parents don't like her. You should talk to them about it. If you don't resolve the issues before she moves back, you will not have a good relationship with your parents. I have found that if parents don't like someone, it is usually for a good reason. You should seriously listen to what they have to say and reflect on it. I know many people who did not listen to their parents and live to regret that choice.
@boyfriend2k4 (398)
• Australia
13 Feb 08
I know whats my parents reason as they have told me before and its completely non sense. They say coz she is not the same nationality & culture. So i would never agree on something like that with my parents
@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
13 Feb 08
Then you should just wait until you can afford to have her move back. No reason to struggle when you do not have to.
@posham (1236)
• Philippines
14 Feb 08
i agree with sedel.. if you're hoping on spending a long time with your girlfriend then a good start will be a good foundation. show your parents that what you need is their blessing and not just their support. you don't want to end up with your parents saying "we told you so..". when in fact thet they breathing down your shoulders could be the very thing that will make you want to give up..
@itsmepinky (1300)
• India
14 Feb 08
well i would suggest u let her stay at her home for four months since it is not a long time , n when ur ready with ur new home , she can move in with u.
@marilynlynn (994)
• United States
13 Feb 08
Well,well,well......... I'm not exactly sure.
It sounds like they don't like her,so it's already bad from the get-go.Maybe alot of begging and pleading?! Four month's for people that don't like each other, is a long time. If they say NO, then I guess you have to respect that answer, remember, it's your parents home. Best of luck to you! :o)
@loudhummer14 (535)
• Philippines
14 Feb 08
that's a tough one. but if you're really that persuasive i'm sure you'll make a way. you ought to find yourself a nice job first. establish yourself first. and then after maybe you can decide. your parents can't do anything about it. besides, it's your life. but then again, don't be a rebellious kid. your parents might have reasons why they would disagree with your decision. it's hard to tell if they are going to support you. as for now, establish yourself first. show them that you are responsible enough to make critical decisions such as this one. once you've shown them that you're no ordinary kid or someone who just bums around -- maybe then they'll change their minds. or even if they don't change their minds, go about your plan. save up. so when your gf finally comes, you won't have a hard time moving out.
