Being snubbed.
By dlkuku
@dlkuku (1935)
United States
February 13, 2008 11:29am CST
The other day at work I said Hi to another women who works there and she rolled her eyes at me and walked away not even acknowledging me. And ever since she has been scowling at me and giving me dirty looks and I have no idea why.
I don't even know this woman that well, she works in a totally different department so we don't have daily contact. I have talked to her a few times in the lunch room but mostly just general how are you kind of conversations.
We don't share the same friends, and I can't recall ever saying anything to anybody about her or to her that she could be angry at me about.
I just shrugged it off as her having a bad day, so maybe that's all it was.
I guess it really doesn't matter anyway since I don't consider her a friend.
Has anyone ever snubbed you? How did you feel about it? I am not really upset, I was just wondering how others react to it.
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11 responses
@sacmom (14192)
• United States
13 Feb 08
Ooh, it sounds like you found my sister! :P LOL She is, or at least was, the type of person that did exactly this. I remember back in high school when she was a junior and I was a freshman, a couple of my friends didn't believe me that my sister snubbed people some people, and for no reason at all. That is, until they said hi to her one day while they were walking past her in school. My sister did exactly what your co-worker did and my friends saw for themselves what a b*tch she was. LOL
I don't keep in contact with my sister, though this is her choice not mine. If she wants to snub me, fine. I never had a problem with it when we were growing up and I certainly don't have a problem with it now. :)
Try not to let this get to you. There are some rude people out there and it looks like you met one! LOL
@sacmom (14192)
• United States
14 Feb 08
Oh my, it must be someone else. LOL The last I've known my sister took care in her appearance. :P
The same goes for me. It just isn't worth my time to try and be friends with someone that doesn't want to be friends with me.
@dlkuku (1935)
• United States
13 Feb 08
Well if your sister walks around with her looking like she just got out of bed and she put her makeup on with a trowel, then maybe it is. LOL
Actually, I am not worried about it. I have a personal policy that if someone wants to judge me without getting to know me, then they are not worthy of my friendship.
And really, she is not someone I want to be friends with anyway.
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@kbourgerie (8780)
• United States
13 Feb 08
I don't particularly remember being snubbed by anyone, at least no recently, but I do know that its very hurtful to feel that you have been treated in this manner. It makes you doubt yourself and wonder what could be wrong with you that the person is that unfriendly towards you. But I do think that sometimes, it is not a direct reflection of us, but rather the other person. No telling what may have been on their mind at the time that distracted them from being as friendly as usual.
@TAURUSGIRL (735)
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14 Feb 08
Hi I would say hi again the next time you see this woman and if you get the same reaction I would as if there was a problem that you wern't aware of maybe shes having a bad time like you say or there could be many other reasons for this, although you don't concider her a friend it would annoy me to think this person treated me like this unless there was a very good reason. I can't really say I have been snubbed there have been a few people who i have had crossed words with and we ignore eachother as a result of this but if as you say there isn't anything you can put your finer on for this reaction I wouldnt be happy intill I resolved the problem if there is one.tc
@subha12 (18441)
• India
14 Feb 08
i do not have exactly this type of sitaution. but i think you can just igniore her. do not stare at her. then she will not be making any sign at you as i guess. may be she for no reason do not like you and so makes this faces when she looks at you. ignore her.
@Angelwhispers (8978)
• United States
13 Feb 08
You know what Dlkuku If I were you and it happens again, I think I would have to stop and ask her if she had a problem with me, and if I had done anything to offend her. That is really irritating, not to mention just rude. Now there is a possibility that she is unaware of how she is coming across, but most of the time people know fully well the impact they are having. Yes I have had occasion to run across these kind of people, in each instance it was a woman in fact, men just do not treat women with disdain like that in the work place. I always after a while if I did not know the problem I asked.
@BlackBay (584)
• Canada
13 Feb 08
The way i look at is "Her Loss"! When someone says Hello to me it is repectful and Polite to acknowledge them with a response back even if I don't know them or I'm in a bad mood whatever, they took the time to say or do something nice to me. People like this woman who are unhappy with their lives, work, etc. feel that being rude to others makes them feel Superior. I say her Loss..she could have made a new friend or aquaintence in you but she choose to stay miserable...sucks to be her,LOL!
@wisedragon (2325)
• Philippines
14 Feb 08
Yes I have experienced being snubbed. I guess there are people who are really like that. They are eternally "in a bad mood". I don't really lose anything because if they don't want to be friends with me then I don't want to be friends with them either.
@sid556 (30959)
• United States
14 Feb 08
I'm sure I have known people like that lady but I don't remember them. It isn't worth holding on to such things. It could be anything from a misunderstanding to her just having a bad day. Since you guys are not friends and don't really have mutual friends, it is best to just let it go. even if she just plain doesn't like you....who cares? whats the loss? I'd just ignore it and when you do run into her, make sure that you yourself are civil and cordial.
@ersmommy1 (12588)
• United States
14 Feb 08
I am sure I have been snubbed. Cannot recall a specific instance right now. But I am sure I have. Alot of people have been. My philosophy is simple. Be kind. Meet all the obstacles with kindness. Then you will at least feel you did your best. Life is too short to worry about it. Especially if they won't tell you what the problem is. Then it is on them. Their loss. Who knows my smile or hello may end up turning the tide in their bad day.
@butterflygrl76 (205)
• United States
14 Feb 08
I have had that happen to me alot. When I was in school or at work. I'm trying to be nice and I get snubbed, mostly by women. I don't know what their issue was with me, but oh well, what can you do? I try not to let it get to me. The one thing that really gets me is when they walk around with their nose in the air, like they're God's gift to the world. That's just not right. Women! We don't even understand each other. :)
@Artfulladyfaye2 (5)
• United States
14 Feb 08
Well,I guess I'm a glutton for punishment because even though we arent friends I really would like to know why she had such a negative attitude toward me.
I would approach her and ask her what had I done to her for her to act the way she did toward me. Then if she didn't come up with a good anewer I would just act as though she wasn't there. All you can do is be your self and if someone has a problem that, they will get over it.
