Life and Death- Teen abortions
By Deblwest
@Deblwest (98)
United States
February 13, 2008 3:41pm CST
I have a 17 year old son who is in love. He and his girlfriend found out she was pregnant just last november. It was such a time for everyone. They actually handled it quite well. They sat with me and we discussed options and were very supportive in her decision either way. I am against abortion, but it is her body and her choice. She and he decided to keep the baby. A few weeks later she finally told her mom and dad (it took her a while to get the courage). Her mom right a way decided her daughter would be getting an abortion; no choice. She didn't know what to do, but wanted to please her parents and they convinced her that she should not have the baby because she would have to ask for help financially, medically and emotionally and she should wait until she is older. A few weeks later at 12 weeks of pregnancy she had the abortion. My son and I cried together; he felt a great loss and had no control of the decision made. Wondering other thoughts on this...
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9 responses
@shannon76 (1232)
• United States
13 Feb 08
That's awful. What parent could actually do that to their child????
@Deblwest (98)
• United States
13 Feb 08
I agree. She cried alot while going through the whole process of appointments. I offered her my support; but behind close doors I cried so hard I couldn't breath. She not only got rid of a part of her but a part of my son too. The good news is my son is still by her side and they are way more careful and I do everything I can to protect them; I dont want it to happen again .
@shannon76 (1232)
• United States
14 Feb 08
And as well she got rid of your future grandchild so it was a part of you too. You are a very strong and loving woman to stand by with her while going through that.
@ShardAerliss (1488)
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13 Feb 08
Total respect to you for allowing her to make the decision herself and giving such support.
As for forcing her through an abortion: I don't understand how a woman could do that to another woman, especially her own daughter. That's disgusting.
The clinic should have been more supportive of the girls decision. There are supposed to be questions asked... but, oh, wait; she's a minor... of course she has no right over her own body. Bah.
My heart goes out to you, your son and his girlfriend and I hope she (and your son) can get over what must have been a terrible ordeal.
@Deblwest (98)
• United States
13 Feb 08
Her mom had an abortion when she was very young and advised her that it would be just fine. My son went with her to all of her appointments and he did try to talk her out of it, but finally gave up to avoid fighting or tears. My son has the biggest heart and it was very hard for him to not have a choice or an opinion. Thank you for your response.
@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
15 Feb 08
Ya know as much as I have issues wiht kids having kids...I think the gf's parents handled it terribly...IMO what SHOULD HAVE happened was both families sit down TOGETHER and work TOGETHER on the most suitable decision....I think that the parents not contacting you and yours in regards to it all is just B.S in all honesty....I know I sure as hell would if my daughter got preg at that age! I'd WANT to have a double family meeting to get to the bottom of ALL OF IT since its more than just about an abortion or her being pregnant ya know...
I can imagine your son feels quite upset BUT I have to say, please DON'T FORGET that this girl was just FORCED basically by her parents to give up their child....thats got to be just killing her....
@GloomCookieLex (6073)
• United States
17 Feb 08
Forced abortions are just as bad as forced gestations. Childbearing is the woman's choice, no matter what. Albeit she really is too young to be having a baby, but it's still her body and it should have been her choice.
@david2005 (798)
• Canada
16 Feb 08
That was a chose that she had to make and I think that her parents should not have forced her to have an abortion.
@jonatechme (104)
• Kenya
23 Feb 08
I'm so sorry for you guys. It is awful! That was the worst thing her parents forced her to do.
@cripfemme (7698)
• United States
13 Feb 08
Oh my God, poor you, poor girl, and your poor son! I'm very pro-choice and see that this girl had none; her parents took control of her choice and I don't think that's appropriate at all.
@eden32 (3973)
• United States
15 Feb 08
I am pro-choice, but this isn't an example of 'choice'. The young woman should have had her choices respected. That's not to say her parents have to support her or her child, but they should have allowed her to make her own decision. The only thing I can offer, is that if she's not ready to stand-up to her parents, perhaps she really wasn't ready to be a parent.
@cutewitch (55)
• Indonesia
13 Feb 08
that's awfuL!!
how can her parents want her to do the abortion??
how can people that have a daughter think about that?
don't you think that it's a murder?kill an innocent baby..
i just cant understand..that's mean..
