Do you know anyone who sends themself a Valentines Day card?
By ctrymuziklvr
@ctrymuziklvr (11057)
United States
February 14, 2008 7:31am CST
I just heard in the news that 8 million people send themselves Valentines Day Cards. I guess it doesn't take much to make some people happy does it? I don't see the point in it since you know it's not from someone wishing you a Happy Valentines Day! Not to mention the cost of the card and the stamp.
Why would anyone send themselves any kind of card? I don't get it do you?
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15 responses
@crazynurse (7482)
• United States
14 Feb 08
While I guess it might seem a bit odd at first, after giving it some thought I decided that it may be a really good sign! I have worked with many a psychologist that have said repeatedly that one must first love themselves before being able to truly love someone else. To send oneself a card indicates that one is thinking of themselves and truly appreciates their self-worth. Another reason that one may send themselves a card would be to celebrate and remember how someone in their past used to send them cards. (perhaps a recently deceased loved one) Whatever the reason, sending oneself a card is fulfilling a need and it is important that the person get their needs met. If it take sending a card to themselves then no harm done! Good discussion!
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@ctrymuziklvr (11057)
• United States
14 Feb 08
I did think about the psychological end of it and after awhile I decided that it is a good thing to do. I know I'm missing the card I am missing from my Mom.
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@byfaithonly (10698)
• United States
14 Feb 08
I have never done this myself but have known a few who have - all someone trying to make someone else jealous :(
I do buy myself a Valentine gift though - every year, that way I'm sure to get something. Got myself a bag of chocolate covered peanuts last night and ate the whole bag myself - last night :( guess I'll have to go get something else today :)
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@crazed_moma (1054)
• United States
14 Feb 08
lol I bought myself some long stemed strawberries last night but my five year old ate them!
@slickcut (8141)
• United States
14 Feb 08
I do not get it either.I supposs it's just a desperate act to have someone to wish you Happy Valentines Day, even if it comes from yourself....You just never know what runs through a persons mind...I supposs if you are buying it for yourself the cost of the card and stamp makes no difference,since that person sending them self a card wants the best for themself........
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@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
14 Feb 08
LOL I had not realised that many people do that. I don't because my hubby and I don't celebrate valentines.
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@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
14 Feb 08
I've found that people will do all sorts of things, ctry, simply for the idea of making themselves feel better. It's no big step, when you think about it, from buying yourself a special gift. I do this occasionally, like for a birthday or an important holiday. The fact that it comes from yourself should not make it any less cherished or appreciated.
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@writersedge (22563)
• United States
14 Feb 08
That would confuse the heck out of my mail man or mail woman in this case. I'd have to go to the post office and mail it.
I have a mailbox inside my house to keep track of mail, I could just put it in there for the next day and open it, saves on postage.
Maybe it's the thrill of opening the card. Maybe it's the ritual of doing it. I don't know. If it makes them happy, then cool!
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@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
15 Feb 08
I had no idea this occurred. I think it is incredibly sad.
I imagine these people send themselves valentines cards because they have no one in their life to send them one.
@subha12 (18441)
• India
15 Feb 08
i do not know anyone who send themselves valentine's day card.But from your discussion it seems its quite possible. some people are like this. they want to get warmth in that. but what is the point, when you know its you only who have sent this?
i also do not get the feelings.
@wisedragon (2325)
• Philippines
15 Feb 08
Really, 8 million? I don't know anyone who does. And for those who do, I think that's a serious case of loneliness! They better start looking on the Internet for someone to have a relationship with!
@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
14 Feb 08
Well actually my two kitties must be very smart and must have snuck out during the night and went to the 24 hour Walgreens and got me two Valentine's Day cards for me and signed them...LOL...Oh, well...yup I actually do get cards for myself, but I don't send them, just write in them...and yes, though,my two kitties did sign it....okay I admit it ...I'm daft...LOL
I did get ecards from many of my friends here at MyLot though, but was kind of ticked off that two of my friends that I know in my "real" life didn't send me cards..sniffle, sniffle..especially since I did send them cards.
@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
14 Feb 08
Oh as to an answer of just why? I started that tradition of getting Valentine's Day cards for myself some years ago...why shouldn't someone say they love themselves by getting cards for themselves? I also got two boxes of chocolates for myself and a box of gourmet style cookies to indulge on.
@lexus54 (3572)
• Singapore
15 Feb 08
I don't know any reason why someone would send himself or herself a Valentine's Day card, other than to experience that good feeling when one receives a card in the mail. It reminds me of Mr Bean in one of his episodes where he wrote a card to himself, then went out of his apartment door and dropped the card back into the mail slot of his apartment, and pretended that he had received a greeting card from someone. I think it was a Christmas or New Year card. These 8 million people don't have to do that actually. All they needed to do was to reach me, and I would gladly make a personal card for them and send it to them via the internet, like what I did for myLotters here (and they didn't even ask me; I just did it on my own) on Valentine's Day http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/1405098.aspx.
@dolce_vita78 (8062)
• Philippines
15 Feb 08
Well, I know someone who doesn't only send herself a Valentines Day card. She also sends herself flowers and chocolates and other gifts on Valentines Day. You could just imagine how much she spends just to do that. How did I know that what she receives came from her? Well, one time, I think about 3 years ago, there was a delivery for her but she was not in the office that time. It so happened that I was the one the delivery guy talked to and asked where this certain Mrs. ____ was. I told him that she had class and won't be in the office in the next 30 minutes. He asked me if I could take the delivery and sign the slip. I did. When I read the slip, it was her signature that I saw in the sender's signature. I just smiled and signed the slip anyway. I left the bouquet of flowers and a card on her desk. When she came in, I was not in the office but when I entered the office, I overheard her telling our co-teachers that the "gift" was from her husband. I was surprised but of course I did not mention anything to anyone. Last year, it happened again. This time, she was in the office. We were about four in the office that time. When the delivery boy arrived, he approached her immediately and said: "Ma'am here are the flowers and chocolates you have ordered". I and my other colleagues just looked at each other and pretended not to hear what the delivery boy just said. After a while, other teachers came in and praised how beautiful the flowers are and she said, "My husband sent me these."Oh well! Why she does it? I don't really know..
@maabyy (34)
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15 Feb 08
Personally I do not see any reason to do this at all. And now I built up tension and suspense because it looks like im about to go all "however I can see a reason why someone would do this", but well no im not, cuz I can't see any reason. None at all. I find it really weird and its something I would never do.
@rain1337 (8)
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15 Feb 08
Some people do this to attract attention to themselves. It's like saying that they are not alone particularly on Valentines Day.
Another way to think of it is to add 'value' to themselves. Imagine if you see someone being sent with lots of cards or gifts in Valentines Day. You might think that they are really special. Because of this, you might have an interest to that person and might even think on dating her.
@crazed_moma (1054)
• United States
14 Feb 08
lol my son wrote himself a valentine but he's only in the second grade. :) I was joking with a guy at work today that I forgot to send my self flowers when the florist was trying to find the right office to deliver his flowers to.