Would you let your spouse/ SO donate sperm??
@luvingmygirls (493)
United States
6 responses
@ShardAerliss (1488)
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15 Feb 08
I really could not stop him, but I would air my views loudly and muchly.
I do not agree with IVF; I do not agree with producing more children when there are thousands out there that need loving homes.
However, my partner thinks that he should pass on his genetic code because he has genetic qualities he believes the next generation should posses. I agree with him, but... I cannot abide the fact that people would rather produce more hungry mouths (at a cost of thousands per live birth) than feed one that already exists.
So, if my partner decided to donate sperm I would not stop him... but I'd damn well let him know how I felt about it.
@luvingmygirls (493)
• United States
15 Feb 08
So you believe that people who cannot have biological children should adopt?
I believe that there are alot of people who share this belief. Thanks for your views!
@luvingmygirls (493)
• United States
15 Feb 08
So you believe that people who cannot have biological children should adopt?
I believe that there are alot of people who share this belief. Thanks for your views!
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@ShardAerliss (1488)
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15 Feb 08
Completely; surely giving a lost child that is not of your blood a loving home is one of the greatest charitable things you can do?
@vulgarlittleprincess (919)
• Canada
15 Feb 08
No i would not let my significant other donate sperm. I do not think that I would like the idea of my boyfriend or husband having a child with someone else. even if intercouse is not involved. i dont think id be able to know there was a child out there with ym husbands eyes and nose and ears. id be jealous of the woman who carried and birthed the child.
@Angelwhispers (8978)
• United States
14 Feb 08
Its not a matter of would I, he has. My husband is 8 years older than I and in the 70's it was quite common for struggling college students to donate. They actually paid $40.00 a donation. So you can imagine the amount of young men that would turn to donation as a form of supplementing their income when things were tight.
It does not bother me in the least that he did, and might have biological children in the world. If his were sperm were choosen I feel like he did someone a great service.
He would never think of doing so now at our age. But I think its kinda cool that he did.
LMAO BTW he has donated gallons of blood as well.
@luvingmygirls (493)
• United States
15 Feb 08
I didn't know about the college guys doing it for money. Sounds interesting. Funny about donating blood. My hubby has done that plenty of times.
@violeta_va (4831)
• Australia
14 Feb 08
I think I would let him if I knew the people really needed it as long as he donates in a cup not direcly if you know what I want to say :))). I have even considered donating eggs but I want to be done having my kids first for some reason. I know how much my son means to me and how much a child can change a person and brings so much joy and happines why not help someone have the same joy as me.
@luvingmygirls (493)
• United States
15 Feb 08
Your comments are almost exactly where I was coming from. I am done having my children though. I discussed donating eggs with my husband and I just don't think I could do it. I would wonder about my child that really "wasn't mine" ya know. Plus there is alot of physical stuff that goes with that. But I love my girls soooo much and I remember how it felt when the doctors told me that I probably couldn't have a successful pregnancy after 2 etopics. I feel like everyone who wants a child to love should have them. Hubby said that it would be easier for him to donate than it would be for me and that would be "our gift". But I think it would still wonder about my husbands Absent child.
@ladyslew (91)
• United States
14 Feb 08
In this day and age of advanced genetic testing any children from a sperm or egg donation will probably be able to find their genetic parent eventually. Will they be able to claim child support? What if they need a bone marrow transplant, or a kidney? Is the person donating willing to take on these potential responsibilities? There's a lot to think about here.
@Angelwhispers (8978)
• United States
14 Feb 08
I agree LadySlew. When my husband and his college friends were doing this, the chances of ever finding the children that the donation had conceived were slight to none. Now there is a whole new set of concerns and possibilities. So much more to think about should you want to contribute in this way.
@wormzydaizy (202)
• Philippines
14 Feb 08
Absolutely not! my significant other's seeds are mine alone! lol! Donating his seeds to other person is like letting him create another family where you do not have any participation at all. Its like hitting your head with a brick of stone! No, no. no.
@luvingmygirls (493)
• United States
15 Feb 08
I like the brick hitting comparision. Thanks for your thoughts.
