child's emotional problem

That is a sad situation. I am thankful he has a wonderful step father. It is only natural for them at some age to want to connect with biological parent. I would suggest possibly trying to find the father without mentioning it to your son and see where he is and what state of mind he is in at this point in his life. If it seems appropriate they can meet then you probably should allow it. Otherwise I think your son may resent you in the long run for it. Even though it is the fathers fault for not making contact. Either way I wish you and your son the best!

you are between a rock and a hard spot,and you have my understanding as my granddaughter is going through the exact same thing. Her father has never been interested in her life but at school they are studying the family and of course parents come into play some of the children do have a step dad or know where their real dad is but not her and now she is angry, Her mom told her the truth when she asked where is my daddy, the answer was your daddy was not ready to be a daddy and not interested in being anyones daddy, she is still angry and wants to confront him as most small children she feels responsible for him not being there. We tell her she is a wonderful little girl and so very valuable to us but it isn't the same because one important person in her mind is absent. We have no answers and even if we made arrangements for her to see her father he would lie and tell her all sorts of things but he sure in the heck is not going to say yes I told you mom to have an abortion and she didn't so tough to go.

Your son is having lots of trouble in school at this time, and he's probably believing that it's because there's something missing from his life and he figures it must be his "real" father. One of my godchildren who was having problems had the idea in her head that it was because she was taken away from her "real" mother when she was five. Her dad and stepmom were ready to do anything to try to help her, and they had been in touch with her mom and stepdad who seemed to be upstanding citizens and were glad to offer Wendy a room in their home with her own TV and other things a teenage girl would enjoy. So, it seemed like a win-win situation--and it was at first. Then, the stepdad started forcing himself on her sexually. Wendy realized what she had been rescued from back when she was five. At that time, her mom was partying with men and hooking--and she had an older daughter (eleven, if I recall) that she was throwing in to hook with interested customers. Had she been Kitty's age, the same thing would have happened to her. As it was, she and her slightly older brother were getting neglected. But she had this romanticized picture of what she had been taken from--and it turned out not to be what she'd imagined.

First of all I will congratulate you for being strong in raising your son without his real father. I think the reason why your son is like that probably he needs more attention coming from his step father not to the extent of spoiling him of what he wants. They need to bond, probably go out camping or fishing. He is seeking for strong security from a father figure.