Friend's Request
By gr8life
@gr8life (6251)
Malaysia
February 14, 2008 11:21pm CST
Hi All!
I have one pending request from a member here. I think it is almost a month and I still don't know whether to approve or deny it. As of today, I always approve whoever wants to be on my list. I don't even check their profile. But, for this one particular person, I have been thinking hard whether to accept or not. He/She responded to one of my discussions and was quite 'sarcastic'(at least to me). I checked the profile and realized that he/she is just a teenager (if he/she tells the truth about the age) Maybe it is her/his way of communication but I still cannot believe and feel hard to accept that kind of response. My heart is telling me to accept his/her request rather than deny it but I am not sure whether I should do that or not. Friends, help me to decide! Thanks!
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16 responses
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
15 Feb 08
I wouldn't do it if they are rude to you. I accepted a new friend request here recently and they sent me a bunch of rude private messages and they harrassment me a bunch of times. I deleted their friendship after that but they still continued to contact me. I would go with your gut feeling on this.
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@gr8life (6251)
• Malaysia
18 Feb 08
Hello stephcjh,
Thanks for your opinion. I understand how frustrated and angry you could be if they keep harassing you with rude messages. At this very moment, I seldom get a friend request - once a while, maybe. According to the profile, this boy ( I think it's 'He') is a teenager and he isn't active here. His words sound more like a hip hop boy to me. Yes, he was a bit sarcastic with his words. Maybe I should give him a chance and decide later whether he should be deleted from my list.
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@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
18 Feb 08
Your welcome. I had made a discussion and requested new friends because alot of my old ones have left or disowned me since I was away. this person accepted or asked me and I gladly accepted. They seemed to be nice and polite until they started sending me private messages. It is up to you whether you want to give this person a try. I wish you the best with it. I have only met one rude person here so far that harrassed me.
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@aseretdd (13730)
• Philippines
15 Feb 08
Well if she is still active...i think by now she should have gotten the idea that you have misgivings in accepting the invitation... but if she is now inactive... then there is no problem for you to deny the invitation...
But in my case... i will still accept the invite... but the minute he/she posts a rude response... i will definitely remove him/her from my list...
@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
16 Feb 08
hi gr8life! ^__^
so what did you do? if her response is really bothering you, then don't accept her friend request. we are free to accept and deny any friend request we receive. if you feel like that that person would be throwing you responses that you won't liked, then i guess there's a reason for not denying her request.
and then, i have heard cases that some people added someone so they can post offending comments and send offending messages to that person. we don't know the intention of that person for adding you but its not wrong to avoid misunderstandings and word clashes right? ^__^ good luck!
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
16 Feb 08
Having a pending friends request for a month is a long time to decide on whether to accept them or not. I would of declined it by now especially if you are having doubts. I use to accept everyone but not anymore. Majority of them end up being inactive within a few months.
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@musicman6 (2407)
• United States
15 Feb 08
No, don't accept it!
My philosophy is, I have few friends, but the friends I do have are good ones!
So go figure!
Sometimes you have to do what yu gotta do!!
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@acdc0805 (979)
• United States
10 Jun 08
Thing with accepting a friend, is that you are allowing them to contact you. The wonderful thing about facebook is that you can block certain people to not be allowed to view certain parts of your profile. Been a great help to me!!! You can also block people that are rude in messages or what not. Someone can still send messages to you on facebook even if they are not your friend.
So I think that if you want another boost in yoru friend count, to go ahead and add this person, otherwise hit ignore, or let it run out. You can set up limited profile viewings for people...Its an AWESOME feature and I'm so glad that they put it in! I'm sure by now you've already gotten rid of this friend request, but maybe other people don't know these things. LOL
@Sir_bobby88 (8231)
• Singapore
20 Mar 08
Seriously it will be your choice yea , for me i will accept it after all it is better to have one more friend than have one more enemy yea.
@simplyman2006 (1706)
• India
9 Mar 08
well i think if that teenager is harsh on u then u should not accept but if not then u should accept. well one major ting is that u should try to know about that person more and then take decision.
@wondericequeen (7876)
• Hong Kong
15 Feb 08
*laughs* I think I will leave them in the "pending mode" forever. If I don't WANT to approve some people, I wouldn't do it. But I wouldn't deny them either, not sure why about this part (I guess I believe that denying someone without "good" reasons is a mean thing to do). It's a free community and it's definitely your choice. If you don't think that you would have a "good" relationship with the person, why bother? *winks*
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@gr8life (6251)
• Malaysia
10 Jun 08
Hello wondericequeen,
I think he is just a teenager. I checked his profile and maybe he is just a hip hop teenager. That's the way of how he interacts with others but unfortunately I took it a little bit serious. I did accept it but it was too late. He rejected me I guess!
@christineli (525)
• Philippines
10 Mar 08
Hello gr8life :)
I think you should give him/her a chance. Who knows, he/she might become your good friend in the future. The way he/she responded to your previous post in not an absolute indication that he/she is a b_tch. If he/she proved to be such after sometime, you can ditch the person from your friends' list anytime. All of us gets gets a chance to meet someone rude. But that someone, in the end, can turn out to be our best-buddy or just someone who just passed along and challenged our character. I say, give him/her a chance. He/she might turn out to be a "gem" as far as friendship is concerned (I hope the positive, for you). Best of luck :)
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@Adoniah (7513)
• United States
15 Feb 08
Accept the request for now, and if at a later date you find the person to be unacceptable, you can always delete them. There is no sense leaving them hanging all this time wondering why they are in limbo.
Don't you remember what it was like when you were a teenager? Sarcastic one day an sweet as pie the next. Hormones dear, remember them? I have several teenagers in my friends list and I kind of enjoy them. It reminds me of how glad I am that my kids are grown and flown from the coup.lol
Shalom~Adoniah
@aryajayaprakash (1643)
• Japan
26 Jul 08
Forgive him/her for the fault he/she may not be responsible but the immaturity. You are an adult like me. We grown up people should keep our patience to the responses of any kind. Otherwise what makes us different from them if we also react the same way as immature people do. So I recommend you forgive that person.
@maxsee212 (799)
• United States
16 Feb 08
until now, i don't see the benifit of being friends with someone in mylot. would making a friend give you a higher rating? or would mylot give you money for how many friends you make? can somebody explain to me the reason behind why would people do and don't approve friend requests?
