im more aggresive than my partner

I am so sorry. I am sure that it's not his intention to make you feel ugly. Have you talked to him about it? I hope that things begin to change in this problem because I know it's got to be kind of frustrating for you.

I know you don't like to discuss it, but the only thing you can do about it is talk to him. Explain that you'd like to make love more often, and when you're in the mood and he's not, it makes you feel unattractive and unwanted.

Dont leave it just to him, comeon! That is a business that must not just be left to the men-you have stake in this, be chicky, dress sturbbon and touch this guy where he cant help but ask for more-show him what you have and let him know the goods are all his-which kind of a man will resist the bait? But if you keep quite and wait for him to call you over to his bed, am affraid even the two episodes a month will come down to one and finally to perhaps 2 in 6 months! Take charge and get you full daily share of your man's goodies!

Have you tried initiating the act or holding a romantic activity to prepare your partner into love making? Don't feel ugly or think that you are a lesser person just because you don't do it often. Your husband might just not be the type you wants to do it often. Don't ever equate the frequency of lovemaking to how beautiful your partner perceive you as you are. You are beautiful and desirable, its just that some people don't really know how to let you know and so I suggest that you talk to your husband about it.

wow! that's odd.. coz usually the guy is the one who's aggresive... or maybe im just stereotyping. well like what i always tell to most gents -- maybe your mate is having problems that you two needs to talk about. it's really hard to think about romance when something has been bothering you. try to talk to your mate and see things his way -- and at the same time, try to let him see things your way.