How we view beautiful
By JKostura
@JKostura (107)
United States
February 15, 2008 2:28pm CST
This is something that has been frustrating me since I was in highschool and has gotten worse as my teenage neice is approaching 18. We, being society, put women celebrities on a pedastel by how skinny they are, they're bra size, the size of their waste, backside, how nice their lips, nose etc are. We have magazines and videos they show naked women who, might I add, have more then likely been airbrushed. We support shows and movies on tv that can basically show a whole "love" scene. Then, after all of this, we wonder why normal, everday teenage girls are starving themselves or wearing outfits that leave nothing left to the imagination? Or even being intimate WAAAAAAAY to young. We have young guys thinking its cool to call girls names and to have a so called relationship built on lust instead of feelings. Guys telling girls they need to change things about their bodies bc they dont look like that picture perfect pinup. WHAT IS UP W/ OUR SOCIETY?! We blame media when unfortunately its bc of us that the media shows the things they do! It all basically starts at home..what we teach our kids. This is so scary to me considering I have a 13mo son. I want him to grow up learning respect and compassion. I just feel that our society, our generation, will never get better until we realize certain things SHOULD make us blush..they SHOULD be left to the imagination. And the fact that everyone was made differently. There shouldnt be one perfect view of how a woman should look. Now, I'm not saying going back to women only wearing long skirts and such but you get the point. Why don't we bring things back to being a little more family oriented? What do you think?
4 responses
@adnanezzi (243)
• India
16 Feb 08
i firmly believe that the beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder. the problem with todays society esp the ladies they try to seek attention upon themselves sometimes crossing the limits,they forget while aping the models in tv or films that they are compromising thier dignity for the sake of attention
@JKostura (107)
• United States
16 Feb 08
True..beauty does lie in the eyes of the beholder, but when society is forcing a certain image a woman should have, what is the average woman supposed to do? I agree that sometimes women, especially young teenage girls don't realize they are compromising their dignity when dressing so revealing. But it's the fact that they feel they NEED to dress a certain way, in order to fit in. Fitting in, no matter how hard we try to stress the fact that individuality is a beautiful thing, will always be what girls and young guys for that matter try to attain. So until we change society's view of what is considered "acceptable" or "beautiful" I feel we're only going to continue to get worse.
@p1kef1sh (45681)
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15 Feb 08
Your question is a very difficult on to answer. I agree completely that society, especially western society seems to have lost hold on the basic standards that we once cherished. I was always taught to stand up when a lady came into the room. Hold the door for her. Compliment but not patronise. But these days I find that a lot of women view being treated politely and courteously as something very offensive. Men and women both have qualities and we are designed differently for a purpose. People treat marriage as a throw away commodity. You see this frequently with so called celebrities. What example do they give if when they have an off day with their other half; they rush to the divorce lawyers. Teach and treat your son with respect. Let him know that he can do anything that he sets his heart on, but that just because others have different aspirations does not make them wrong, or right. Let him make and learn from his mistakes and I have no doubt you will have nurtured a true gentleman.
@JKostura (107)
• United States
15 Feb 08
I am definitly trying my best. I was blessed to grow up w/ a father who always treats my mother w/ respect..I can't say that I've always dated guys w/ the same qualities. I guess somehow there just needs to be boundries again..which seems impossible these days. Its funny bc I once opened a door for an elderly gentlemen(who I was already in front of so I just stayed a little longer, holding it open) and he angrily walked past me mummbling "I can still hold a door open for a lady"..and I was shocked! I didn't mean to offend him, I wouldve held the door open for anyone comming in after me LOL Thank you for your response! It's nice to know I'm not alone on this :)
@prettypinkbug (437)
• United States
3 Apr 08
This is truly sad, and you are right on the money. It is our fault as a society that our media has such an influence in our lives. We complain about it but still watch stupid, superficial shows and buy magazines with women that are air brushed. Young boys are getting the wrong idea and this is impacting many girls' self-esteem. They are so many beautiful young girls who believe they are ugly or fat b/c of this crap out there. I can say that I have on many occaisions fallen victim to this false beauty myth. Women are all different and should not try to be something they aren't. There are far too many women who get cosmetic surgery and risk their health for false beauty. It's scary what some people will do to "fix" their imperfections.
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
5 Apr 08
Thats true and maybe this will stay and will even get worst! We still have hope as long as we have to be consistent in instilling values to our kids, let them grow up with a dignified standard and a consistent philiosophy in life..Its hard I know but once every parents will take part in doing this, It is very attainable..Watch them as they start having friends...not very strict also..
