random phone call!

You can talk to him and be friends. You may want to get your partner's blessing. Either way I would go into knowing that he wasted your time (and more) years ago, so it probably won't be any different now. Come to think of it, you may just want to blow him off.

i say! talk to him but let the past be past you have to ask your self that how do you feel for him deep down in your heart dear. but i guess there is no way that you could develop the same again. in my opinion it is better off that you go on with your current relationship

He sounds the rough and ready, selfish type to me. If he's been in jail for beating up his brother-in-law, I wouldn't trust him not to do the same to me, or my current lover, be they male or female. I would tell him you can't turn back the clock now, that you are happy with things the way they are, and there is no going back to a one-night farce. Let it lie, my friend. Fate has taken its hand. Brightest Blessings.

11 years?? Why would he wait 11 years to try to get in touch with you? I've never heard of it taking 11 years to try to get up the nerve to call someone. I'd just steer clear of him and be happy with the relationship you have. **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~

hey... you just keep the past as past... you just talk to him the whole thing and make him clear that how you were and how you are now... i feel like you should continue your relationship with your girlfriend ...

Hey there. As a guy I would say consider the following things: - are you curious ? I for one am a VERY curious person, and if I got such a call I would definetly want to find out what was going on. Even if I find out they are completely crazy bananas and make weird propositions, still, I must know, or it would bug me forever :D - was he ok, was he interesting ? was he an ok guy to have around in your life as a friend ? was he a good person that you'd feel good for helping ? - me personal oppinion: whatever you do, do NOT play head games with the guy, he might be having some difficulties and last thing he needs is having someone he (possibly) cares for, messing with his mind. Either tell him OK, let's have a coffee, or call and say look, in short I'd like to not get in contact again. my 2 cents. Peace :D

let the past remain the past.

this guy sounds like bad news. I would just let it go. You are in a relationship now and have moved on. I am sure a part of you is curious simply because he was your first but obviously he was a mistake. He sounds like a loser and I can't imagine he'd do anything but wreak trouble on your current relationship and you. Then he'd disapear again.

Leave it be, dont even open up that can. It expired long ago. Keep moving forward dont look back, its for your own good and maybe even your life. What do you know about him now? Dont go there, if you are happy in your life, why bother with him. He didnt care then I dont think he's changed his stripes now. But its up to you what you decide to do about it. Good luck what ever you decide.

i think you shopuld consult your partner first. it will be unfair and it may cause fights. for the better you can bring your partner with you if you talk to him so it would be fair and transparent to everybody. and besides do you have something left to say to the guy? do you really need to talk to him? don't you think it will just create a commotion?

I dont think theres any harm in talking to someone is there? I dont think i would be able to help myself, curiosity would definately get the better of me!! Mind you if he freaked out about you being in a relationship then it could be that he was looking for a bit more than just talking.

I think if you feel it in your heart that you got feelings for him then keep him close. You will no in your heart whether he is worth your time or not just go with your gut instincts