Virginity & Rape

yes, she is worthy of the best! I wish her to recover the soul from these painful minds and live sterling life!

She does want to recover. I don't think the therapy did much for her. All the years and still tormented. She said that her best help was just talking and the other person listening. I guess just venting. I think it will just take more time. She did tell me the other day that this was actually the first year that she didn't feel completely obsessed with it on the anniversary date. I did keep her busy. We took the kids shopping and out to eat. I tried to keep her mind off it. She said she thought of it for a brief second when she realized what the date was and that she realized that she has spent half of her life tormented. It happened when she was 14 and she just turned 28 in september. I can only be there for her and listen when she needs to vent. She is very protective of her daughter. She won't let her 5 year old spend the night at any of her friends house, except mine. She doesn't want anything like this to happen to her. She also said she read that 3 out of 4 people sexually abused will sexually abuse another person. She thought that was insane, why would anyone that has gone thru this want to put someone else thru it. All I can say is I am very proud of her. Thanks for the advice.

I do think it is a private matter that they should not be discussing like that. That is where I am confused, does it count if you don't have a choice and didn't want it? Everyone wants it to be special and rememberable.

I know I can't implore on my own biases about the matter but, seriously, why discuss something like that? Well, I guess you can talk among friends but, just among friends only. People should be considerate on how other people lost their innocence..