Maybe I was rude!

I don't think you were wrong at all. The chocolate hearts were something you did out of the kindness of your heart, and your co-worker should have respected that. I think she was rude, personally.

Were you rude? Not at all. Was the co-worker rude? Yes, for sure. Now if the co-worker had said they forgot to get something for thier child for Valentine's and could not afford anything and ask if you had any spare that she might could get from you that would be totally different ... but to just come up and ask for more of your candy?!?!?!

No you were not rude. Saying you planned to take the rest home was fine. How was she not to know you might have had people coming over later and you wanted to save the candy. If she got a piece, that was enough! I'm kind of outraged on your behalf. It's like when I had my 13th birthday party and a girl asked to take two pieces of my birthday cake home to her mom and brother. I was too shocked to reply so my mom just agreed to avoid a scene. Both her (13 is old enough to know better) and your co-worker were way out of line. Especially since your co-worker was an adult!

Feels like it depends on how much the thinks some more is. If she only wanted like one or two bits, then it may have been a little rude not to let her have them. If she like would ask to have like have the box, then she would be rude in doing so.

The reason your coworker seemed upset might be because your response was simply unexpected. Even YOU deem yourself the "one to bring treats for everyone to celebrate" on holidays. She expected you, as the generous person you are, to continue being generous. Her impression of who you are built the standards that she has for you. She herself was probably just as shocked as you were. I think its understandable that her request rubbed you the wrong way, after all, she should be grateful for that chocolate! 1. She could have asked, "Would you mind if I had another chocolate?", instead of stating her desires as facts you need to attend to. "I'd like more"2. You should be flattered that she enjoyed your gift! Imagine you've baked lasagne for a work party - those who come up for seconds are complimenting your work. She may have thought she was complimenting you - and to her, its as if you denied her that privilege. You both perceived the situation in your own way- you both acted in a manner you thought was right. Miscommunication happens all the time. Don't let it bug you too much!

I personally think SHE was wrong - but that is just my opinion

hmmnn..well maybe depending on the one who ask for it..its how she take you negative response...but if it happens to me then of course i will surely give her another one... no big deal..

I do not think you were rude really,but if it were me i would have handed her one more and told her thats it,i am taking the rest home to my family...

unless you had them out in a dish on your desk - her statement would appear rude to me... not asking really, but just informing. So, no was probably not expected since there was no question asked. I guess it could have been replied to differently... being told no often puts us on edge and may cause embarrassment. "I'd like more of your candy" (no please even?) oh, I am so glad that you enjoyed them. I wish I had purchased extras now, as it is I have just enough left to share with my family. I got them at such and such a place, maybe you can swing by there after work and pick some up?

no you were not rude.i think your co-worker was rude.we had a birthday cake for one of our girls,and we normally take the cake down to morning tea and celebrate.i was working in another part of the hospital,so the girls put a piece aside for me in the fridge.when i got back the cake was gone.some of the girls who had allready had some just scoffed it down.so in general i think there are some people who are downright rude,especially when they get something for nothing or a gift and it is rude to take more than your share.cheers sue

i dont thinki so but it depends on your action and the way you said no to your colleague she ought to know that it was just an act borne out of goodness to have given out the chcolate in the first place she should have been the one to give too

It takes strength to say no and you did and she didn't like it. You gave a gift to everyone freely and willingly from the heart for Valentines Day and were asked for me. It was your option to say no. If some people don't like being told no, tough. I used to I suppose be a people pleaser in a sense and say yes and agree to things even though sometimes I didn't want to. Learnt the hard way so now keep me happy first by saying no when I need to. Good for you! I hope you took them home and enjoyed. Ellie :D Ps: Are there any left, can I have one please LOL joking. Ellie

I think it was very nice of you to bring in chocolates for everyone. I also do not think you were rude by saying no to her. It was the way she asked you too, it sounded pretty rude, she could have asked you nicely if she could please have some more and thanked you for bringing them in.

That is really very cheeky of her! I live in England and we dont do anything like that here, or not that I know of anyway. I read another discussion where children take valentines cards into school for all their classmates and then get given one back and this is really intriguing me as I have never known it before, the only time that things like that are done here are christmas. So do you all do special things all the time on these sorts of occasions? I sometimes think I am missing out on a lot of fun!!

no i dont hink u were rude if you were already being very sharing and nice bringing them to work inthe first place but yet maybe you should of hid some for yourself adn then told her that were non left to avoid that confortation next time i suggest doing so but dont feel you were rude it was rude of her to even ask for more maybe she should of brought something to share to ya know take care blessings aLways

As a previous poster pointed out, I think so much can be misconstrued when we analyze by our 'gut reaction.' I'm sure my first thought might have been similar to yours. But after more careful consideration I might have thought that she was offering a compliment that my candy was good or something. Maybe it was her way of recognizing you for your generosity. Who knows. I really don't think I would be too upset and bang myself over the head about it too much!

No there are just some people that have to have more than their share. I believe it is very kind of you to bring in these little treats, but perhaps you giving has become an expected tradition and so others believe they can take all they want from you. on the next occasion I would with hold the treats and see if any one else brings something, because right now it sounds like you are the treat bringer, this is a small gift from you, now it is some one else's turn to bring.if you feel guilty donate the cost of the treat to a worthy cause and put a note on the bulletin board telling every one that you have donated to a cause because they need the treats more.

Shame on her, I would not have asked for more considering it was a nice gesture from you to give them out. You were not rude at all.

No, your not rude. She just have accepted the fact that the candies are equally distributed and if she wanted more she should have asked on where you bought the candies and not ask for more, ;D Maybe the reason she got upset is because you have said it sarcastically? Is it? Or she just really wanted to have the candies thus the upset feeling? haha

I don't think you were wrong, it was just a treat, if she wants more let her go out and buy some. by the way what did she bring.