am i to damaged for a relationship?
@bullrider95531 (4)
United States
February 17, 2008 12:38am CST
im a 28 yr old male. i have had a few relationships. the first was the only murually fulfilling one that i have had. it started my 18th birthday. Less than seven months later she and our son were dead. that was the only time we were together. I was isolated by a controlling, manipulating, and popular older brother. he was back-biting me litterally from the time i started learning how to walk. I was also acting out myself trying to escape. i have made lousy (for the most part) choices in friends, and have been betrayed. I also have had a history of offending people with out meaning to, or coming across drunk and/or idiotic morons who pick fights. i don't like to fight. Im tired of fighting, i have been fighting literally all my life. but i im not afraid of it. I guess to an extent im afraid to go in public because, i will run into one of them, and this time i will lose control and hurt an innocent, or friend.
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@jeanniesam (27)
• United States
23 Feb 08
First of all, I am sorry for your loss. And just so you know, everyone at some point in their life makes bad decisions. Some have greater consequences than others. The problem is, whether you learn from those mistakes or not. Seems to me that you need to let go of a lot of anger and learn to be a little more patient with people in general. Choose your friends wisely!!! I honestly believe that people need to stand up for themselves, but always remember to be tactful in the words you use. And if you don't like to fight...don't do it. Watching a grown man fight (over something insignificant) is not attractive to a woman. I am not afraid of fighting myself, but I don't do it because it accomplishes nothing! It will give you a bad rep, though. But as far as you being too damaged for a relationship...stop and think about what you want in life. You are not over the hill yet, but your on your way. Forgiveness is a simple word, but so hard to do. Start by apologizing to those you have hurt. You may get laughed at, or cursed at, or hugged, who knows. Try it. Then have a little patience and virtue. Quit fighting and be a man. And if you don't want people to think your are drunk or are an idiotic moron...don't act like that!!!
