Teach Me How to...
By etavasi
@etavasi (749)
Malaysia
February 17, 2008 7:18am CST
How can i be a good listener ? Sometimes i need to reply or give them some suggestion, but after listen to them ofcourse i need to reply but, i don't no how to reply. The bad things is when we always listen about they problem, we will falling in love with them, because we have to be good friends, always take care what they feel and they also will fall in love with you. I dont want this happen, what i need is became a good listener and friends with them.
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@baronarthur (4187)
• Indonesia
17 Feb 08
I had the same problem with you. Then I realized that I had to tell the consequences as the listener and problem solver. If you show that you don't want have a serious relationship with them, will they in love with you? And, will you always fall in love with all your friends?
Just be a listener and enjoy what you should enjoy it.
@etavasi (749)
• Malaysia
17 Feb 08
That true but sometimes i became scare because they will always looking for you. they will always come to you. Even with a small problem. If i was a girl, then if that guy was marrige,i am always be his good listener, his wive will kill me. That the bad thing
@baronarthur (4187)
• Indonesia
17 Feb 08
Just avoid the married guy. Or if he come to you, ask his wife with him too. If he doesn't want it, just avoid him.
@sophialin (2677)
• China
17 Feb 08
i'm really puzzled with what u said. have u been a good listener to your male friend? it seems that u act as a listener to female more often. to avoid the instance what u face, my suggestion is to be an adviser rather than savior. she should carry out herself.
@etavasi (749)
• Malaysia
17 Feb 08
Yes, sometime i feel sad also to my male friends. They always asking me not in directly, but i know it. They always start asking something like this "There is my friends bla-bla...". Thanks for your suggestion. I hope i can give some help, sometimes same things also will happen to us. :)
